Imagine there’s tons of these… sober October support thread

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Staring tomorrow. Successfully did sober October last year and drank on November 1st and have done almost every day since.

Determined to make this my starting point again - anyone want to join here for mutual support?

Also any recommendations for podcasts to listen to for starting short bursts sober journeys welcome

@Ohtobehappy 🤣 Why, indeed ?!
I think if I had the answer to that question, I'd be rich ❤️

Just wondering if anyone else can resonate with this.
I always seem to be the one in all my friendship group who always has to drink that bit more than anyone else. The one that consequently ends up more drink and consequently often ends up having people annoyed with the way I behave because I become a different person.
Big example is that the last few years we have been going on holidays as a group of 4 (me hubby and another couple). The other couple are my husband's age (much younger than me) and and been his friends since school. We get on really well but I am much more of a day time drinker than the other couple. My hubby can handle his drink pretty well. So usually by the time we go out in the evenings I am more drunk than anyone and it has really started to piss the others off. When we went away last month we ended up booking separate accommodation and the holiday in April had been pretty rubbish (apparently down to me) and it seemed okay we just met up every couple of days / nights and all was good.
We are due to go away in January staying in a lodge (booked ages ago) and I just messaged the other girl and said along the lines of if anyone feels uncomfortable we could book different lodges. She has just come back and said no it's fine but the daytime drinking needs to be curbed so we can enjoy evenings.
I just started crying in work and realise what an awful person I have become but then also started thinking why the hell can I not behave.
I would like to add that I am starting to find holidays with this couple quite hard probably the age difference starting to show and I find they are very different to me. We spend a lot of time with them as the men are best friends and they don't have kids and my daughter is grown up and all the others their age have little ones
Rant over and back to work and time to put my big girl pants on.
Thanks for anyone that listened ❤️

@Ohtobehappy ahhh, bless you. I think I'd be upset if someone said that to me, too. So don't worry about letting your feelings out - you're entitled to them.
With regards to your question, yes, I'm probably the same - I always get carried away, but I don't go out much anymore because of this. My family and friends don't judge me, though. They know I struggle with drinking and are nothing but understanding.
I'm a daytime drinker, too. I went on holiday last year with my sister and her dh and realised I never want to go on holiday with her again. I like to drink during the day. I'm not interested in going out at night. Maybe this couple is no longer suited to you ?
I'm very close to my sister BTW. I just realised that I want to spend my holidays how I want to spend them, and if that means I'm tipsy by 4pm, that's my choice.
I try not to feel negatively about my choices. I treat myself with kindness, like I do others.
Always here to listen ❤️

@Amdone123 thank you so much for your lovely reply. I am a day drinker and to be honest going out at night I can't really be bothered with. The other couple say they say drink then would have one if we go out for lunch but then if the footy is on the boys to mad and that is somehow acceptable !!!! My hubby loves day drinking but also likes being out at night and I know is starting to hate it when I am obviously drunk in a restaurant. Do feel a bit like they all watch me now which some of my other friends don't do.
I went on two holidays this year without my hubby. One with my sis in law and one with my best friend and day drank on both and had no issues whatsoever and had a fab time. My sis in law said maybe they don't bring out the best side of me !x

@Ohtobehappy ive found that I drink more in social situations when I'm not that confident with the people we are with,
So when I'm really comfortable with who I'm socializing with I might still drink but I'm not drinking to give me confidence ( if that makes sense) so I get the feeling with you mentioning the age difference and that its because they are your DH friends that maybe you don't feel so comfortable with them??

I am definitely not a day drinker, for the very reasons that come evening time it makes me absolutely wasted!! I just have to go to bed, I've ruined many a wedding for poor DH because of my drinking in the day, it hits me different than drinking at night time,
Maybe by drinking in the evening on your hols might just work out better x

@Ohtobehappy wth? I’m indignant on your behalf! Nobody else’s business if you decide to drink in the day. I love a lunchtime drink. Holidays are for relaxing. I would say perhaps you don’t holiday with people who make you feel uncomfortable. You’re an adult.

Personally if I drink in the day it needs to be with food and I wouldn’t normally carry it into the night because I’d be too drunk. Exceptions are Christmas Day but I think it’s spread out and with lots of food.

How are you all doing? Any weekend drinks planned? I’m still AF and not fancied one. Anyone else?

I didn't drink Monday Tuesday or last night but having some wine tonight and will drink at the weekend as going out.
Do feel like my mindset has shifted a little which can only be a good thing

@Ohtobehappy o hope you enjoy it. I’m expecting to not like the taste after all this time. Last time I did this I had to wean myself back via lager. How bad is that?!? I’m

Hey all, still AF too xxx
DH desperately wants us to have a drink together but I've told him that I really don't fancy having any! I feel that it will actually make me feel sick!
We are out for a meal next weekend so I might have a glass of something then but just don't feel like it,

Friday night is on its way. I’m out tonight for a catch up meal with friends but it’s an out of town pub and I’m driving. Would normally have one drink but don’t think I’ll bother tonight. Just not that bothered.

Have a fab evening @43ontherocksporfavor
You know what I found is more fun, is the actual getting ready, putting on a nice outfit and doing my makeup!!

I'm not drinking this weekend. I'm still in the danger zone!

I'm quite irritated that my relationship with wine hasn't really changed.

I can abstain quite effortlessly now but moderating is going to be tough.

I thought about having a drink tonight. But honestly, I want a bottle of wine, not a glass. I don't know how to do anything else so I'm having none.

Tomorrow night I'm going to a Chinese restaurant for dinner. I don't find alcohol works well with Chinese so I'll drink lots of Jasmine tea, which I love.

Had a lovey evening thanks. Just a couple of lime and sodas and a coffee after dinner. None of us had a drink so was easy and lots of laughs.Still loving the next morning feeling.

Decided I’d have a glass of wine tonight, took two sips and gave it to DH! Tasted horrible.

Hi all 😍
Had a little date night last night, had two small wines and two gin and tonics.
Have woken up feeling like death 💀 terrible nights sleep also woke up so much throughout the night. 😴
Have not missed that feeling 😕 and am so so annoyed at myself for immediately drinking more than I needed to,
Have said to DH that maybe we actually don't have to include alcohol in future because I feel so horrible today, 😭

Oh that’s a shame @PeacheyPeach . Maybe the two wines would have been a sweet spot.
Been out today with DH mooching around a nice town and decided to have my first drink. Had a delicious and v expensive (£12!!!!) glass of Merlot outside a gorgeous wine bar in the sun. It was really nice and in a gorgeous spot. I really savoured it and glad I did as I didn’t realise the price! On way home now for a cup of tea but stuck on M1.

@43ontherocksporfavor that sounds lovely 😍
I think that is the way forward you know, expensive drinks definitely have to savor it then! 😆
I think having a drink last night sort of did me a favor as it has reinforced the fact that I'm not that bothered about having a drink at the moment!!

How's everyone getting on this week xxx we are out for a family meal on Saturday evening, I've decided I'm not going to have a drink, I want to really enjoy the food as the menu sounds amazing!!

Hi, not had a drink since Sunday’s glass of red. Not even thinking about it now. I have a BIG black tie event on Saturday. Went last year and it was a heavy night. The group we are going with are big drinkers. I’m not sure how I will feel but last year had drinks before we went so that won’t be happening.There will be free fizz on arrival so I may have one of those and then see how I feel.

@43ontherocksporfavor ooo a lovely chance to get dressed up and feel fabulous , have a wonderful evening 😀😍

Hi 👋 I'm still teetotal and in my 6th week, unbelievable!

I'm starting to think about drinking less and less. But, when I do fancy a drink I'm still thinking in terms of having a bottle. So not going there yet.

I'm just going to keep on the way I am for now. I'm sure December will be when I break my fast, so to speak!

I have my birthday then and obviously Christmas stuff.

@Thornrose ,❤️❤️ wow that's amazing well done xx I bet you're feeling amazing, think of how fantastic you are going to feel by the end of November if you carry on like this.
You might find that if you do have a drink you won't be able to have a full bottle because you've got out of the habit and your tolerance level will have reduced!

@Thornrose what an achievement. You’re obviously stronger than you thought so I think you shouldn’t write yourself off. I stopped counting but pretty happy to have only had one glass of wine since 28/9 I think. I agree with @PeacheyPeach in that you’ll be tipsy quickly.