Bloody, twatting, (D)F

[Bunnysoprano]

I am absolutely sick to death and need some perspective. However, I should warn you, this is long.....

This weekend, I parked my car in the drive in front of DF's car. We had two sets of keys - DF lost one set but denies it. Usually, I leave my keys in a glass bowl in the hall but, for some reason this weekend, I stuck them in my bag.

Today, I had to leave the house about 5:30am as was travelling for work. Whilst on the train to Glasgow, I got a text from DF saying he couldn't get his car out as I had blocked it in and taken my keys. Naturally (and I do understand this), he was annoyed.

He then got a taxi to and from work today which cost £50. However, he has used the money that I take out each month from our joint account to pay for the cleaner. I am apparently to pay this back as I need to be "punished" (I kid you not!) for what I did today re the car.

I have arrived home this evening at 10:00pm after travelling to and from Glasgow today an d am rather tired. Therefore, I have not taken very kindly to this and am absolutely fuming. Part of the reason is because F is saying that he can't afford to take a taxi to work and back (notwithstanding the fact that he is pretty much a three figure earner). Now, I do accept that it was wasted money due to my mistake but I earn nearly half of what he does. I have just paid nearly £400 for flights this month for us to go to a wedding which has left me very short on the basis that DF would sub me if I needed any money. I trusted him to do this but obviously this isn't happening.

We both put equal amounts in the joint account but just enough to cover the bills so there is no flex. F is making dire threats about not putting money in this month etc if I don't pay for the taxi etc.

I know this all sounds RIDICULOUSLY childish but I have actually had a moment of utter panic and thought that I can't actually marry someone who is going to treat me like this. What if I am off on maternity leave and need "punished"?!?!? Will I get no money.

I am fuming and have actually taken myself off in the spare bedroom to sleep tonight and think about things.

I am quite prepared for a total flaming as I am SO angry I can't think straight but AIBU about this?!?

I know - I keep hopefully coming back for an update...

Me too .... Bunny I hope you are alright. Can you tell us how you are and what you decided? How is P behaving?

Me too, I'm dying to know!

Is this genuine? I've read (most of the) entire thread and the facts of the matter seem to shift with the questions. Also seems to have posted similar previously but didn't mention till teased out and clearly hasn't taken any action before. More importantly, despite an enormous number of supportive responses, OP doesn't seem to be taking much on board and has now disappeared from thread. All very odd.

"any attempts that I make to tell him something will either be written of as "rubbish" or, in the future, revisited as him actually telling me that."

Am suprised no-one's mentioned NPD yet. Big red flag.

NPD?

Narcissist Personality Disorder? (I'm just guessing)

Have just read this through.

I would think there is a high likelihood that he has already found out about the thread: (Highly specific, dramatic) to the extent that within "their circle", many will recognise and even people 2 or 3 friends remove will recognise (though how many friends he has would be a moot point perhaps).

I am concerned that he has entered a phase of trying to placate Bunny and guide her away from this "reality check" and support network.

Hope her friends and family can keep in contact and get her to LEAVE.

Hey Bunnysoprano
How are you doing? Have things improved?

Bunny, howare you doing?

OLD THREAD ALERT

Jux - you have heard of the new PM function haven't you?

sorry