Wankerbastards move to 2020. With moderatin' a plenty. We rage against flouncers, strops and teens, and of dryness we have big dreams. We want teacups not fuckups!

[Frouby]

Thread 9 for the tryers to be dryers. Join us if you want some support to reduce alcohol. All welcome for support, laughs and moderating.

Will tag a few peoples name I can spell as I am useless at clicky links.

@flossie
@madameforest
@longestlurkerever
@dionoysa
@waterandlemonjuice

No proms here in France thank goodness! At least not yet.
Had a very wet and windy run here this evening, and the same expected tomorrow morning. Once you are out in it it's fine and lovely coming back to the warmth of the wood burner.
Blood tests all absolutely normal which is probably a bad thing as even less incentive to stop drinking. Although I'm on Day 2 largely thanks to the fact that OH wants to lose some weight and I don't enjoy drinking alone.
Dion is your pain still bad? At least the DC are back at school.

Prom is definitely a 4 letter word in this house. She hasn't mentioned it tonight though, she knows when not to push her luck.

We definitely need to keep posting even when we are wet. At least when we are posting we are at least thinking about being dry, even when we are wet!

Dry here. Just. Had a pint of lemonade with a fuckton of ice just to keep me out of the gin cupboard. But then sat thinking which gin would go best with ice cold lemonade 🙈.

Just put White House Farm on, it's very gritty.

My DS was banned from the prom 🤦🏼‍♀️
I love him dearly but I wish he’d just bloody behave himself once in a while.
He’s giving me grey hairs again this week but I think something’s switched in my head. At one point today I thought ‘well at least I’m not hungover’, which usually I would be on a week like this.

Glad the bloods are ok Madame. I get what you mean about the warmth of the woodburner. I dragged my arse out to body combat tonight. It did me the world of good mentally and I had THE BEST shower ever afterwards! Is there any better shower than when you’re totally worn out and every muscle aches?

The heating goes off at 9.30 here and I’m out of logs so I’m going to head to bed and put the telly on. I fancy White House Farm too actually - thanks for reminding me Frouby.

Glad the bloods are ok madame. Coming back to a warm fire sounds lovely.

Dion urgh at enormous bills, me too recently, as you know. I haven’t paid the boiler one yet even either, nearly £3k, fgs. Could you run up a dress on a sewing machine? Impressive if so! Dd wants to buy hers soon which would be good in a way, get some of the expense over with.

longest I hope you had a nice lunch with dh.

NC4 you’re on day 14 I reckon, well done. Interesting about the switch in your head, I had that in November when things were grim with my ds and I was AF most of the month, I went from “I want to drink wine to cope” to “at least I’m not hungover so I’m coping better” - maybe we are unlearning some bad habits a bit?

Today I took dd to the GP, went to get her prescription, shopped at Tesco while it was being filled, made packed lunches for dh, took dd to school, drove ds back to university which is 2 hours each way and made it home by 2.30 so that was good. Had lunch and a nan nap on the sofa under a cat from 3.30-4.30 so that was nice. It’s blowing a gale here too and pouring down. Feel quite happy but looking forward to not getting up early tomorrow as I’ve been up at 6 or 7 for 4 days out of the last 5 and its wiped me out. I can’t believe it’s only Tuesday.

Frouby well resisted on the gin and lemonade!

Hi everyone. Just checking in. AF, but have totally overeaten to compensate.

Good luck all with prom drama. Hope you find affordable dresses.

Good news on the blood tests, Madame, and well done NC4 on a second amazing AF stretch. And water too i think?

I had a reasonably tough day at work and then helped kids do science experiments at woodcraft. They were pretty sweet really. Now mid watching a film but it's gone a bit surreal and i have got bored.

Mme i just read about a french marathon with wine and cheese breaks!

NC4 well done on getting out to your exercise class. The after feeling of a good work out is much better than alcohol and drugs!
Longest and Frouby well done on resisting temptation and being AF.
Water I hope you enjoy your lie in today. I'm sadly a morning person and am up early even at the weekend, but struggle to make it past 11pm in the evening. Slept a little better last night despite the wind howling.
Yes, the marathon is the Marathon de Medoc - every 5 kms there are water stations serving wine and at the end the food stations serve oysters and beef. I've never done it as it is in the beginning of September and I have bookings and the DC school, but a lot of my friends have. You dress up too, it's the only marathon where fancy dress is done. I prefer to run a marathon as quickly as possible and it's difficult to the the M de M in under 5 hours if you do all the wine tasting.
Off for a run now in the wind and rain, the worst that can happen is a tree falls on me or the dog.

Hello all. Thanks Madame, I loved my lie in, 11.30pm - 9.30am last night, fabulous! I’m just about to have a shower, how lazy!

Today is day 11 AF. 🌟 to me!

I have ordered some of the lovely wine that was given to us in our holiday cottage so will drink that at the weekend though. I hope everyone is having a good week.

madame you are an inspiration with your exercise! I wish I could be as motivated. Good news about the blood results, tho as you say no incentive to stop drinking. How is your thyroid doing atm?

Cold and blustery here. Decided BabyPony has had enough of a Christmas break and lunged her this morning. Jesus fuck she was full of herself. Argybargy on yard, then an absolute baggage to lunge. Was like trying to hang onto a very determined charging rhino the fat cow. I will ache tomorrow but have had a good work out. Bit of aquaplaning across sand school, plenty of resistance work and it definitely got my heart rate up. She eventually settled and then was tired from her exertions so wasn't impressed at being made to trot round 😂😂😂.

Got swimming lesson for ds tonight. Fml. Hate swimming lessons but needs must. Then am having a lovely bath to try and soak some ache out and a big fat gin. Dry tomorrow tho.

Frouby it sounds like BabyPony doesn't like exercise much! I'm sure the little work out did her good though.
My thyroid has gone back to normal, with no medicine or surgery. The doctors are baffled, but as long as things stay like that I'm happy. I'm quite a believer that you can think yourself out of being ill for some things. I looked back over blood tests and the thyroid started to play up with OH (then forest man) started to worry me. It then went fully hyper when I found out he had started seeing his ex again. It then got better when he stopped.
AF day 3 today, OH would have drank a glass of wine despite his diet, I said no. He is signing tomorrow to sell the forest so he is no longer Forest Man and by default me no longer Madame F, but I'll keep the name for the time being. No doubt we will celebrate the sale tomorrow evening so there won't be a Day 4 this week!

Ahhh he will always be forest man to us 😂😂. She definitely didn't want to work today. Her mates were down field filling their faces so she was fuming. She's not normally a baggage to be fair but yard owner been poorly all week with shingles so her boyfriend being doing the ponies and she will have taken the Michael out of him and got away with blue murder so just trying it on and being a brat.

I've only had 1 gin. Don't feel too good. Ds came out of school feeling sick so we didn't go swimming and he's very off it. And then I started feeling rough, had a gin to see if it made me feel better but it didn't. Now got stomach cramps and diarrhoea and also feel a bit nauseous. Lovely.

Am not going to bed yet. Loo on ground floor is easier to get to in an emergency 💩💩💩

Oh heck Frouby, that doesn't sound good 😕 Hope you make it through the night without being stricken.
And Madame, he will remain Forest Man on here!
I don't know where today's gone. But A Good Thing has happened. DS1 has been accepted into an engineering traineeship, It's with a really good training provider and they will help him brush up his CV and get a job. He did his assessments today and stormed them.
He's a different lad tonight to the one who was in such a terrible state at the weekend.
Being unemployed and out of education has been catastrophic for him, so we're both hopeful this is the fork in that road.
I rounded the day off with a kickass weights session. My arse is killing me 😂
I'm genuinely enjoying AF at the moment though.
Day 15 - wtf?!!

Ah, NC4, i am grinning from ear to ear at that news. Well done all of you!

And one day I'd love to hear why forest man is forest man. Congratulations on the sale.

Not AF. Stuck at sharing a bottle is as good as i can say.

So glad to read about DS, NC4. That must be an immense relief. I can't believe you've kept up the AF as well.

Madame, he will always be Forest Man to us.

Frouby, I hope you weren't up all night either with DS or with yourself.

Water, you are doing brilliantly too. And no, I couldn't run up a Prom dress! I used to make my own clothes, but they were much more basic than that, and I've long forgotten how to do it.

Had about a third of a bottle of red last night, because it was there. The only good thing is that I didn't then have anything else afterwards.

I have decided not to make any resolutions at all about being AF even for one night, as I just fail and then get pissed off with myself as well, for not having stuck to my resolution. I am going to work on the basis that if I happen to manage to be AF, it is a bonus.

I do know I feel better when I don't drink so much. It's not rocket science, but it's strangely hard to put it into practice.

Nc4, so pleased to hear it about ds, that’s brilliant news. Anger and stroppiness are often masking other emotions in my ds’s case, I know. And whoever said you can only ever be as happy as your unhappiest child had a good point. You are doing brilliantly on AF and exercise.

Frouby, I hope your night was uneventful!

Dion, I think that’s a good approach, good plan. Ikwym about feeling guilty, me too. ah, I see about prom dress running up. As I can mess up even sewing on a button I’m still impressed.

Day 12 AF for me today. I signed up again for the Dry January app as yesterday it was telling me 11 days AF but only 8 days in the whole year and month and that wasn’t right. So if I sign in as me I can see the history from last year (which is quite motivating, I like seeing a sea of teacups in November and January although some months shouldn’t be mentioned, as we know) but now it’s showing me 12 days AF this month and this year so that’s good.

My bottles of wine just arrived and are in the fridge for tomorrow. I am going to pretend they’re not there until then especially as I am getting up at 2am to drop dd off for her school trip.

Slept for 8 hours last night but feel meh, I’ve been eating loads more sugar than usual and that’s got to stop.

Madame, that’s so good about your thyroid, wow.

Longest sharing a bottle is moderating, I’d be happy with that.

That's brilliant news NC, engineering is a big thing right now and probably a real growth trade/skill sector. I wish DD was interested in it, I did think at one point her maths would take her down that route. She went on a couple of STEM days with school and really enjoyed them, but it looks like she is going more down the literary route, which surprised me massively as she has always said English was her weakest subject. She did some assessments in January and got a 7 in language and an 8/borderline 9 in literacy so seems to have found her mojo on that, and a drama module with performance and report was also an 8/9.

Uneventful night thankfully. But I have woken up feeling lousy. Have a banging headache and feel really weak and wobbly. Kept ds off because he just wasn't right last night after school and if he feels like me he will feel shocking.

Have had a coffee and 2 ibuprofen and feel a bit sick again. Fml. Going to tidy round, put a stew in for dinner tonight and then try and do an hours work.

Ah Frouby, sorry you're ill. Take care of yourself.

Mme, that's amazing about your thyroid.

NC4 I hope you are still walking on air re ds.

Dion, guilt is such an unproductive emotion. I don't find it very motivating. Yes, i want to be healthy and i don't want to waste time being hungover, but ultimately there's no final reckoning where i will be judged as having lived a virtuous enough life so it's up to me how much weight to put on this issue really.

Frouby I hope you are feeling better

NC4 that's brilliant news about DS1! Engineering is one of the most important studies and careers here in France. DS1 will be so employable.

Longest you are right about balancing guilt and getting pleasure out of life. Resolutions don't generally work,you need to change habits completely. I'd be happy with having 2 or 3 day AF and sharing a bottle of wine on the other nights. The problem is that sometimes half a bottle isn't enough!
OH is Forest Man because when I met him he had flats but also a forest where he lived in his caravan. His bachelor pad. I spent happy times there with him in the summer until I discovered he had a GF (Mme Bourgeoise) who didn't like the forest. It was all a little complicated for quite a long while but he ended up marrying me. She wasn't happy.
Won't be dry tonight, will share a bottle of red with OH with pizza.

❤️ at Madame’s Forest man story...

Hello, how is everyone today?

I dropped dd off for her school trip at 3am so was up at 2am then went back to sleep at 4.30 but was woken by the window cleaner at 9.30 so that was a shame...but hey, I suppose I can go back to sleep later, I’m lucky in that.

Dh and I have decided to stay in tonight and cook and we’re really looking forward to it. We’re going to start with a cocktail 🍸 then we’re having a tapas type starter of padron peppers; chorizo; goats cheese with orange blossom honey (3 separate dishes, not all together) then a main of duck breasts with sides of hasselback potatoes (ready made from Waitrose), broccoli and green beans. We’re going to havea real fire in the kitchen and music and the lovely wine I ordered. And maybe a film after dinner. 🙂 so I won’t be AF but looking forward to a lovely evening. Will drink lots of water too as I can’t face the idea of a hangover.

Aw, sounds amazing water, though you're remarkably chipper for someone who got up at 3am. Why do schools do that to parents??

I won't be AF either, though i was yesterday. Tis friday after all. Dsis and toddler DNiece and baby Dnephew are coming round later.

Might go for a swim later though i did tell my neighbour who is going through a tough time that she's welcome to come round and not sure if she is or not so awkwardly waiting. She's another person awaiting worrying scan results. Have everything crossed for her.

Oh she's just texted and isn't coming. Swimming it is then!

Oh God, Longest, too many people waiting for scan results

Water, that sounds absolutely amazing! Enjoy it!

Lovely to be reminded of the FM histoire, MadameF ❤️

Hope you and DS feel better for a quiet day at home, Frouby.

Not AF.

Once again wishing I was in Waters love nest! It sounds lush. I might dip my toe into OLD again soon. It could be a distraction.
I keep lusting after men in Adidas originals.
That’s another week survived. A fucking rollercoaster if I’m honest, but it’s done. I’ll spend half the weekend catching up on all the work I’ve got behind on with all the other madness that’s been going on, but I can do that.
At least the house is spotless. DS wanted to go to drum n bass night tonight, I wanted him to go to his dads, so he’s sucking up to me. It worked too, so he’s off out dancing.
I’m considering sacking off dry jan for tonight. It could go either way....