Hi everyone, just checking in on day 4. In theory I haven't had a particularly busy day, but I feel exhausted tonight. It's just getting back into the swing of term time and daily teaching I guess.
@Onewildandpreciouslife good point about the snacks! There is no dearth of snacks in my house (ha) but I often get distracted and forget to eat at normal times. I have the dubious habit of being starving when I start to cook dinner, and snacking as I cook... it might work better if I had a late afternoon snack, instead of waiting to eat until I'm already low on blood sugar.
@IChooseTo it does sound like our dinner-cooking habits are similar. I use to drink like a fish the whole time I was cooking, and I'm definitely not as prone to that as I used to be. But it's still a very vulnerable point of the day. You're right that AF alternatives really help in that context.
@eekwhatnow congratulations on your three weeks, that's fantastic!
@lavrander I appreciate your encouraging words about small numbers of sober days being important and worth celebrating.
@WendyWagon that sounds like a great decision about the car, I hope you enjoy it!
@Carpetburn yeah, that reading group is actually very special. I'm also a member of a 'normal' (non-academic) book group, and I love that one too, but the academic one is impressive due to the sheer level of collective geekiness, ha. For awhile some slightly pompous types were going, and that put me off, but it seems to have returned to the down-to-earth, unpretentious vibe that drew me to it initially. So that's good. It's good that your DH has hobbies he loves as well. It doesn't matter much what your passion is, I suspect, as long as it's something that you find nurturing.
Went to my women's AA meeting again tonight and found it helpful, although my mixed feelings remain. I was thinking more about why it is that I am not as tolerant of the AA Big Book now as I was the first time I encountered it, and I suspect it's partly due to the kind of phenomenon I've heard women on MN talk about before: how after you've gone through menopause, you start to feel bolder and more empowered and more in the mode of 'I don't give a fuck'. I just have a lot less patience for patriarchal men than I used to. I'm not as afraid of offending people as I used to be. I still believe in being kind when at all possible (as I said yesterday), but I'm more matter-of-fact now about views I disagree with. Whereas disagreement used to worry me more. When I was younger, I had passionate views, but tried much harder to be conciliatory if that makes sense. Anyway I'm thinking at the moment that if the Big Book and I disagree, that's fine. I don't need to angst about it. But I also don't need to engage in mental contortions and try to make myself agree with it when I don't.
OK, am going to try to have an early night for once. Sleep well shipmates.