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Children getting changed in front of the opposite sex for PE-age 8 and 9

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Ayerightyouare · 03/08/2010 22:25

I am new to posting,not lurking,and after a fab glass or two of Spar 2 bottles for £7.50 am off and running dear children at their grans for a sleepover,ahem
My children,boy age 8,and girl age 9,expressed extreme anxiety over the "changing for PE arrangements"...ie the girls had to get changed in front of the boys and vice versa,in the same classroom.
I saw the headteacher about this before the end of last term,and, to the point, was told that "Well,Mrs insert name,you are the only parent who has brought this up,I like children to be children,innocent,there is no problem,we don't have the staff to supervise 2 different sex groups,there is no problem,the children are okay with it,and you are welcome in to come and see them change in front of each other"
I told her about some of the,for want of a better word,pornographic things that I had heard children of this age speak about.
I do not agree with her,for the sole reason that my children have told me that they do not like this.And,I will not come in as a stranger and watch children changing when I know my own children's feelings on the matter.I explained that children in the school system are not going to go against their teacher when they know that they have no choice in the matter.
I really felt patronised TBH.
Now,in the last week,I have had an example of "creative writing" left on my kitchen table by a 10 yr old girl.I have lots of my children's friends around,and they often do "arts and crafts" at the kitchen table.
Here is what she wrote:

"My Daughter's name, you are a dick head, you suck dick, eat shit, you fancy name of boy,and have sex withname of other boy every night.
name of other boy has cheesy nipples and you suck them every night.Just to tell you how do you know boys name has cheesy nipples do you suck them, got it, you suck other boys name dick don't you? "
I mean,come on,this is a 10 year old girl.It is not her fault,she is just showing what that age group has been exposed to via the media.Her Mum is very very strict.
When the school term commences,I am making an appt with the headmistress and basically demanding that she allows children to retain their dignity when getting changed.I have spoken to my daughter regarding this piece of creative writing,she has just turned 9,and she is very uncomfortable about getting changed in front of boys considering what she has now been exposed to."Sucking Dicks" indeed. Am I being Unreasonable ?

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BaronessBomburst · 04/08/2010 00:10

Someone in Scotland gets drunk on 2 glasses of wine? Ha bloody ha! How big are the glasses, OP?

TheLadyEvenstar · 04/08/2010 00:10

The Spar offer is relevant because

A - it explains the garbled message
B - it is being used for courage to write this
3 - it is just a red herring
D - OP works for Spar and is trying to promote their offer

scurryfunge · 04/08/2010 00:10

Paranoid.....because at that age, home is the only real influence.....peers only influence them in the teenage years.

PixieOnaLeaf · 04/08/2010 00:10

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AnyFucker · 04/08/2010 00:11

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SirBoobAlot · 04/08/2010 00:11

You think that is pornographic? Christ, just you wait until your kids start secondary school, and the first time you catch sight of the text messages they're sending...

PixieOnaLeaf · 04/08/2010 00:12

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AnyFucker · 04/08/2010 00:12

A B 3 D

yes, TheLadyEvenStar been on the Spar vino too

serotoninbutterfly · 04/08/2010 00:12

Last post from the perv AF did I miss something?

TheLadyEvenstar · 04/08/2010 00:13

ohhhh we'll see you back here in a few years when they hit secondary school...then you will be worried!!!

And I have not been on any wine let alone a spar offer!

PixieOnaLeaf · 04/08/2010 00:14

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AnyFucker · 04/08/2010 00:14

SB, do try to keep up

TheLadyEvenstar · 04/08/2010 00:14

AF, got your attention though lol

sadly nope I am not on the spar offer am on a good girl kick after the weekend lol

scurryfunge · 04/08/2010 00:14

AB3D, I love it

Ayerightyouare · 04/08/2010 00:15

Any Fucker,

I am a single mum and never get time off.

My Mum is having my kids for a sleepover,as it is called these days.In my day,it was called "staying at your bit",lol.

My sis introduced me to the Spar offer last week,so tonight,having a spare £7.50,I went to the Spar and INDULGED...LOL!!!

Am paying the price now,as friggin decided to register and post my concerns on Mumsnet..all due to the Spar Offer...will ban myself from the Spar forthwith....hic!

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serotoninbutterfly · 04/08/2010 00:15

I'm pretty new so I am a little sloww... No vino here to blame, just lack of sleep methinks! sorry

AnyFucker · 04/08/2010 00:15
Grin
TheLadyEvenstar · 04/08/2010 00:15

Scurry I wanted to try and be as garbled as the OP but I wrote far too fluently for that humphh

BitOfFun · 04/08/2010 00:15

Anyfucker- I'm going to email you in a sec, ok?

BaronessBomburst · 04/08/2010 00:16

Pixie - I'm sure it is trolling.

TheLadyEvenstar · 04/08/2010 00:16

does any mum get time off?

is it like a prison sentence? time off for good behaviour????

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ParanoidTwit · 04/08/2010 00:17

Scurryfunge I cannot believe you ae so deluded to believe that crap! Does that mean if a child is contantly teased for being fat or ginger or ugly at school then because it doesn't come from the home they are not influenced by it?

Oh and whoever said it, my kids don't have issues with their bodies apart from the teasing DS has had over his willy size. How that came from me, as suggested by MNer', I'm still trying to work out as I never discuss his anatomy!

Then comes the contradictions when a poster thinks that comment wasn't very pornographic from a 13 year old and yet at 9 they are oh so innocent....

What is the average IQ of an MNer.....

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