Wankerbastards move to 2020. With moderatin' a plenty. We rage against flouncers, strops and teens, and of dryness we have big dreams. We want teacups not fuckups!

[Frouby]

Thread 9 for the tryers to be dryers. Join us if you want some support to reduce alcohol. All welcome for support, laughs and moderating.

Will tag a few peoples name I can spell as I am useless at clicky links.

@flossie
@madameforest
@longestlurkerever
@dionoysa
@waterandlemonjuice

I want to be in the love nest too, NC4.

I should be doing all kinds of things, but am dicking around occupying myself usefully on the internet as DD is at her Dad's.

I think you and I could safely go out for a drink together because I lust after men in Proper Shoes so we would not be competing for the same men.

Have spent the last two days soliciting work, to not much avail (yet). Trying to get work feels like having a job.

Oh god, I can totally relate to that last line Dion. It's either feast or famine for me. Looking/pitching is a full time job in itself. Are you looking for employment or self employed opportunities?

Luckily (where my bills are concerned) it's been feast here the last few weeks, but it's always a bit precarious.

I think we'd have a great night out if we could decide where to go

Now here's a thing on the dating front...

I'm so over my comfortable weight at the moment. I'm usually curvy, size 14 ish but I'm currently rocking an 18 and feeling rubbish. I can't decide whether to hold off till I'm back feeling confident or find someone who doesn't care. Is it a bit messed up that I want someone with high standards?

These are not dry musings btw.

Not been here ages.

Not at. Not AT ALL

loving the FM memories too. However remember him for instigating Bumsex talk too.
Madame...it really was a romantic tale in terms of his ex too. Wasn’t it. Soooo glad it worked out. You seem mega happy. 💖

NC4 and Dion - I too would be looking for shiny ‘proper shoes’ and a smart shirt rather than a tracksuit. Is that my age?? I’d also look for soft hands and kind eyes!!!!! God I sound like my gran!!

Anyway......far too much shit to even think of being af right now. Couldn’t even contemplate the thought. Not sure If that makes me an utter failure.....but not sure how else to cope....

Af. Not ‘at’

Hello flossie we missed you. How are your dds?

Wasn't AF last night despite feeling rough. Had a few beers with dh and came up to bed at about 8.30ish 😂. Feel much better this morning, felt absolutely lousy the last few days.

Not much planned today. Making Mexican eggs for brunch. Dd going kayaking apparently. Ds going to my cousins for a couple of hours to make a reward chart on her laser thing. Im working for an hour then going to do some shopping and then hopefully get some housework done. Don't think I will be dry. But definitely will be moderate.

FLOSSIE!!! I was wondering where you'd got to? Hope everything's OK love.

I don't know if I can be arsed with Dry Jan anymore. DS is determined to ruin me, so why am I bothering? I've been walking round with a massive scowl on my face all day - I hope the wind doesn't change. It's not good for the old wrinkles situation anyway. FML.

I'm taking my mum to see Little Women later. Kind of wish I hadn't promised that, but I have now. At least no-one can see my scowl in the dark cinema.

Flossie, lovely to hear from you, even though it sounds like you're going through a tough time still.

Nc4, sorry you've had a shit day too, hope little women is enjoyable. I sacked off dry jan at a similar point i think. Just got a bit gloomy really and i wasn't sure what i was trying to prove. My heart was never really in it to start with though, i was just supporting dh. Whereas moderation i.am determined to crack! I think i have stuck to my modest new year's resolutions so far.

My day has been quite nice. Lovely sunshine so did park run and finally got my stomp across the heath and highgate mooch in, though charity shop purchases were all child-oriented.

Knackered now though and have agreed to play a family board game fml. Will need wine after that though dh was chirruping about maybe being AF tonight.

Anyone heard from leavingaqaba lately?

I haven't longest. Think mid January always a hard time to moderate, nothing else happening, everyone skint, weather shite.

Been nice this morning though, beautiful winters day. Been to ponies, been to allotment for an hour and just having a coffee before I chuck Hoover around. Won't be dry today despite usually being dry on sundays. Made an executive decision to finish the bottle of wine off I opened last night. Just under half a bottle so will be moderate. If I don't drink it tonight I will drink it tomorrow anyway so may as well get rid of the temptation and I really fancy a drink today.

Will aim for dry tomorrow and Tuesday though. And if not dry, moderate at least.

I did not moderate last night. Rough weekend with DS. I’ve not improved things for myself. Back to AF today I think.

Flossie it's so nice to see you here again. What's up? You can tell us here.

Water I hope you had a nice weekend.

Dion how are you?

NC4 which DS is driving you to drink? I'm so sorry. Coping with 2 adolescent DS as a single mum must be so hard.

Frouby I'm with you, half a bottle then as from tomorrow I'm determined to do at least 3 days AF again. The only problem for me is sleeping. I don't sleep when AF, I don't sleep when not AF. I'm so tired, not physically as I can still run and swim miles, but I look like a panda. Not sure if it is menopause related or a lack of some vitamin or another. If going AF helped I would, but it doesn't seem to make any difference now. Still, at least with AF nights the overall alcohol consumption has halved, so that's good.

Insomnia’s a bitch Madame. You have my sympathy. Nothing worse than lying awake, brain ticking over, especially if there’s someone sleeping next to you (cats excluded).

It’s DS1 giving me grey hairs. He’s always been a handful, but he’s especially so at the moment. MissPT kept him on the straight and narrow largely, and without college, a job or a sensible girlfriend he’s a loose cannon. Hopefully his course will calm him down but I’m on pins every time he goes out.

I’ve just started watching Deadwater Fell. Is anyone else watching it? Frouby maybe? You like a good crime drama. It’s shaping up to be quite intriguing...

I can answer for the lovely Dion! We have been sharing a fabulous pizza and a slightly rough bottle of hoise red

Ha ha at NC4 and Dionysa lusting after different types of men.

Nc4, sorry your ds is giving you worries, I hope things improve. Ikwym, my ds’s last girlfriend kept him calm too. You’ve done so well on AF so a couple of days this weekend is deserved I reckon. I’d say go for it on the dating front, remember you were chatted up by a younger man pretty recently so I wouldn't put your love life on hold for a few stone.

Madame, sorry to hear of insomnia- dh suffers too and I know it really affects him. I bought him a weighted blanket for xmas and he reckons it’s helped, might be worth a try.

Welcome back lovely Flossie! You’re so not a failure, not at all.

We’ve had an amazing weekend. Loads of food, wine, snogging, sleeping and films. It’s not quite over as dh has tomorrow off so we’re going out for lunch - dd is back later tonight but will be at school during the day tomorrow. So I will be drinking but back to AF from Tuesday onwards. I’m quite looking forward to it, I had a hangover this morning although it was sorted by drinking lots of water and going back to sleep and I did not like it at all.

What, why did m post vanish? The lovely Dion asked me to update on her behalf as she is without internet, but she's gadding about living the high life and we just shared a scrummy pizza, slightly rougher bottle of house red and much chat. On the bus home now. Full scale reunion next time!

Sorry to hear about Ds, NC4. I hoped he'd be riding high on his traineeship.

Happy to hear tales from the water love nest.

Oh longest, you mean you met IRL? Or did you know each other before? How lovely either way!

NC4 so sorry ds is making life tricky currently. They have a nack to it somehow. What’s he up to? It’s so much easier when they have a girl to kee them in tow
Like water said.allow yourself a blip and don’t punish yourself. You know you can do af. So do it when you find strength again. I’m sure you won’t have to wait long.

Frouby - I agree..crisp winter mornings are beautiful. And good for the soul for sure.

Water - your love nest sounds wonderful. I love that you and dh are so openly in love. It makes me have faith in love.

Madame - insomnia is indeed a bitch!! Have you tried hypnotherapy??

Longest and Dion - I thought of you loads. Hope you had a wonderful catch up. How did you spot each other?! I did have a chuckle imagining you wearing a red rose or funny hat. Your dinne A wounded perfect. I missed you both by 2 days. I’m in London on Tuesday eve!!

As for my shit...it’s prob too outing. Dd2 is going downhill which is so tough and leaves me feeling so helpless.
And dd1 has been diagnosed with arthritis. Wtf. It’s fine in that it’s not life threatening obviously so it’s easy to deal with compared with dd2. It’s just the extra appointments and thinking that’s needed. I have no space for thinking anymore. It’s hard to engage any kind of conversation without tripping over my words through sheer emotional exhaustion.
On top, I’ve huge health anxiety right now. Again a fear of loosing control. Having all kinds of pains and panicking I have cancer or liver failure. And not even got time to afdress it, physically or emotionally.

BUT I also know I shouldn’t moan. I see people so much worse off and coping so much better. I just don’t know how!! IRL you wouldn’t tell by looking at me that I’m struggling. I hate people knowing. I just need a rock to climb under occasionally, have a scream and climb back out!! And if there’s a gin bar under that rock....all the better!!!!!

Longest and Dion. I did mean your dinner sounded perfect . Have no idea what bloody predictive text decided to write 🤣

Fucking hell, that’s hard Flossie, sending you good thoughts and strength and hoping everything improves 💐

Oh Flossie. Why is life so cruel? I just want to yell at the gods to give you a break!

Yes, we met up IRL for the first time. I'd obviously suggested a bar that was shut and in darkness, so Dion was quite easy to spot in the end! Am home now and turning in. Night all!

Morning all

Weljel of a meet up, but far too anti social to actually attempt to arrange it 😂😂😂.

flossie your poor dds. And poor you. Life is just so hard sometimes. I wouldn't be remotely dry either.

Wasn't dry yesterday purely because DH annoyed me on the allotment. I have left him to it for the last couple of months because there hasn't been much to do. Went up yesterday to start prepping and couldn't find half my tools I have asked him repeatedly not to move. And to put back where he finds them. He's been cutting stuff back too enthusiastically and was bossing me around like he was Head Gardener at Balmoral and I was a YTS lass.

Told him if he wanted to be in charge to crack on, but he can do all the sowing, thinning, planting out, weeding and harvesting all spring and summer. Had 3 beers and a huge glass of wine which was realistically 1/3 of a bottle.

NC I am watching Deadwater Fell, watched the second one last night. It's very gripping. White House Farm is also very good. Also got Cobra (sky 1 I think or possibly Netflix) lined up to watch and the new series of Vera to start. Love a good crime drama!

Ds back at school today thank fook. Off to ponies straight from school, then some work to do. Will be dry tonight. Got banging headache this morning from yesterdays little afternoon sesh 😎.

Pmsl at head gardener at Balmoral Frouby 😂 when dh and I are cooking together and I boss him about he says “yes Mrs Patmore, no Mrs Patmore” as he says I’m treating him like Daisy from Downtown Abbey 😂

Dd was talking to me until 1.30am and then fell asleep in my bed, aahhh, it was nice. But she was telling me about one of her friends (they’re all 15 or 16) being catcalled at the airport 😡 and so I had nightmares about her being assassinated. Dhand I were trying to protect her but the assassins had sophisticated tracking devices and so did we but theirs were better. That’ll be a combination of watching the latest Terminator film, 2 episodes of Dr Who and a shit film with Liam Neeson killing people (Cold Pursuit, it’s terrible!) plus dd being home having been in another country for 3 days.

So I’m knackered but it’s fine, she’s at school and dh and I are going out for lunch in half an hour while my cleaner is here. Last night I put all my sexy underwear in the wash and dried it and put it away because I didn’t really want her to see it and go “ooh, they’ve had a busy weekend” god, how silly is that? My normal underwear isn’t awful but is plain and black so she would notice the difference between that and my little lacy numbers 😂

Lol at hiding your posh pants from the cleaner 😂😂😂.

I have to keep hiding my reusable sanpro from ds. He keeps nicking them out of my drawer to make sleeping bags and trampolines for his figures.

I once ordered some xxl ones from an ebay site. They came and they were fucking huge, about 15 inch long. He was 3 at the time and he pinched them and put them round his legs like pony travel boots 😂😂😂.

Ponies done, chickens done, work done but house fucking trashed. Fml. Need to set off and do school run after this coffee and then am cooking a full roast dinner.

Am sick of spending what seems like all afternoon on a Sunday cooking a roast. Going to swap it to Monday I think but it's still a pita. Cooking is the bane of my life.

Well am dry tonight by the skin of my teeth. Found my nice bottle of fizzy plonk I bought for Christmas day today was shoved at back of crisp/pop cupboard and we've only just got to the end of them. Was tempted to shove it in fridge for tonight but sm saving it for Friday I think when me and dh have our annual celebration of Making It To Payday post Christmas Without Selling A Kidney/The Dog/Child or soul to the devil.

It's always a long run. We got paid last on 20th December and that was only for 1 week as dh was off from the 13th. And then he has had to do 2 weeks in hand again. It's fucking brutal. Say every year am going to put some money away each week to cover it, but obviously by the time we've been paid properly again I forget the pain.

Dinner was lush. Am absolutely stuffed now. Going to let it settle, have a cuppa then go to bed.

I hear you Frouby. Just got the "you are in your overdraft" text and it's only the 20th, fml. I did book Venice flights and deposit on holiday cottage thoigh so think i can legitimately raid the joint account to pay myself back, though we need that money to get the house repairs done. The whole garden wall collapsed, for one. Am AF too though, so that's something! Only really just sat down after clearing up worst of living room chaos. Have shut door on kitchen and am ignoring kids' rooms.