Imagine there’s tons of these… sober October support thread

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Staring tomorrow. Successfully did sober October last year and drank on November 1st and have done almost every day since.

Determined to make this my starting point again - anyone want to join here for mutual support?

Also any recommendations for podcasts to listen to for starting short bursts sober journeys welcome

Wow you are doing really well 👍

That is a great idea to buy a really nice bottle that I don't just glug ! Because I have been drinking almost daily I usually just buy around the £7 mark so obviously not getting something decent and it all seems to taste th same. It's just this awful bad habit I have got into drinking every night. Don't sleep properly wake up feeling rubbish and lethargic at work. Have felt so much better at work these last 18 days like I can really concentrate and give it my all

I feel like that aswell like there is no meaning to the evening (sounds awful when I say it like that). I too have stayed up later tonight (watching married at first sight haha).
I wish I could just be a social drinker like the other people in my life !

@Thornrose your statement "I'm feeling quite resentful that I can't just "be normal" and have a glass of wine with dinner without finishing the whole bottle." really resonated with me. You're not alone.
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Oh hello newbie/lurkers 👋🏻
Day 20 here , whoop!
Im a bit under the weather and soo tired. Still feeling pretty strong. I like the idea of a more special wine too. I know someone that decided she would only drink champagne so the sheer price limited her! I k ow I’d settle for Cava though 😂as I’m a cheap date!

@Ohtobehappy fellow MAFS watcher here.

@43ontherocksporfavor I was thinking of maybe going forward to buy champagne but I actually prefer prosecco or cava !
I have been so so tired today and it's really getting me down feeling that tired especially in work.
Oh and I can't stop eating sweet things !
Is anyone feeling that they could maybe stop drinking all together ? I can't ever imagine doing that but know deep down I would probably be a better person not drinking.

@Thornrose I wish I could be that person that didn't finish the bottle 😞

@Ohtobehappy and @InOtherWords 😞

I've been really fancying coca cola or fruit juice and I never drink soft or fizzy drinks. I think it's my body missing the sugar from wine?

I think if I could just drink socially I'd be genuinely happy. I don't go out much and rarely overdo it. If I do then it's a conscious choice if that makes sense.

The mindless nightly drinking while sitting alone on the sofa watching TV is ridiculous to me. It feels like I have a drink problem/dependency.

I worry so much about my liver. I rarely go to the gp about anything in case I have to have blood tests and I find out something bad. That's not enough to stop me drinking though.

But I'm almost 3 weeks AF and that makes me feel so bloody happy. I can do it and I wasn't sure if I'm honest.

@Thornrose I am exactly the same. Don't go out that much anymore so consequently just drink in the house in front of the TV. If I drink I lot I can turn into a bit of a horrible person so then end of falling out with my ever patient lovely husband. Whilst not drinking in October we have not fallen out once !!
When I do to out I always seem to be the one that drinks too much and makes an idiot of myself 😞
I think my tolerance levels to alcohol are quite low and always have been but I seem to think I can sink wine and prosecco like it's going out of fashion !
I was diagnosed with high blood pressure and high cholesterol a few months ago and am on medication and still I manage to put that to the back of my mind. I know my husband worries constantly about me so I really need to have a complete reset with my relationship with alcohol but god I am scared - anyone else feel like that ?

Day 21! 3 weeks AF 😊We can do this!

I have fancied sweet things more. I don’t really have a sweet tooth, much more a crisp and nuts girl. It must be the withdrawal from booze sugar 😬.

Hey all well how fantastic are we going this month!
I have to be honest I haven't missed having a drink this month so I just don't understand why it is that once I start drinking again I fall into the trap of drinking every night, it frustrates me that I just can't have the one glass or if I go out and have a few drinks that I then have to carry on when I get home,
I haven't had that guilty feeling once this month I just feel like a grown up!
Me and DH have been watching different things on the TV each night after I've had a nice bath and it's felt really nice, I feel like I've got my evenings back instead of willing it to turn 9ocloxk so that I can start drinking!

@Ohtobehappy you sound just like me!
I feel like I can drink loads but I can't! And I always end up being the one whose said or acted a bit stupid, and I always feel embarrassed the next day. Im tired of feeling like this , and feel sorry for my Dh who always ends up doing the driving so never drinks when we are out, amd has to watch me get ridiculous !

About to go out to see a band with DD19 and DH. DD is already throwing shade at me for not drinking on a night out. Oh how the tables have turned. I

Ooo have a fab time 😊

@PeacheyPeach I am so glad it is not just me that goes out and then has to pick up a bottle on the way home to carry on.
I want to be that girl that can go to the pub for a couple then just go home.
So I am having a drink tonight. I am not sure why I just felt like it and thought why not.
I am the sort of person that beats myself up over everything and I feel like I just need to own this and move on.
Well done everyone 👍

I did it! I kept an open mind and thought I might have one drink as we don’t t go out with DD often but had decided to drive as such a wet night. I ordered at 0% lager as I genuinely didn’t crave alcohol then stayed with that and Diet Coke. I even got on the dance floor sober!! This was the first night out that wasn’t a meal and I’m really pleased I had a fab time sober.
@Ohtobehappy i hope you enjoyed your drink .

3 weeks gone already well done everyone must say the non alcoholic beers and cider have kept me on the straight and narrow especially when everyone else is drinking lol definitely feel better not having to worry about driving the next day a big bonus 😊

Enjoying a nosecco tonight. Cheers!

@43ontherocksporfavor aww well done on having a fab night and even having a dance just shows that we don't actually always need to have a drink to give us confidence or it's the only way to enjoy ourselves!! And you didn't wake up feeling ill today always a bonus 😅

@madmumofteens it's great isn't it 3 weeks in, in some ways I think it's gone slowly but then feel like the month is whizzing by!
We took DC out today and stopped by a place to buy food, you can buy cocktails here , I had a fizzy water 💦 felt very pleased with myself!!
@Ohtobehappy you don't need to beat your self up over anything, I hope you had a great evening and enjoyed it 😀
DH and I were talking about having a nice date night at home once a month were we are going to have a lovely wine and a lovely meal alongside it, instead of us just drinking in front of the TV every night,

That’s a lovely idea @PeacheyPeach . What’s spurring me on is the skin on my face is looking better and I’m sure I’m not imagining it. I’ve been taking collagen for two weeks with the money saved but don’t think that would act that quickly. I still haven’t weighed myself but clothes feel better fitting. My desire to drink is not as strong as my desire to maintain and make more progress . Also not had any hot flushes.😀

I’ve just been googling about liver recovery etc and read this info. It seems really obvious and maybe you all know this but I feel quite shocked that this is what feeling drunk actually is .😬

Morning all! Day 23 😜.

Morning. Well I have completely messed up. Drank again yesterday. Hubby had been out watching the Merseyside derby so he had been drinking. Ended up arguing and then not speaking. I ended up falling asleep downstairs and came to bed at 3am. Suffice to say feel awful today hate myself hubby still not talking to me all the usual crap I had started to hate.
Need to look at this as lesson learnt and move on and try and continue the month sober.