Wankerbastards and autumn weather, crunchy leaves, browning heather. We want crisp, cool days and crisp, cool wine, or beer or gin. But only a couple, as we smash moderatin'.

[Frouby]

Thread 8 for Tryers to be Dryers.

Join in for help and support and lots of laughs to reduce alcohol. Whatever you want to achieve with your alcohol intake, whether it's alcoholidays, dry days, less booze in general we are all in the same boat.

More threads floating around but I can't do clicky links. Just look for Wankerbastards and you will find us.

10 years of marriage NC4, which gets you lowly old tin as a gift, but mine was filled with chocolate and gig tickets so very pleased. We were together 12 years before we got married though.

Glad you're looking after yourself so well!

Like the attitude what's drunk is drunk. Onwards and hopefully upwards. I also have a pony. X

longest that's a lovely gift to get, I would be chuffed too.

Wasn't completely dry last night. Went to dds school for a revision festival which was basically an assembly being lectured by teachers. Sigh. No idea why they insisted parents went, it was pitched at students I thought it would be covering supporting the dcs to revise, tips and so on. They are going to push them very hard I think. It's changed from a comprehensive to an academy after a poor ofsted report after the old head teacher retired. It used to be consistently a Good school, but half the senior teaching staff retired with the old head, and various other issues. The new head is known for being uber uber strict but he does get results. Am very glad dd has her dragonboating and kayaking, hoping it takes some of the pressure off.

So we didn't get in until nearly 8pm and I had a gin, only 1 though so not a disaster.

accidental show me your pony too. Love a pony pic, mine didn't want to get out of bed yesterday to do some work. Sat on her and everything but she was adamant she wasn't getting up 😂😂. Pissing it down here this morning, not looking forward to getting wet through again. Sigh. Might give this morning a miss and try and get up tomorrow morning instead.

Won't be dry tonight, just shoved a bottle of wine in the fridge. Got a birthday party at soft play until 6.30pm with ds but will definitely need at least 1 glass afterwards.

Another for NC4. And a hug. At least you managed to treat yourself to a chicken dinner. I never bother cooking when I'm on my own.

I want your pony, Frouby. I was also invited to a revision session, but managed to slither out of it. I love toddlers, too (babies are not very interesting, even when they are my own). Toddlers are brilliant. I wouldn't want another one of my own, though. I'd settle for Longest's niece and nephew.

Happy belated anniversary, Longest. That is a fab gift.

How are you feeling, Senseless?

Stircrazy 😂 at snoring comment.

Am being quick as I am going out again in a minute. Not dry last night. Will not be dry tonight either. But at least it is in company and planned.

She's fabulous Dion, I absolutely adore her. She's kind and funny and clever and loves people so much. I got on her again today and we managed to do a little amble around the top bit of the sand school. I am really struggling without someone to help do this last bit, but I trust her not to splatter me, and am not rushing it so hopefully we will get there. As long as I don't spoil her by frightening her we will be OK.

Back from soft play party hell. Opened the wine cos soft play hell plus Friday.

Totally justifiable Frouby!

Dion enjoy your night out. I am out tonight too. Tbh am totally done in, have a soer throat and pmt and just fancy my bed but i sacked friends off to see dnephew and can't do it again. Hopefully will perk up with glass of wine though walk in pissing rain and wind not v appealing either.

Longest - I reckon a night out will be fab for you!! Enjoy darling.

NC4

Dion - have fab night out too.

Frouby- ‘one glass’?! Wowzer!!

Dh gone away on a boys night and day. I’m with dd’s. Take away and wine!! So glad this week done. Am so ashamed of my drinking levels. Pushing the fuck it button. Struggling with even moderating right now. Don’t feel I should be even here. You’re all doing so well. I’m no support to any of you. So sorry you lovely lot!!

Happy weekend

Flossie, stay with us. You are one of us. xx I am back from my night out, and am soooo not AF.

Longest, I hope you have perked up. Foul weather here too. I sacked off my bike and walked instead. Probably just as well, given what I have drunk.

Frouby, I am completely in love with Baby Pony. If I end up without DP, I will be camping on your doorstep, demanding food and a pony ride.

Relieved I don't have to do soft play any more.

flossie don't be silly, of course you belong here. It's a support thread and you offer loads of support even if you are struggling yourself you still support us. Takeaway and wine with dds sounds bliss.

Wish it had been 1 glass. Was a fecking bottle in the end and a can of beer because I drunk alldawine. Feel surprisingly OK though, was only fizzy plonk from the M and S meal deal thing so not a strong 15% potent stuff. Am slightly hungover but reckon will be ok in an hour or 2.

Busy again today. Need to get about a millionty loads of washing done, clean house, take dd to canoe polo, take ds to indoor kayaking this afternoon at a posh private schools pool up the road somewhere about 20 minutes away this afternoon and dh debating going for a few beers this afternoon so will need dropped off.

Then tomorrow have another fecking party to get to in Sheffield, then going to ikea. Hate driving in Sheffield, especially on a weekend afternoon so making dh come with me and then call at ikea on way home to pick a new kallax unit up. Chances of us falling out are pretty high 😂😂😂.

Hi everyone. Not posted for ages, but just saw your shiny new thread.

I had a very wet summer. Then dry Sept for 5 weeks, I actually did it. Now I'm a bloody lightweight haha.
I'll catch up on the thread later in bath. Away tonight without kids do dh big birthday. Posh place.. won't be dry.

I think I'm slowly winning the struggle with the wine. But the quit lit suggests there might be many relapses until you quit it altogether ... I'll just have to hope I can be one of those people who can actually drink on special occasions (eventually).
Have a good day.

That’s great Cotton. I am just about emerging from a hangover after my friend’s 40th last night. Other friend, the difficult one, turned up which was a really tough situation.
Then I stayed up getting pissed with friend’s DH and his best mate.
Off to a farm thing tonight, one of these Halloween scare fest things. It should be fun, but I’m not really feeling it tbh.
I’m a bit ‘me’ today, sorry. I’ll be back to catch up properly later.

NC4, there is no need to apologise for anything at all. Be a 'me' as you like. We will all look after you. I am a bit tempted to splurge stuff but would end up deleting posts. Huge hugs to you for the friend situation. That must have been very difficult.

I am struggling this eve. The short version is 'fucking massive fail'.

cotton what you wrote about relapses really resonated with me. I have little sparks of improvement, then a massive relapse (like last night) which makes me hate myself. Had a major dose of The Fear, and now health anxiety. Will be dragging myself through the day.

5 weeks is absolutely amazing.

Hope you survived Ikea, Frouby

Not been yet Dion it's this afternoon. Yesterday was kayak capsize training at a posh private school 11 miles away with ds. Made dh come with to help navigate. Ds did 3 normal capsizes easily, but then panicked with his spray deck on, which is a cover that holds you in the kayak. Eventually you learn to flip it back over if you capsize but the first step is releasing it under water so you fall out and come back up. He panicked, forgot to release it and got pulled free. He wasn't the only one, non of the little ones coped very well but that's why they do it indoors if they can.

But he had fun afterwards with his mates diving in the pool and generally messing around in the water. Did have to leg it and stop him taking his life jacket off though cos his mate had ditched his in the deep end. Ds, in middle of pool, jacket half off telling me he could swim cos he can do 5meters on his back in baby pool on his swimming lessons wasn't that funny 🤣🤣.

Was dry last night. Was in bed for 7.30pm, got a bug brewing I think. Got a sore throat and alldasnots. Went to sleep about 8.30pm, woke up at 11.30pm and wanted some paracetamol so fumbled in my bag in the dark and took what I thought was paracetamol. Looked this morning and it was co-codamol of DHs when he twanged his shoulder. It explains why I went back to sleep and didn't wake up til 8am 🤣🤣🤣.

To say the amount of illegal narcotics I did in my yoof I am very sensitive to prescription drugs and even otc stuff blows my head off 🙈.

Will be dry tonight as well cos it's sunday. Have a billionty things to do this week. Got the paperwork to do tomorrow for that guy, plus some of our own businesses returns and admin, ponies and chickens to do, will need to build the ikea stuff as dh will be at work, want to blitz house etc etc etc.

Need a billionty hours more in the week.

Ahh Dion has The Fear lifted? I had it yesterday too. Dry last night though, and had fun at the farm. It was actually really good arriving home at 11.30pm, stone cold sober, after a fun night out.

Frouby I love a co-codamol sleep. I take them sometimes when I get restless legs.

I feel disorganised today but the gloom is lifting. No coincidence my period started today too. I think I might get the coil back in. I think my mood/depression was better managed on it.

Snap NC4. Quite pleased with timing as go on holiday next weekend so good to get it out of the way. My moods are generally better on the copper rather than mirena coil but the heavy periods are icky.

What was the farm? Sounds fun. Went to see dsis again yesterday. Was good to see her and the little ones but still a bit worried about my dm, who is acting very oddly. Can't tell if it's health, her dp or some combination that's worrying her.

Had a nice evening with friends on froday in the end, and had friends over for lunch today. Has put paid to AF Sunday bit good to see them. Was in the middle of trying to wrestle tip of house into some sort of order when Dh phoned from supermarket to
say he'd bought venison and suggesting i looked up the ingredients from the sauce we had at our wedding "from that book about those chefs in competition with each other". Oh how i laughed. I suggested he buy a jar of redcurrant jelly and a bottle of port and we leave attempting to recreate a prize winning sauce with an ingredient list a page and a half long for another day. Was tasty enough anyway.

Good luck with ikea frouby. It deserves its own category of divorce. I do love the creche and meatballs though.

What time is witching wine hour for everyone?? Mine is now !! 😑😤😫😫

Usually between 6pm and 8pm for me Shiloh.

Lol Longest at prize winning source. He doesn’t ask for much, does he? I’ve just ordered a roast dinner to be delivered from the pub. I’m well looking forward to it.

The farm was a Halloween thing, with scary people dressed up jumping out at you, getting in your face, chasing you with chasing saws, that kind of thing. You kind of have to play along but it was a laugh. It’s not for kids - I went with people from my gym. Watching my muscly PT cowering in a corner while a guy with a pigs face menaced him with an axe was properly funny.

I should definitely do more with my Saturday nights more often.

Where are you going on your hols? I had a copper coil for a while but was anemic the whole time I was on it. Grim.

I’ve got a meeting in the pub this evening but think I’ll drive. So AF, potentially.

Well I not only survived Ikea but actually snashed it. In, found the kallax inserts I wanted, found the kallax, bought a lint roller, a bag of daims and a packet of biscuits and was out in about 25 minutes.

Ds was an angel, dh didn't moan and we were all still friends at the end.

Am dry but feel so unhealthy. Have had some form of takeaway every night since friday. Friday is always takeaway night, yesterday I felt shit and just couldn't face cooking and dh and ds wanted McDonald's. And we had planned to pick pizza tonight cos party and Ikea. So although have been dry 2 nights I still feel shitty.

Think I will do a roast tomorrow, ds was fuming we had pizza 🤣🤣. Only 5 year old I know that kicks off for roast dinner instead of pizza.

Will be another early night I think. Still feel rough so need to get some kip in. Busy, busy week. And have also realised it's about 8 weeks til we go on holiday so need to
A. Sort ds birthday which is 2 days before we go away
B. Sort Christmas because we come back on 22nd really late
C. Sort house for Christmas
D. Lose 2 stone and tone up
E. Earn 3k so I can have Christmas off.

Fml.

Sounds fun NC4, if scary! Did your PT come up with a plan for you?

Am off to Menorca for half term. Was trying not to fly this year but couldn't resist when Brexit got postponed.

Frouby well done on smashing ikea, though beware the bastard building phase catching you unawares. Lol at your pre Christmas to do list - easy!

Witching hour is normally whenever the kids are down, but i am AF this evening after a boozy lunch so i can be known to mix it up a bit.

Ps i envy you a dc who eats proper food Frouby. Made mine a roast for dinner and i don't think dd1 ate a single mouthful "i don't like meat, i hate potatoes, i hate cooked vegetables", moan moan. Then at dinner "i hate hummus, i told you i don't like cooked tomatoes, moan whine". She doesn't eat fish either. There's nothing left! "Yes there is. I like cucumber sushi, pizza and chicken curry". Fml.

Ahh Menorca will be lovely. I'm supposed to be going to Majorca in a few weeks but as the situation hasn't resolved with my friend (ex friend) I don't think i can.
God, Friday was awful. Really horrible.
Being freaked out by halloween characters and claustrophobic spaces on Saturday was way preferable.
My current PT plan is to manage my stress levels as that is what leads to over eating/drinking and not exercising. Hence my self-care binge a couple of days ago! However, I am here posting on MNwhen I should be in bed...
Tomorrow/today will be better

longest he's actually a pita to feed, despite loving Sunday dinner. He won't eat veg apart from mushy peas and courgettes. He won't eat anything remotely spicy. He hates trying new stuff. He would live on tuna pasta, spag bol, Sunday dinner (no veg tho), stew and dumplings or ham sarnies if I let him. Oh and the odd pizza.

Sunday dinner is the only thing they all eat and enjoy.

Debating getting up now and building the kallax just to get it out of they way.

Morning all.

NC4 - Friday must’ve been tough re your friend turning up. How was she with you? Sounds like you handled it well tho, by staying and carrying on. Your farm scary thing sounds horrific!! I’d have been petrified!!

Dion - how’s the fear? I hate that so much. It’s the worst feeling isn’t it. I hope you’re feeling better.

Frouby - I seriously would love to come to your house and be fed. All sounds lovely. I should be there in about 10 hours..just in time for your roast!!
I live two hours away from Ikea. I think I’m pleased about that. I’ve been once and hated it. I got lost!! Maybe it’s better as you get to know it.

Longest - pmsl at your dh. The red currant sauce sounds fab tho!! My daughter used to be mega fussy too. Would only eat cheese and crackers, yogurt and crisps until she was about 8!! She’s 13 now and is really healthy and conscious of nutrition. Eats a really good vegetarian diet. It just suddenly clicked with her so don’t give up hope yet. My dd2 just wants to eat crap all day long and asks for ‘kid food’ every night for dinner!!

Friday, dh was away so I sat alone drinking and finished off the bottle. Felt awful the next day!! Sat he really pissed me off. He was away..I drove 3 hours to meet him for the weekend. Had booked a night out with dd’s. And dh fell asleep at the restaurant!! I was livid!! We all get tired but to do that ffs!! So I had 3 large glasses aka a bottle!!
Last night I was DRY!!!!!!!!!!!!! I really can’t remember the last time I was!! Been several months. So chuffed!!

Gah Flossie, how annoying!! You needed Frouby's sharpened toenail. Nc4 i sm do cross that your friend is spoiling everything. Can you possibly go to Majorca anyway and do your own thing if she makes it difficult?