Day 1 for anyone just starting out

[Justdonthavethefirstone]

Hi all. This is my day 1. I have joined some other threads for support but thought I would start a new one for anyone just starting out on this journey. I have a drink problem. It got worse over lockdown.i have had day 1 before and failed but this time I am starting off prepared. I have books to read. I have joined Mumsnet for support and have told my family and friends.

So encouraging to hear every waking moment isn't spent thinking about boozing by day 24! Starting to wonder if I'll be better when I'm back to work next week as I'll be busier.

I've been invited to a child birthday bbq on Saturday (where parents will be offered wine and beer), and the pub with friends sat avo too. I'm feeling confident ish about resisting at both but also nervous it'll be hard and I'll feel bored/boring

First drink buzz is fabulous. My first drink now only lasts about 5 mins sadly 😂

Just catching up on the thread, nodding along. So much resonates with me. Alcohol has taken up so much head space for so long. Its cost me a fortune, I've piled on weight. I've had enough. I want to be sober.

Day 3 today and starting to feel more human after a 2 day hangover. Passed a shop on the way home and the thought of buying wine popped in to my head, habit i guess. I'm eating everything in sight at the moment but going with it for now.

Finished the Alcohol lied to me book, found it really helpful. Am reading love yourself sober now which I definitely recommend. They are big on self care and sober treats and I'm fully embracing the sober treats.

Hi everyone, just checking in, well done everyone.
I have some sleeping tablets from Dr this morning.
I really hope I can finally get some sleep tonight.
I don't want to rely on them long term.
Just a few nights proper sleep is all I want
Keep going everyone

@Ynwa1234 well done I’ve read all your posts and really am in awe, I don’t know how you’re doing ciggies and booze on top of all the other sh!t ! Some of your posts have nearly had me reconsidering trying for a baby hahaha. Sending positive vibes and strength your way xx

Well done everyone! I'm so pleased you have some tablets newest hope they help you to get some sleep

New you will probably find you only need a few days of the tablets to reset you. I didn't have any and found my sleep took about 3 weeks. Not sleeping really reduces your tolerance and then I think it's harder to resist the alcohol. Hope you get some much need sleep. You may feel a little groggy the next day but so worth it.

Hi Ynwa I too am in awe with how you are coping, day 11 and quit smoking that's amazing. I have managed to stop my anti depressants which I have previously failed to do. Next week I will look at diet and exercise. Need to stop buying chocolate though. Have a good night everyone.

Hope you get a decent nights sleep new.

Well done everyone for carrying on today.

Fingers crossed!!

Morning everyone, welcome Cosmo. Its getting longer to read now which is bloody terrific. Stories really keep me going. Hope you got sleep newer and hats off pants and everyone else.

I can see us with a 'day 1 stopping eating chocolate soon' but anything that keeps us off the liquor hey.

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So this is going to be my day 66 look forward too treat. She buys it as presents for friends and says skin is glowing :) I'm normally a very cheap product type.

Ymna you definitely need a treat giving up smoking too

Kids were demonic after school and creche yesterday hopefully they will settle down

Ymna I couldn't run a bath, let alone go to a gym :) I would use YouTube fitness and yoga videos. Although I've been lazy recently. Think it's more about fitness for MH for me, weight can wait

Morning all. I'm gonna stop being lazy and rtft today as I can't keep up with everyone's circumstances and stories!!

Day 3 for me today. This is my first ever time of giving up with the exception of pregnancies when I was thankfully nauseous and didn't want to drink. I was straight back on it after every time though! I've never even done dry Jan or anything like that as I've reasoned that I'm sure I could do it but id just be so miserable what was the point. Seems obvious now that should have been telling me something...

Ynwa, well done on the cigs too. To do both together must be very hard. I'll get up to speed properly when I read the thread but I feel your pain with children everywhere!

I think I'll definitely need a day one giving up chocolate soon OrchidJewel , most off my clothes are too small for me.

I hope you got a good night's sleep newernewest I don't know how you've coped.

Well done on getting off the ADs Rupertpenrysmistress I'm trying to get off mine. I stopped drinking the first few weeks on then and felt bloody amazing...then started having the odd glass of wine and we all know how that ends.

Trying for a baby is a great incentive to stop Maloney123 we're trying to decide whether to go for a second next year.

My dd is my biggest incentive to stop drinking but she's probably also my biggest trigger (feel bad saying that!) she's a proper little threenager. Also the fact that booze is everywhere.

I hope everyone has a good day, I'm finally getting my hair done. It's a mess and my roots are ridiculous.

Ymna I can relate to your stories about your DC I am lucky as mine are 11&12 so are somewhat easier. MN is a funny place I sometimes read the threads and wonder if people say what they think they should. When we are honest with each other life is alot easier, we should not be ashamed. Kids are flipping hard work and yes they can make you feel like drinking but, we know it does not need to be this way. To anyone thinking of having DC on this thread they really are the most amazing thing but, you never know guilt until you experience mother guilt.

Orchid we will need a chocolate detox thread and soon at this rate.

hazelnutmochi I agree when I first quit I think I felt the full effect of my ads and felt fantastic. However I don't want to stay on them, I am not sure but I think they make me feel.less if that makes sense. Anyway I have been on ads for years and have tried to quit before but I have failed horribly, the side effects were so bad. Anyway long story short, I have cut down slowly and combined with being sober I am not feeling many side effects, just a weird dizzy/head zap type thing.

Will try to stay of chocolate today 🤣.

I love this thread everyone is so supportive I have been on other threads but, I love the honesty of this thread.

Well done everyone another day down and half way through the next nearly 😂 you’re all doing so amazing.

I wouldn’t pay any attention to what other people say about raising any of your kids. You don’t need to worry about judgement on top of trying to stay sober! My mum used to say don’t face everything head on, break it up into chunks and one thing at a time. So drink / booze first; then maybe chocolate or whatever, then the gym. Or even just going for walks? Although the weather is pants!

Hope everyone’s having a good day and @Newernewist you managed to get some sleep x

Well.......
I got 9 hrs straight sleep.
I feel reborn

So pleased to hear new makes staying sober so much easier.

Rupert, yes, being honest about how bloody hard life with kids can be is definitely important... it is easy to get into a habit of feeling the need to put on a perfect face or pretending everything is fine and easy, lalalalalala.... I have three under ten and it is TOUGH sometimes and yes I did used to pour wine after hard days with them.... and then hate myself for it, and if course just end up grumpy and hungover tthe next day, which obviously does not help my relationship with them at all!

I have made it to 14 days! I have seen other people talk about having a regular Friday treat, so something to reward yourself with instead of wine.... I think I will try this as Friday evening was always, always wine time and is definitely a day I find hard. Does anyone else do this?

I have had a few wine thoughts through my head over the past few days but am trying to shut them up immediately, literally saying NO! out loud.... debating with "the voice" is fatal as it is so persuasive and cunning! I also speak to myself like a little child and explain to myself whatI know deep down (that all I really want is one glass, but it will actually be four large glasses, and I will wake up feeling like utter shit and be massively depressed to be back to day 1 again). I think I am finally past any thoughts of trying to convince myself that I can moderate, in the longer term at least.

I wonder whether the cravings and random thoughts of wine ever truly go away...? I hope so! How are those of you a bit further down the line finding it in terms of thoughts of booze?

Fantastic new!