To have an MN name which doesn't show that I'm a dad not a mum?

[Cleggy36]

I assume that most people's working assumption (if they think about it) would be that posters on MN are mums not dads. Sometimes I feel that it's slightly cheating to have a name which doesn't clarify things, so I always end up trying to make it clear in anything I post that my point of view is that of a 46 year old bloke not a 23 year old woman.

And anyway, Me, Pan and JasonLightningPant might BE women some day.

Half way there already. Despite being 6 foot with a shaved head I am still referred to as "your just a big girl." Ok.

go on zazen. Say a bit more about why men may post on a parenting website?

did love the "you're a barrister" suggestion though :o

Oh and I really am multiple pachyderms in the fog.

snobear and tiggy are MEN !!!

but <a class="break-all" href="http://www.google.co.uk/imgres?imgurl=tokscoker.files.wordpress.com/2010/04/april-scarlet-o-hara.jpg&imgrefurl=tokscoker.wordpress.com/2010/04/&usg=__g1mNB6mShJFawraLZ7sj9xZmFkw=&h=382&w=260&sz=22&hl=en&start=0&zoom=1&tbnid=3SMPXTnE63cBzM:&tbnh=139&tbnw=95&prev=/images%3Fq%3Dscarlett%2Bo%27hara%26um%3D1%26hl%3Den%26sa%3DN%26biw%3D1280%26bih%3D605%26tbs%3Disch:10%2C101&um=1&itbs=1&iact=hc&vpx=234&vpy=131&dur=318&hovh=272&hovw=185&tx=96&ty=130&ei=BrqOTLn0Fs2Qswb9nKXrAQ&oei=BrqOTLn0Fs2Qswb9nKXrAQ&esq=1&page=1&ndsp=26&ved=1t:429,r:10,s:0&biw=1280&bih=605" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">this is me in rl

I'm not a mum though. So it's probably weirder for me to post on here than for dads to do so.

I'm actually a death god from a manga. Srsly.

I am phenomenally fast! (except when I'm working at 1am...having been up since 6 the morning before...

So, it's [email protected]? Need a cute, zippy, Spanish-speaking mouse to revive your crumbling public image?

MrsRhett, when I was a girl I adored you!!

I'm just wondering why this OP poster has a 'look at me, I'm a bloke' thread going on... IMO it smells a funny colour.

I knew you'd pipe up Pan

And Elephants, Miasma is actually a very interesting concept in Ancient 'Greek' Religion, as it means pollution: that is, the profane in a sacred space....

srsly though, I find some insensitive posts from men on mumsnet are a bit off, and I do find myself wondering what their motives are..
why don't they post on the men's boards? Or are they a square peg there too?

I suppose I am one of those people who when having a coffee with a few friends certainly wouldn't appreciate some random person plunking themselves down and interrupting.. maybe that's how I feel about the blokes on mumsnet..

Pan:"go on zazen. Say a bit more about why men may post on a parenting website?"

I don't know if it adds flavour to the mix to have men on MumsNet.. for most of my life I've worked in extreme male environments and put up with the daily drip of sexist shit - I suppose I come onto Mumsnet to talk with other women and to find out about what other women are doing, and it's like a grain of sand in my shoe to find a few stray blokes here too, and especially if they are -knobends- attention seekers.

I just wonder about the blokes who post on MumsNet... what are you like and why are you here really? really really?

Are you here cos you don't get enough attention IRL?
hence the look at me look at me I'm a bloke - aren't I special like the OP's post.. kindof posts

And if you want to chat to women, why aren't you on a hook up site?
Or if you want to find out what women think, why not lurk and not post.

Why flash?

A bit needy and toddleroid IMVHO.

So, go on pan. Say a bit more about why you think men might post on a parenting website?

jab·ber·wock·y (jbr-wk)
n.
Nonsensical speech or writing.

So be warned not to be any attention whatsoever to anything I may post

hiya Pan! Glad you're still around.

I am an angel, and I DO Kick Ass, so don't mess with me, or you'll face an almighty butt kicking.

I AM bottyburpthebarbarian.

I have been fabregasted.

I'm still me KnockKnock

And Still the MNetter who Went on Radio Ulster.

Who cares??

But I am very definitely female

Who cares??

I actually am a small yellow duckling.

BeenBeta, your username is really obviously male. Women don't think in terms of alpha and beta, ime. And i've always assumed that you consider SAHPing "beta" and that's the reference - she earns, I look after the children, ergo i've been beta.

Also, the male posters post differently, so go ahead and call yourselves "happimummiinpink", we'll still know you're blokes.

Now thats what I call a tempting idea

Surely men might post on a parenting website because they are parents. IIRC a lot of the men on here are single dads or SAHP, and therefore they encounter the same problems/questions that mothers often do - should I worry about my DC behaving like this? How do you manage childcare in the summer holidays? etc

I'm just here because MNers are bloody hilarious and you can always find a good flaming row considered debate. :o

oh well, briefly, I happened along to MN via a google search about things I had noticed about my dd,(then aged 6, now 10) who I don't live with ( about 10 mins away) but get to spend a lot of time with, poss. more than some 'live with' dads.
I learned a lot from MN about her, me and the part I get to play in her life,and she in mine. Could say much much more, but don't feel the need to. I am a parent. Can't say why other dads post here. They may know that.

I am sorry zazen you are so sceptical and suspicious about dads on MN. And this isn't the cosy coffeee morning you so wish and describe. You aren't having coffee with a few friends, so I or anyone else aren't some random people forcing themselves into your space. I am finding that line of thought a bit lazy, selfish(sorry) and naive. I do take your point about sexiam and general 'stuff' in RL.

My name makes me sound like an irritating Anthea Turner type when in fact I'm a fifteen-stone builder called Jim.

Oh zazen you're a tad bitter aren't you. Jealous of ladies who have a SAHD to take care of things, perhaps?

I knew a sexist would pop up on this thread sooner or later.

There is that E&M - loud, brash, hilarious, thoughtful women. What is there to not like! And yes, dd will be going through puberty and off the big school soon....I came to this parenting malarky late and just about ALL of the women who I would call friends have left this bit of their lives back about 15 years ago - I also lurk a bit and pick stuff up sans posting at all.

welll I am a rhino so neeeeer

and I dont think it mattwrs at all if you dont make it clear you're a man from your name

as far I think MN has lots of people on it, thats it.

I dont think everyone is female and a mum

two of my faves are a man and a woman wothout kids

and hi jabbs! Hope you and yours are fine?

wow zazen, chill
why do they have to have a motive>

and whats wrong wih checking if anyone minds that they are not clearly stating they are a man in their user name

"I sometimes wonder why blokes post on Mumsnet.."

"For Parents by Parents" is the MN tagline. And "the roolz" don't specify that you must be one gender or another to post.

Personally, I like having blokes on Mumsnet. Sometimes I don't read who started a thread then chuckle when I realise it was a man. Like Jasonthunderpants starting a thread to say he cried to Candle in the Wind on Di's anniversary the other week. I thought it was funny when I wrongly assumed a woman had posted it. I thought it was hysterical when I realised it was old Jase'.