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[Frouby]

Thread 8 for Tryers to be Dryers.

Join in for help and support and lots of laughs to reduce alcohol. Whatever you want to achieve with your alcohol intake, whether it's alcoholidays, dry days, less booze in general we are all in the same boat.

More threads floating around but I can't do clicky links. Just look for Wankerbastards and you will find us.

Well have built the bloody kallax. And moved the old cabinet out of the way, emptied all the shite off it and now just having a coffee while I wait for cousin to come help me shift kallax to where it needs to be.

I would be raging too flossie, dickhead. He wouldn't have fallen asleep if he was with friends. Yay for a dry night though!

Have definitely got Birdflu. Sweating cobs building kallax and all shakey and it's not that difficult.

House is bombed now as well. Fml.

Birdflu - gah!! Hope you feel better soon.

I’ve broken down on school run. (Car, not me..Altho close second!!) Now waiting forever courtesy car firm to collect me!! Fml over and over!!

Why is it..as soon as you feel a little strong to become dryer..life fucks it up!

Nowt worse than a Wankerbastard car. Our are both due MOT next week. Mine should be OK but bit worried about dhs. If we can get another year out of it that would be ideal.

Have sorted 5 bags for life of paperwork we no longer need. Some of it was 2008 ffs. Business and personal shit. Also emptied 2 big metal filing boxes of shite, a huge pile of filing and started on the kitchen drawers. Just having a coffee, going to make stew for later then feed chooks, collect ds and then start actually cleaning. Kallax looks much better than old bookcase though. And hides the shite much better.

Am not sure if I am sneezing now cos birdflu or cos dust.

Can I ask you Aibu. I trust you guys like mates.

Am so knackered and my car pissed me off. I called my mum and had a cry as I’m so bloody knackered!! I’m supposed to be driving to Gloucester on wed to my cousins husbands funeral. Picking mum up on route. It’s 9hrs round trip plus extra hour picking mum up and dropping her off. She’s saying she’s now refusing to get in car with me as I’m too tired to drive!! Also saying I should get hotel somewhere. I’ve never stayed away from dd2 so don’t want to now, for the funeral!! I’d rather not go!! It’s hard enough to go for that long in the day, without an overnight. Put it this way..our nurse assessment says 2:1 to look after her. So it’s a big ask emotionally for me to be so far away.
My mums arsey and told me I’m being unreasonable and one night won’t hurt etc etc. It just doesn’t sit right with me. She’s even asked me to find out taxi prices. For 10hr trip!!!!!!!
Neither of my sisters or brother are going. Nor my dad. It was just my mum and I. I love the furthest away and have my poorly dd. Wtf the pressure. Yes I’d like to be there for my cousin. And I had every intention of going. Dh was even taking the day off for Dd which is unheard of.
I’m worrying about the drive.
Aibu to not go?! It’s stressing me today. I’d hate to let anyone down. Arghhh. SoOooo wanted to be dry tonight!!!!!!!

Live the furthest. Not love

Yanbfu.

Honestly just say you can't go. Lie if you have to, say you not well or dd not well or dh has to work.

Send a card to your cousin. Tell your mum to make alternative arrangements. Then turn your phone off, or just don't answer it.

It's OK to say no to some stuff. Cousin will understand and if she doesn't then don't worry about her. It's too far, too long a drive and you have too many priorities at home.

I am not going to my nephews 21st birthday party on Friday. Because it would mean leaving ds with dd, because I can't be arsed to drive 20 miles, because it's friday night and because I don't want to go. Have told dsis I won't be attending, said I cant get a babysitter and don't want to leave dd with him while am so far away and tbh a lads 21st birthday party is not my thing. She just laughed and said don't worry.

flossie don't go. No, its way too much. Draw a line. Hugs for you.

No Flossie YANBU. It's really sad about your cousin's husband but you have to put your own family first. If you could do it comfortably you would. If you could do it with a little bit of discomfort you would. But it's just not feasible for you now.
Your cousin will understand. Give her a quick call and explain, then send flowers or a donation to whichever charity they've chosen.
Then have a cup of tea xx

Can your mum get a train?

I knew I could rely on you all. Thank you so much. And I’d you’d all said go, I wouldn’t been happy with that too because I trust you all like mates. Thank you beyond words.

.....now to tell them.....

And NC4....I think the ‘then have a cuppa’ may be a little optimistic 😂

Would’ve been. Not wouldn’t been. Bloody predictive text!!

Still here! Fed up. My dd hasn’t had breakfast or lunch today, the wine witch is saying have some wine tonight 😩

Oh hedgehog. I’m so sorry. You must be so worried. What support have you got? Yup wine witch here too

I just bumped into my ‘friend’ in M&S while I was picking up a birthday cake for my mum. She asked me if I’d like to meet up later this week and I said yes, when what I meant was no.
A few minutes later my nose started to bleed from one nostril.
I fear I may have catapulted her into the Upside Down. (Stranger Things reference if you haven’t seen it).

Oh NC4. How do you feel?? How did she act?? Well done on being brave. Where are you meeting her? X

Opened the bottle in the fridge, poured a glass, downed it in one!! Fml!!

Don't beat yourself up Flossie. We've all done it. I very, very nearly had a can earlier after picking dd up. Was touch and go. Went and weighed myself and still fat so decided against it. Based purely on fat though not because I wanted to be AF.

Nc well done on speaking to her. What do you want from the meeting? Are you prepared to compromise for the holiday? Was she apologetic or arsey or anything?

Am gonna bed in a minute. Just taken 2 ibuprofen and going to read, eat a few daim bars and have a lovely sleep.

Oh God, just catching up (have been without wifi).

Flossie, YANNNNNNNBU. Another one saying don't go!!! You would worry the whole time, you're exhausted, you're only even thinking of going because you put everyone else first, all the time. What you need to do is have a quiet moment at, home even if it's just a few minutes. Good luck with telling them, and stay strong. xx

NC4, you couldn't make it up. Hugs to you.

And to you, Hedgehog. And you, Birdfluey Frouby.

It's hardly suprising we drink.

That said, my hangover was so shit yesterday that I've still got it today, so it is Day 2.

Dion - well done on day 2!! I’d be having hair of the dog by that time so I reckon you’re doing ace!!
Frouby - how’s the birdflu?? Bed and choc sounds ace?! Enjoy!!

Do any of you get acid indigestion due to alcohol?

She asked if I was ok, in a kind of sympathetic way. I think I looked sad. I felt how I feel when I see XH these days.
We’ll both be at a funeral tomorrow so it’s probably best we’ve kind of seen each other. I’ll try for a wide berth again.

flossie interesting you should ask that. The short answer for me is no, but it has come up because I was investigating/panicking about my long term sore throat. A friend told me her partner was investigated for throat cancer due to an unexplained sore throat. It turned out to be acid reflux that he didn't know he even had, not booze-related in his case though. do you get heartburn or something?

Flossie, i am glad you have decided not to go. Your siblings should be stepping up to take your mum/represent your family.

Slight fail last night. Was planning to be AF but dh had a shit day, which turned into me having a shit day even though work was ok, because he effectively said he can't look after dds after school, so we decided on wine to relax the nerves.

Slight fail for me too longest as last night was supposed to be AF in between to drinking evenings and it was just me at home with the kids. But heavy day and stuff got done. I opened wine and had a glass on the go through the 2 hours of find library books-tidy up-kids-tea-sort packed lunches etc. Then put it back in the fridge when I took the kids to bed and didn't get it out again. Less than half the bottle down and a kind of win for me even though its still units. I feel better about doing that once in a while than the AF or hammered version. I'm trying to go for AF half of the days in a month and watching excesses on other days.

longest he means can't in general as a childcare solution rather than a one off, right?