The OFFICIAL buddy bench/naughty bench thread No. 3

[teaandcakeplease]

Come hither all those who haven't found their place on mumsnet, have scrapped in Aibu or crossed words in chat. The buddy bench shalt not judge.

The buddy bench will hand out wine and cakes, it will join you on your scoffathons getting pissed

All those who enter the Gazebo and sit on the bench, will have their sins erased and be given a warm welcome and cheerful chat from CheerfulYank, gomummy, tired mum, Elmo, AF, HE, Cheesey and far, far too many more to mention.

Welcome to the buddy bench, we look forward to meeting you all

Oh and don't forget, last one to leave polishes bench and locks up !

The hamper sounds really thoughtful Valium. And yes Elmo, definitely worth it, we have a couple of the digital frames, some are better quality than others. Unfortunately I don't have their photos digitally (or would need access to scan them).

Well I haven't read the thread yet but I confess Tea, that I'm one of the ones who has never left DS in the car to go pay for petrol or anything. He is with me for all errands, etc. as we have no type of child care...but I'm sure it is much easier for me as I only have one to contend with! I'm fully admitting to being totally PFB about it. :) I have this (likely totally irrational) fear of something happening to me in those five steps and him freezing in the car or something. I know I'm bad about it as now when we go out to do errands he sings "in and out, out and in, in and out, out and in...." :)

Thanks Tea & gomummy for your advice on my thread , really feeling upset today that ds didn't tell us & that he is trying to cope with all of this on his own . Tea sorry you were bullied , i was too & i know how it can affect you throughout your adult years .
Gomummy i would love it if ds hit back but he just won't .

Elmo I feel so :( for you and DS.

Fwiw, I'm not really suggesting you tell DS to just hit back, though. I'm suggesting martial arts training...it is so much more than just the self defense aspect. I saw first hand what it did for the self confidence of one boy in the last group I was involved in. I know that some don't agree, but I'll definitely have DS in it as soon as he's old enough.

Sending thoughts and prayers to you and your family, it must be so hard for you all. Wish I could help somehow... :(

Well we have spoken to ds & he says it wasn't him that was hurt coming down the Avenue from J He said J is calling him names & threatening him & he gets the odd kick from him sometimes but according to ds the mum who spoke to me this morning has got ds mixed up with some other child
Its a bit strange because she seemed very sure that it was ds that was hurt .
So looks like Ive been upset all morning over a mix up . I pity the poor child that was hurt though
I feel silly now for re-freshing the old thread but i really was upset & worried & tbh we are counting the weeks until ds leaves that school .
Thank you all for your kinds words xx

Don't feel silly at all Elmo, it must have been so distressing for you to think that he'd been through that and not told you.

Hello all! Newbie here! I take it we come here for a bit?!

Hi Purpleknittingmum

I'm new too, I did kind of jump on here as it seemed very general chatty - I hope I wasn't mistaken in thinking the same as you, although from the very friendly welcome I've received I think we've assumed correctly!

:)

Well it originally began as a place where if you'd been flamed in AIBU this was a safe place to come. But we love meeting new people, come on in

I would personally recommend you stay away from AIBU as a newbie, unless you like bunfights

I stay away from anything remotely scary! Cats, knitting and TV shows are likely to be where I post! :)

ah, thanks tea - I feel a bit now, thanks all for being so welcoming though lol!

:)

ps - AIBU is my main source of reading at the moment, I actually found myself thinking I would post the following after today's dire events:

AIBU to beat the ice out of my freezer, instead of the idiot man in my life?

Long, boring story but by god did the freezer chose the wrong moment to ice-up!

I realised I am now totally addicted though as the first thing I thought was....oooo AIBU? LOL!

Have you found goodhousekeeping yet? I reckon you'd give great advice on there Purple.

She my H and I separated a year ago as he had an affair so I can sympathise on men problems But I'm sure your H is usually delightful

I do that too, shewho! I even say it out loud, as a word. Like, "Hmmm, ay-boo here?"

Welcom purpleknittingkitten! Come on in! :) I wish I could knit, I'm totally of people who can.

Good thing it was a mixup Elmo but how sad for the other child.

tea I am not married, am a singleton! The git in question was someone I thought was quite nice but has turned into an utter moron!

Not too fussed about him, just his arrogance - the freezer asked for it though, I walked in from shopping straight from work DD starving, tried to put some stuff in freezer and couldn't open the bloody drawers - I was already at him being a toss pot, so I got a wooden spoon and beat the ice to death

I feel better now, very theraputic!

Right, upon further reading of the thread, Elmo.

1. I shall rob a bank or sell an organ, possibly a kidney. I mean, who needs two?

2. I will buy a plane ticket to Ireland.

3. Sweep in and have furious words with the head.

4. Find that little D-bag and give him a good slap.

5. Give you and your DS a big hug, stay for tea and then pop over to visit teaandcake. We will then look up all of her old bullies and repeat number 4.

Good idea, right?! :o

I'm sorry, I wish I had a more helpful plan. I'm so angry at the way the school is allowing this boy to treat others!

Shewho I work at a movie theater (cinema, if you will :)) and the ice machine gets clogged all the time. We have to jab at the ice with a big stick and it is totally therepeutic!

oooo cheerful how I envy you!

I work at a school too, I have a "real" job. :o

Welcome Purple! :)

Cheerful I have excellent travel gear that I'd be happy to loan you for your trip and coincidentally am almost certain that I would fit inside the largest piece of luggage?

On another note, I had to call MN (Minnesota, not Mumsnet, lol!) today for something I ordered and lurve the accent SO much!

Oh and Shewho, YANBU...but you would, of course, be much more reasonable if you happened to defrost my ice-caked freezer as an outlet for your frustrations!

gomummy Ah, my first ever YANBU!!!

I am considering a career change! Although with my dodgy back, it's now aching a little, it was so worth it though!

It's time for my beauty sleep.

Til next we meet :)

Ello, as a founding bencher thought i'd pop in to say elllllllllloooooooooooo, and what are the cakes like these days ??

Hello cheesey. I've got some old homemade mince pies here but I reckon GoMummy will have something better later

Cheerful lol at "real Job" I used to say that when I worked a full time job and did some extra part time work in the evenings

Right busy day today, DD has her induction at nursery at the big school and I somehow have to keep my just turned 2 yr old quiet and behaving in the hall for an hour for some sort of talk thing with loads of other new parents as well as DD, before she spends just an hour at nursery itself without us before we go back for her... Eeek! Then I somehow have to squeeze in a doctors appointment too which I booked before I realised about the whole induction thing

BTW we're almost reaching full on here (1,000 posts) Can someone create a new one and put a link on here before it gets to 1,000. I'm out fpr a big chunk of this afternoon, but I'll do it tonight if no ones done it by then

OMG Tea i would most likely make a mess of starting a new thread its only thanks to your help im starting to do links

Aternoon :)

Hello Purple I TOLD you it was nice and friendly in here