to feel uncomfortable about this.........

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My DD (v.v.nearly 8) has been to a number of sleepovers at her friend's house.
At these sleepovers they have had baths together, often following muddy/messy playtimes.
However, at the most recent sleepover they had a shower together, and what makes me feel uncomfortable is that her friends Dad was sat watching.
AIBU to feel uncomfortable by this?
Thank you.

Anenome The child did not say - 'we had a shower and x's Dad watched' She was asked what they had done, she mentioned they had a shower. She was then asked where the My parents were and she said 'Mum was out, Dad was sitting on the toilet seat watching us' - end of conversation.

PigletMania - why the hell should the mother not have gone out for the evening? Are single Dads able to 'host' sleepovers?

People keep saying the child was uncomfortable - there is nothing in this entire exchange that indicates the child was uncomfortable at all. There is also nothing
that indicates how long he was in the bathroom for, where the toilet is in regard to the shower, what else he was doing in the bathroom (reading the paper etc), nothing to say it's not what happens every shower time in the girls house. It's a lot of hysteria over a Dad keeping an eye on two 7 year old kids having a shower.

I haven't read it all but what Chip said - more peado hysteria

It is easy for those to say it is hysteria - though I don't see any true hysteria here, just concerned posters - who have had no experience of sexual abuse or inappropriate behaviour though not everyone who thinks this is wrong, would have.

Spikey - your post doesn't read as sarcastic at all and I am not sure sarcasm belongs on a thread like this where the OP is concerned.

Chipping it's just better if she stayed at home after all they are hosting the sleepover. Not saying the dad, a perv or pedophile at all, just put himself in a vulnerable position and error of judgement. It is right for kids to have privacy too and for it to be respectd

Well the post is there so report it if you want.

And yes the op said that her dd told her that the dad watchedthem, but that could have meant that he sat on the loo reading a book, or played about with the water with them like my dh does with dd

The thing is the OP feels uncomfortable. The child might not be able to express how she felt, if she did feel concerned in any way, and might not realise it isn't completely appropriate so that isn't really the deciding factor whether the mother should do anything about it.

I would much rather over react and protect my child than wait and see and it be too late.