/ a bridezilla over my hen do?

[doublequack]

We have had a thing booked for months - it was an amazing deal Hotel, bed, breakfast, lunch, dinner, 2 spa treatments and use of the facilities over 2 days for £100. I have a few friends and some family coming - i.e. all ages.

Today was the last day to make any cancellations. My friend broke her leg last week. I do sympathise with her as I realise it must really hurt. But hen do is in 3 weeks and she has cancelled. she cancelled by emailing me and my sister at the same time knowing that I am often not on email. Not so much as a text for a warning. She says she wont be able to get around so has no choice but to cancel.

I am left footing the bill for a single occupancy room now at late notice, so not cheap.

Her treatments are a facial and a back massage and dont invove her leg and my aunt who is coming with us has had a stroke so we wont be running around. She insists that she cant possibly come now.

Am I being unreasonable to be a bit p'd off?

P.S if she said she couldnt afford it or something, I would have been fine with it and have told her this.

Terrible apology. Terrible. Do try again.

A colleague at my work broke her leg last year. She still limps. My friend also broke her leg, 6 months before her wedding. It was touch and go whether she'd be able to dance at her own wedding. She is still in pain if she stands for long periods.

You act completely unreasonably and you put that sly dig in your apology about having to hear from your sister. When your sister was the one doing the booking so anyone would think that it would be important to tell her first.

You need to grovel. A lot.

"I bet she broke her leg on purpose just to get out of it."

You can see her point.

She was probably really worried about telling you and I'm not surprised, judging by the reaction and half baked apology.

I originally said to her that I was sad that she wasnt coming and that I didnt really understand as we woudnt be running around, but that I had never broken my leg so that was probably why.

What could make the appology better?

I think YABU to expect her to come but I think you are getting a hard time on this thread - she really ought to have canceled last week. It is very annoying when you are left with a bill to pay that could have been avoided.

I think you should think of the extra money as a bad friend tax

You could have said. Don't worry about it, let's do something else instead, bet you are disappointed but we will raise a glass to you. Lots of things. Anything that would make her feel better.
Hope you enjoy your weekend though.

electra- Knowing what I know now I would not expect her to come.

For starters, you could have left out the 'Well, I don't understand why not because we're not running around.' Then you wouldn't have needed the whole, 'but I don't understand because I haven't broken my leg.'

Duh.

Just a simple, 'I'm so sorry this happened to you. I understand why you can't be there. I hope you feel better very soon.'

how about I offer to take her for a "Local drink", with me driving her, the night before the actual wedding if she is up to it?

Dear Friend,

I'm sorry, I realised I acted unreasonably and I'm very sorry. I think I may have gone temporarily insane from wedding nerves, hope you'll forgive me. Of course you can't come to the hen do and I would not expect you to. We will miss you though. Maybe I can come round before the wedding and we can celebrate then? I can bring the food and drink.

Love n hugs

Doublequack

expat - that was not the appology That was my initial reaction to finding out she wasnt coming. Before all of this!!!

What muser said

Think I'd just suggest a drink whenever she felt ready.

She might be pretty upset by all this.

Nothing like breaking your leg to make you feel really, really depressed.

You might want to add a P.S. to check if there's anything you can do to make it easier for her at the wedding. Maybe leave a seat empty next to her so she can put her leg up if she needs, or ensure if there's a milling drinks reception at any point that there is always somewhere for her to sit.

How about-

"Sorry I over reacted and I am sorry you cant come to the hen, you will be missed!!! could I take you for something to eat/ drink when you are mobile again to make up for it? Also anything you need in mean time just shout?"

That would work. Perhaps follow it up with some flowers and/or large box of chocolates.

Muser - Reception should be ok in this respect as have other guests with mobility problems. but thanks

Nah, say what muser said. exactly.

Ah, but if you ask you show her that you are sympathetic and thinking of her. She's not going to know you're already thinking about that stuff. Butter her up.

Think she would batter me over the head with her crutches if I sent chocs!! She is careful with what she eats and will be even more so with being immobile. (see I can be thoughtful)

not read whole thread, but... jeez you are being more unreasonable than you can imagine.

A broken ankle isn't just a case of strap it up and get on with life you know...

If she doesn't keep her ankle up it will swell in minutes and cause her immense pain.

She will be in fear and dread of anyone or anythig even touching it.

She won't be able to sleep properly.

She won't be able to wash or get it wet.

Think of her as a very poorly lady and get over yourself!

Jeez.

Morrison's has Roses on offer just now if you're skint.

fair enough.