Wankerbastards will upset us that try, but we will still be dry. Or dryer at a push. It's a good job we are not in a rush.

[Frouby]

Thread 6 for the Tryers to be Dryers.

Support thread for reducing alcohol, stopping alcohol, monitoring alcohol. All welcome, absolutely no judgement. Whatever your aims with alcohol come and join us here. Lots of swearing but no judging or criticising.

Previous threads dotted around but can never do clicky links.

Aaaarrrggghhhh

Might break here tonight. Been super mad busy all day with work. Finished off just in time to feed chickens and collect ds, straight back out the door for his swimming lesson at 4pm, got home, fed him then shot to aldi to get me and dh something for dinner and just been in shower.

I have nothing nice AF to drink. Not a can of pop, or even dilute cos I need to do a big shop. I could just have tonic water. But don't want that. I think there might be some fizzy pop in bottom of cupboard left over from bbq past week but if there isn't any diet stuff am having a gin because calories are less.

Can you zhuuzh the tonic up with a sprig of rosemary or a slice of lime? Dash of angostura if you have it?

Well it was a toss up between diet vimto

Senseless if last night was the first so-so night then it might just be a one off. But I agree, maybe it's best after 9 months to know where you both stand. And if you still prefer the excitement of Tinder sex then do that instead! I dated on and off for 10 years, with a few relationships of 2 ish years but always went back to the site, I think that's part of the problem with dating sites and apps, there is always the temptation that someone better will turn up. Saying that I married that last one I met on a dating site, so they can work, it just took an awfully long time!

Frouby you have been drinking virtually nothing so don't beat yourself up if you have a gin.

Dion LOL I ignore phone calls from my kids too, don't feel guilty, they shouldn't feel that they are at your beck and call all the time.

NC4 I hope your cough is better tonight, it's horrible not being able to sleep because of coughing fits.

Longest how are you and DH today?

Flossie ??

I admit to having a glass of wine last night. Just one (a small one), with DP, then the cork went in the bottle. My excuse is that it was a bank holiday. Just got back from the running club session, after 4km the thunder and lightning started, followed by torrential rain and then hailstones the size of marbles so we went back early. It is flipping cold even after a shower and I'm not sure if I have the willpower not to have another glass tonight. I hope you all have stronger willpower than me!

Thanks for asking Madame. I think we are OK. Tbh we were both so knackered yesterday that we didn't really have the biggest heart to heart, but were friendly. Haven't seen him all day and I am totally done in so don't much feel like raking things up. Have ordered a curry. Will likely fall asleep into it at this rate!

Have missed three calls from Doctor wanting to "discuss my scan results". Had already made a phone appointment but it's not for 10 days so annoyed about missing call.

Saw friend who witnessed whole internet bust up fiasco but reckons I did nothing wrong and she does not know what happened - and she knows mod woman and normally likes her.

Longest, you really are having a crap time. It sounds as if the mod woman might be having problems, too. It's such a weird way to act. Sorry you missed the doctor's call. There just seem to be some phases where everything goes wrong one way or another.

Frouby, one gin is nothing. That's normal drinking, which is what we're all aiming for. You are still doing brilliantly.

MadameF, I'm glad I'm not the only one who avoids my DC .

Believe it or not, I have staggered through Day Two. I made supper early and had a large piece of chocolate cake (which I don't like). Now feel full and fat, but at least I am sober.

Sorry, that sounded grumpier than I feel. Am just so tired. Was nice to see friends. Was nice of Dr to ring and was a shame to miss her call, was all I meant really. She might be ringing about pcos as sonographer was keen to raise it, but I already knew about it because of miscarriages investigations and gestational diabetes so is old news really. Not planning any more DC so it has limited impact, though does raise risk of diabetes and other joys, and makes it harder to shift weight.

Curry was yum though and worth calories. Am ready for bed.

AF here too. Had a wobble when thought DH had opened wine but was quite relieved to discover it was one of his "off" bottles.

Glad you are ok, Longest. I am counting the minutes until I can remove DD's phone and go to bed.

You are good to stay up for her! I will ignore calls for lifts too, as my parents did for me (they never came out after dinner because wine) though am hoping by then I will just be able to send a driverless car to fetch them, since we already live in the future.

I have a taxi app and a Trainline app. They can always get where they need to, but sometimes I’ll give DS a lift just to check he’s where he says he is!
Hugs Longest. Seems we’re living parallel lives this week with bust ups with friends and weird gynae goings on, I’ll try not to give you my germs - you really don’t want them.
I’ve just had a pack of chocolate buttons. I never crave chocolate but I have been today. Maybe because I’m not having wine? I’m convinced the sugar in wine is really addictive.

Longest I had to walk or cycle home at night (at least 2 miles in the dark and wet sometimes) or stay over at a friends, my parents would never pick me up either. I think wine/gin was probably the reason too.

Dion good for you, day 2 AF!

I failed again, but only had one glass, around 130ml as we finished the half bottle from last night and DP had 2 glasses to my one. I didn't want any more, so I suppose that is good, even if I am destined to be a complete failure this week!

Oh no, Longest. I'm not that good. She walked back from school, had a minor strop about being sodden (true), and she has been glued to her phone ever since. I don't let her have it in her room overnight, so have to hang around until our agreed time so she can surrender it. FML. I wanted to be in bed an hour ago!

DS walks everywhere. So much so that I sometimes volunteer to collect him, because I think he doesn't entirely appreciate that young men are vulnerable in their own ways if they're out alone late at night.

Agree that the sugar in wine is addictive, NC4. I have been craving Haribo, but can't be arsed to go to the Spar. Hence the chocolate cake. And I hate chocolate.

NC4 maybe you are magnesium deficient? I'm going to try a cure for a month to see if that helps reduce my tiredness and chocolate craving. DP says of course I'm bloody tired as I get up at around 6am and run for at least an hour, but it isn't that I'm sure.

Crossed with you, MadameF. As with Frouby, that sounds like 'normal' drinking. I might have managed two AF nights (a rare event), but if I'd started, I wouldn't have stopped (which is one reason I didn't start today).

Hi senseless, well done for not drinking through that shit. I get pissed off with lack of sex too.

Hi all, I'm not AF. No good reason, I’m just not. Bit sad overall really.

Well done everyone! Good work tonight!

Hugs back NC4. Hope your germs and gynae worries bugger off where they came from, and bust up with friend resolves itself in your favour.

I bet i would be more capricious over the timing than you Dion, or change the clocks or something.

Fell asleep on sofa. Am now cold as well as tired. Off to bed. Night night.

Magnesium is a potential actually Madame. I can usually tell because I get restless legs, and I’ve been a bit that way.
My super vitamins came today though, the kind that make you pee glow sticks, so I’ll be back on them ASAP. It’s amazing what a difference they make.

Wow...I go awol for a few hours and it all goes super quick!!

Longest - you sound so exhausted, emotionally and physically. I think you shine loveliness. You are so positive and so kind. It shows in the way you are with dh and how you care so much. Please look after YOU too.

NC4 - how’s the lurgy?? Hope you are feeling brighter and have a good night sleep tonight lovely.

Frouby - bloody hell...you are rock ‘ard when it comes to moderation!! Go girl!! You must feel like a a new woman!!

Madame - 130ml is literally a sip of wine. Surely you can’t count that?! It probably dissolved into vapour before making it to your liver 😉

Dion - how’s dd tonight?? Oh god you are such a fab mum. I’m a bloody nightmare with the phone situ and get walked over. Then end up regretting letting her having it overnight. I wish I was a better mum.

As for me......EPIC FAIL!!

So fucked off. No reason why I cracked open the Pinot. Could’ve gone for red, knowing that would mean I drink less. But no!! I went for the white!!
Dd2 wanted to start a dance class. She sometimes spends time in a wheelchair and has limited ability to coordinate her limbs. But hey..who am I to say no to dance classes!!!!! Ffs. So off we go!! I spend the hour scared she will collapse cos her legs give way, or waiting to medicate her cos she stops breathing. Fml over and over. Trying to be a good mum means I spend my life walking on glass, waiting to be cut. Guess that’s why I pressed the fuck it button. But also know that this is my life now. And I can’t use wine to sort my emotions out. It won’t help. It won’t make me feel in control. Yet I still try.
Lots more big shit happened but too outing.
Also know tomorrow won’t just be a non AF night, it will result in me being shit faced!! I’ve got a massive meeting with about 16 professionals about dd’s needs. That’s gonna be shocking. Then ds is coming home!!!!!!! He’s 22 and a such a knob to be. I’m going to try and be mega cool and nice. But it will never be enough!

Just caught up. My word you lot talk. Away at the moment have done 4 nights with just a beer each night. Shows I can do it. And it's not boredom. Here nothing to do after 8pm so just reading and sleeping. So if it's not boredom it's stress. Work and relationship. Great. Good luck to me with sorting those out

Flossieyour dd is amazing, although it's stressful you must be superproud that in spite of everything she still wants to crack on and have a go at stuff. And you are a fab mum, ds is only 5 and I struggle to get his tablet off him sometimes. Have been known to lie about the time to get it off him so we don't have a massive arguement about 5 more minutes.

My legs are a bit twitchy at the moment, I might try a vit supplement, I had horrible restless legs when pg.

Been up since 5.30am working and got a full day to do as well. Fml. Dh asked why I was so grumpy last night as he was sat reclining with a can of lager. Tosser. And the weather is bloody rubbish as well, cold and wet and dark and miserable. Feels more like march than flaming june.

Don't regret my gin last night, in fact I quite enjoyed it. I definitely need an alternative to drink at night though, I think it's just sitting down with something I wouldn't drink in the day that makes the difference.

Away with work so will fully catch up at home. It's so quiet in my hotel room just me. Last night my travelling companion hit the wine and I stuck to 1 glass. So happy with myself after a good sleep. I left her in the car ordering number 6. Guess I'll be driving this morning then...
Have a good day everyone.

Morning everyone

Total fail from me last night. I had a glass of wine at dinner with bf and then carried on drinking - a couple more on the train and then at home. Could have been worse. Should have been better. Feel ok today but not great (physically) - mentally I'm cross with myself.

I need to shift my mindset away from my annoyance with the boyfriend (it isn't his fault or I could do something about it) - just park it all for now while I give the situation a chance to resolve into either a. blip in a fun thing with a lovely guy or b. a trend in this relationship converting itself into something that just isn't fun for me. No amount of thinking about it, or trying to affect it, will make it one more than the other - so I'm just going to do my best to think about other things, for now. If it remains dull and unsatisfying I'm moving on. In theory. I am SO shit and this and my whole mood is so influenced by this in a way I swore I wouldn't let happen to me again. the messages from him were almost dismissive last night. I was texting another friend who was giving me support and conversation and the contrast was like: THIS is why I don't do boyfriends. this is how they treat you, and like a dick, it really gets to you.

I'm impressed with so many of you - CottonSock and Madame - one glass can be the hardest.

Flossie - lets KOKO

Big fist bumps to everyone else

Have a good day everyone

Can i join please. Urgh 4 bottles of wine since Saturday. Glad im back to work tomorrow to stop the temptation of more wine..ill not drink until sunday, but then ill binge in my days off through boredom and as i feel its deserved

Hi Bella! I'm new here too. Welcome

Dionysa - what is it that makes us so sweet and accommodating to the man in our lives? I was so wise about all this after trying so hard for so long in a shit relationship. then I spent a year totally man free, thinking a lot, spending time with family and good friends; then I started dating totally on my own terms. I met this new guy and he seemed so lovely and so into me and I allowed myself to get sucked in. Deep down I really trust him as a person, he's a good man; but we're all so socialised to treat our SO's a certain way and it's a bastard of a habit to break.