Female violence towards men

[yorkshireblue]

I have noticed a lot of posts which state violence towards males.
Is it ok for females to say these things towards males?
If this was dadsnet and these comments where aimed at women what would be the outcome?
Female violence is as bad as male violence

oh and verbal abuse as well.

Is this in relation to me?

Yeah but women hit like girls. I could give DH my hardest punch and he'd laugh me out of the room.

I'm joking, of course. It's not OK but I think that it's more venting than actual threats of actual violence. I think that too many posters take the hyperbole seriously. Who hasn't said "oh I could just KILL so-and-so" but obviously would not do anything of the sort?

Yes. what cupcakes said. Exactly my thoughts but said much better.

I don't like it.

cupcakesandbunting
my DW does not hit like a girl.I have stopped play fighting with her because she can make me squael like a girl

always bemused at the "want to garote/kill/disembowel dh as he interrupted me watching schlebs on steroids skating on da telly.aibu?"

on no chirrup the dafties

I didn't really see anything wrong with it until someone remarked that if a man said 'i'm so pissed off I could just rip her tits off' it would be the most awful thing.
I totally agree with you Yorkshire

Well yes. Of course it is just as bad.

Female violence towards men is also more common than is generally believed...

However.

...male violence against women is rife. Everywhere. Amongst all classes of people, all incomes, all levels of education, all cultures.

I see this professionally. And in daily life. Everywhere.

We could be accommodating. We could say that violence within what should be a trusting relationship is a double violation. Twice as vile. And that thus is true whichever gender is responsible.

Yes. Who could disagree?

But mostly, let's acknowledge the hard fact, it's men inflicting violence upon women.

yes of course men are the main culprits.

It just makes me sad that men do this to girlfriends/wifes and some women are to scared to do anything about it

You see I can see your point. I am actually very, very anti violence. I came from a very violent home and always hated/ felt extremely nervous and upset at any sign of violence.

I remember hearing that my BIL's new girlfriend had really beat him at a party and being so, so appaled, basically stating the same as you - if it had been the other way around, just imagine the outrage. Despite it technically being none of my business, I was really angry over this.

That said, I'll admit that I have been a hypocrite, in that that I have punched my dh in the face - when I found out that he had been cheating on me, whilst I was pregnant, following a miscarraige. I will be slated for this and fully expect it but, although we're working on things and are still together, I believe that still - to this day - he deserved it.

I have never been hit by someone and this was the only situation in my life that I have ever hit another person.

I do however, often use expressions such as "I could kill/ hit so and so" etc..

I also agree that DH could physically hurt me so much more than I could ever hurt him.

If I want to bring DH to his knees during a play-fight, he gets the nipple-cripple.

Seriously though. I had a friend who used to throw objects at her boyfriend. She threw a sauce boat at him once. That was the final straw and he left her. She maintained that he was a pussy for not manning up to her. I mean, what the fuck? We all told her she needed help. I hope she got it.

If you click on the PDF link to statistics, it provides some context for female and male violence.

here

Oh, but this is mumsnet. Giving your DH/DP a slap is perfectly acceptable. Apparently.

I've always been very about it.

There was a thread once about what posters had physically done to their ex-H/Ps.

Oh how they laughed.

a female neighbour tried to kill her husband with a carving fork by stabbing him in the heart a few months back. (she has a history of dv and assault and is an alcoholic)

it doesn't make me feel any friendlier towards male attackers though.

not sure what your point is? none of it is right, surely? call 'em on it.

i do get slightly unhinged when the response to domestic violence against a male is treated as a bit of a laugh, or nowhere near as serious as a domestic attack against a woman.

TBH it's not just the vague plans to maim the DP/DH - it's expressing a desire to slap/punch/kick random people in the street, on the bus, in the GP surgery, in the cinema, at the ILs.

It doesn't matter which gender you are and which the target is, it's v poor behaviour.

I didn't see any misandrist (ridiculous word) caveats in retiredgoth's post

What about Stephen Hawking? That wasn't very nice.

Anyhow, people venting anger on MN and saying "I could just flay so and so" or whatever is mostly just ranting in the heat of the moment and using metaphor, rather than a true statement of intent to use violence against anyone.

But of course the PC brigade will want to see it some other way.

Sorry for using "PC brigade", btw. I don't read the Mail. Really.

Yes I don't like all the "have his balls on a platter" type language.

It's dehumanising and just a bit... well, odd really.

Have I really been accused of misandry?

I probably shouldn't be delighted...

No. I really shouldn't.

I could never say that i could kill/hit/slap etc my Dw even in jest
The women who do this must not really love there husbands
That is my humble opinion anyway