Hello @boredwiththebinge, I am truly sorry about your sister. The trauma of that, it being alcohol related and having to deal with the aftermath of grief and admin is horrendous. Don’t think we can solve the boggy field in Wales though.
I know what you mean @NextPhaseOfLife, I have similarly divided friend groups, some of whom go camping for a weekend with 6 bottles for 3 nights and another bunch who never go over a bottle in a week. I often think that we all drank similarly when we were younger (heavily but none more so than others) and there’s a fork in the road, some wind down massively and some drink like every night is a party night, except it isn’t. You’re just sat at home, doing absolutely nothing.
To a really large degree it’s understandable in many ways. Society has just piled and piled and piled the pressure on, got to get married, have kids, earn as much as possible, worry about those kids, worry about elderly parents, worry about everyone else who’s trying not to spin out, worry about the way you look, the way your house looks, about the future, live up to all these standards, feel like a failure, feel lonely, feel stressed, here have a drink, it’ll solve everything and then goes “oh, well it’s your fault for not coping with all of this, you weren’t supposed to get addicted to it”. Those who are the very light drinkers are the miracle escapees tbh.