To have an MN name which doesn't show that I'm a dad not a mum?

[Cleggy36]

I assume that most people's working assumption (if they think about it) would be that posters on MN are mums not dads. Sometimes I feel that it's slightly cheating to have a name which doesn't clarify things, so I always end up trying to make it clear in anything I post that my point of view is that of a 46 year old bloke not a 23 year old woman.

zazen, we're all random people plunking ourselves down and interrupting. That's what Mumsnet is.

Could we not have a little penis icon next to men posting?
They could have teeny cock symbol ifthey are here for the nurturing and fluffiness or a big thranging thranger if they just want to be manly amongst wimmin .
HTHs
(Is that at all sexist?)

Well, to state the obvious, men might post on a site that is "By parents, for parents" because they are..... parents

Or is immacualte conception more prevalent than I thought?

Zazan said: "I find some insensitive posts from men on mumsnet are a bit off". Do you mean you don't find insensitive posts from women a bit off?

And:"I suppose I am one of those people who when having a coffee with a few friends certainly wouldn't appreciate some random person plunking themselves down and interrupting". You have no objection to "random" women though? Can only men be "random"? Do you not think it's possible to have friends that are men?

And:"if you want to chat to women, why aren't you on a hook up site?" You do really think that men and women can't be just friends don't you!

And:"go on pan. Say a bit more about why you think men might post on a parenting website?". You don't even seem aware that men can be parents!

And:"Or if you want to find out what women think, why not lurk and not post". Because some of us think of the other sex as people first and not a totally different species like you seem to do.

Please grow up.

I'm surprised that Zazen allowed her man close enough to her to be able to conceive. She seems to have such a problem with men. Weird.

@Pagwatch:
"Could we not have a little penis icon next to men posting?"

I do already. Unfortunately you can't see it as it's to scale.

Oh Pag got there first. I was going to suggest you put something on the profile if you feel the need to be recognised as a man.

But of course it doesn't matter. This is an open forum so all welcome.

ROFL at Tiggy

Has the OP buggered orf without confirming that he is or he isn't Nick Clegg, then?

Darn.

DW at work, two DS at school and we live in a rural location. I am extremely happy with that arrangement but it does mean that it is not unusual to pass the day from breakfast till teatime without talking to anyone. So I go online and am active in several forums, a woodworking one because I like making things, the River Cottage one because we keep chickens and pigs and now this one because I've been looking after our DS for years and am a Cub Leader. On all three I get advice, offer advice and have a laugh. I expect that makes me entirely typical. (And if you really want to find a monosexual forum, woodworking is the place to go not parenting!)

I didn't ask the question to get attention, I asked because I wanted to know the answer. I'm new on here and I wanted to make sure that it's the minority that I piss off, not the majority.

My name has made me far too recognizable in RL.

Must think of yet another new one.

And if I'm not posting here on Thursday between 8 and 9pm you'll just have to guess why that is .

I'm sure zazen's views on men on Mumsnet is not typical.

Personally, I like having men on Mumsnet. My DH is an equal parent with me and I value his views on the way we bring up our children. Why would I not value a man's view on here too? Men are not muscling in on our conversations - they are parents too.

Maybe Cleggy, Tiggy, BeenBeta etc are better off with non-gender specific names. Stops people pre-judging you!

Cleggy36 - that thing about not talking to anyone else is a very interesting point. I suspect a lot of MNetters (men and women) are here for that reason. Parenting can be very isolating. I work at home and sit in front of a computer all day so apart from DW there are times when I dont speak to anyone else for a whole week. There are a lot of really interesting people here to talk to and very knowledgable too.

It is perfectly fine to ask the question you asked. All message boards and Forums have their unwritten rules and fitting in as a new member of any community (especially one where you are a minority) is always a bit tricky.

I actually think that there's only about a dozen people on MN. They just constantly name change.

Cleggy - I love it when I see a posting on here by a man (if I know they are one that is, and this thread has been very enlightening on that subject). I often think men have a more practical balanced view and often don't get caught up in the more hysterical of postings.

Hello and welcome.

I work full time (although clearly, not right now - don't tell the boss) and my DH is at home looking after the children. He is happy, I am happy, kids are happy. I have encouraged him to come on MN a couple of times (maybe he's already here??) as I think it would help him when dealing with our fiesty DD on occassion.

And if you wish to know, my cat is indeed a bastard and quite probably a bigger bastard than your cat (he is of the puking on your clothes, randomly scratching/biting, constantly begging for food kind of a bastard these days - he has retired from the murdering, beating up the neighbours kind of catbastard).

My dh comes on Mumsnet occasionally - maybe more often than I realise if he namechanges

He tells me that he can tell that some of the posters are men by the way that they post - even some who overly claim to be women (he won't tell me who though ). I've never been able to "spot" people that way.

I like the fact that on Mumsnet we have to take people at "written" value (as opposed to "face value") and interact with people on the basis of what they say as opposed to what they look like or what gender they are.

I don't have a problem with men on MN

only the fuckhead-type ones

there are a few of those, but they are quite efficiently dealt with

I am however....The Lady Evenstar

Actually there are only two people on MN - me and you, you fast-name-changing bastard.

BeenBeta
Dont you have any coffee groups or toddler groups you could go to?
I am a SAHD and my social life is better now than when I worked

great name BG

How old are your kids, BG? My daytime social life was active in the pre- and primary school years, but now they are both at secondary school it's a bit different. Nowadays they get quite concerned if I start ringing their friends' parents to plan their free time!

barry - hello, are you new as well?

My DSs are older so way past toddler stage and where we live the coffee mornings and get togethers are very pointedly 'for Mums'. DW goes to them. We see friends at weekends of course.

I don't know how my husband would cope if he was a SAHD in the UK. It's easy for me just to get chatting to other mums in the playground or to pop into a M&T group.

When DH was on his holidays he took the dc's to a UK mums and tots group and said he was never going again. He said they looked at him funny and he became paranoid that ppl would think that he was a peadophile. A child fell over in the group and was crying so he picked her up. The mum flew across the room and snatched her child away. Would that happen if another woman had picked the child up?

He worries also about talking to mums in the park in case they think he's cracking onto them.

Must be lonely being a SAHD