to feel a bit sad that DH thinks I do nothing?

[Harimo]

I have DS (25MO) and DD (12MO).
I live alone Monday to Friday and don't get any much help from DH on weekends.

The house and kids are MY job.

I'm not complaining. I love my kids and I love being able to be at home with them.

my DH works hard and provides for us all financially - he has two DDs from a previous relationship too. (which I know is important as his father didn't do it for him)

But, I'm feeling a bit because it would seem he really doesn't think I DO anything.

I read threads on here about how being at home with kids is harder than anything, and certainly his ex has demanded live-in au-pairs while her kids were young.

But, somehow, I'm just expected to get on with it. I do enjoy being with them. I don't find it a massive hardship at all. I really don't. But, it's still a 24/7 job and I'd like a little recognition.

I do appreciate that his job is very difficult and he needs time off... but he doesn't seem to feel the same...

I don't want to really change the situation... I am happy with my life, but I'd like him to appreciate my input into our family.

AIBU? (I don't think so) and how do I go about changing it? (Without a massive argument?)

I thought the same ! Summat doesn't add up !!!

I'm not sure which is worse TBH, her DH pretending not to be or someone else pretending to be her DH.

Either way I feel a bit ... unsettled.

And if it is him...he really isn't going to read ANYTHING else on MN. Yeh right. If he's read all of the other bits he won't be able to steal himself away to read our responses. It's probably a troll though. Seems a leeetle too far fetched to me. [sceptical]

Or hmm

I agree that this is a weird. brightwell and haribo also both posted on a thread (in May) asking where people's dogs slept and it was somewhat hijacked by haribo with her tale of her DH's hatred of her dog. I wonder did she know then that brightwell was her DH? Has he been spying on her for a while? Most bizarre.

I think there's a bit of name changing / personality changing going on for fun. I may be completely wrong of course but after LTIB's detective work it could be either stalker hubby or arthur/martha.

You sound like a lone parent to me - one with a cock lodger who goes ballistic if things aren't perfect when ever he returns from his important job.

Don't see much of a future for you two together, and if you do have a future together, I see you as the loser.

If you were to separate from him, at least you could have every second weekend off as he would have the kids.

If you were to divorce, you could get a lovely involved man to parent with you!?

I think you have some serious thinking to do, and I think you need marriage guidance counselling, as a couple and singly asap.

Good luck with your life - I think you need to talk and write down all you do and discuss it with him, as the first step.

Oh I see the trolls have arrived.
Must not feed the trolls...
Must not feed the trolls...

There's another almost identical thread of about 20 months ago by the Serious Santa who must be Harimo. Brightwell1 posts on there too saying "this thread doesn't add up". I'm afraid this one doesn't either.

this one www.mumsnet.com/Talk?topicid=relationships&threadid=662636-How-do-I-deal-with-the-inequality-in-our- relationship&pagingOff=1#13559905

VoR, yes, that's the one.

Or this one dog thread

and yep, that's the other one (wasn't sure I should link to them - not sure about MN etiquette for that).

Looks like old Brighty and Haribo have been regulars on here for years. So it's either a regular acting out a drama or brighty is a haribo/haribosmummy stalker/husband. Can't decide.

??

I don't understand why people do this.

In one way I hope 'haribo' is for real, I'll feel less of a mug.

In another way I hope 'haribo' isn't for real, cos if she is she has a crap life'

As for the other one... what a twat.

they are arguing on this one too

It's a horrible feeling. You think you are helping people, you feel you get to know people.... then things like this happen and you know that someone (or more than one 'someone') is out there laughing at you....

Don't know though coz Harimo posts regularly and her stories seem to tally. I just don't get it...still.

Maybe it's just Brightwell1 then??

Weird.

Didnt they know each other on the dog thread