Roses are red, we like Becks Blue, Tryers to be Dryers push on through. 2019 will be our Valentine.

[Frouby]

Thread 4 for support, tips, tricks and friendship as we reduce our alcohol intake even more. For anyone who wants to reduce, stop, moderate or even just track their drinking.

Absolutely no judgement, just support. Everyone welcome.

Previous threads somewhere but am rubbish at clicky links.

Old tryers and new dryers, welcome to our thread. The one that starts in February and will see us all hit our goals as we move forwards.

So, my aim this week was to remain AF until the weekend - no wine on Thurs night as usual (that's my Friday). But I really fancied a wine last night, sank that then had spirits!! So low and behold another night where I can't remember going to bed :( And a headache today while I'm at work. What on earth is wrong with me?! I didn't even bother having tea - I made the kids tea then put them to bed which is when I was going to have mine. my habits I think are getting out of control.

Sorry for the self absorbed post - I tend to read and run, sorry.

I was the same last night Rosie - sank a bottle of wine to myself on a supposedly AF night! I did sort of plan it as I had a very rare, unexpected night to myself so I watched a film, drank wine and generally had a lovely relaxing evening. I was a bit cross with myself this morning for finishing the bottle though.

Definitely AF tonight - are you joining me?

I'm most definitely joining you! I've had such a headache all day. It so stupid doing that on a work day, but I really just fancied a wine, just not what it led to.

I’ve just made a cup of tea to avoid opening wine!! I even took the bottle out of the fridge and went to the cupboard to get a glass. Then I thought ‘what on Earth are you doing?!’ So put it back!!
I know I won’t be dry tonight but I want to moderate. If is started at 5:30pm, I’d have got too pissed and hated myself....again!!

Good for you. That's a good idea to not crack the bottle open at 5.30, I do this too then land pissed! Not tonight though, too tired and crappy feeling.

I’m on day 10 of a 13 day run of shifts, dealing with some emotionally demanding work. I’m exhausted. This is the hard part of single parenting. It’s all on me.

Frouby! That’s terrible. I hope they back down. NC4, sounds like you have had a gruelling few days. Well done on moderating.

Have had four pints I think in pub with work friends. Waiting for kebab. Ah well. Dh is up for celebrating Valentine’s Day so will have wine or fizz tomorrow too.

Oh yes, Valentine’s Day. I think I might buy myself some flowers!

Happy Valentine's Triers. I forgot to wrote on dhs card last night, so he has gone to work without it. Sigh. Ds is very jealous of my card and teddy. I am pleased with my bottle of prosecco tho . He can have the bloody teddy, am 41 not 14.

Think dh panic bought last night from the local shop.

Wasn't dry last night. 1 x lager, 2 x gins. Am ok with it. Dh is off work tomorrow so probably won't be dry tonight either. But aiming for either strict moderation or dry tomorrow because I have my course on saturday. Its 2 hours away, we are leaving at 9am and it doesn't finish while 6pm, then a social bit afterwards. So will be a long day.

Dh is quietly stressing about it all. He daren't say he's stressing, or that he isn't looking forwards to it, or that he will find it difficult though 😂😂😂. As he knows I will laugh at him as I do it, and work at the same time. Have told him he should do whatever he wants but if I walk in to a mess and a sink full of pots I will not be a happy camper.

Happy Valentines Day. Ended up not dry last night. DH bought a bottle of red which we shared. Bloody hopeless this week with one one dry day!! Will have wine tonight cos it’s ‘Valentines Day’ (any excuse) then it’s the weekend and half-term. I’m going to have to think hard about that as I normally go into holiday drinking mode when the kids are off 🤔 I really still need to aim for AF days though.

Enjoy Saturday Frouby - I hope your DH survives.

NC4 - that sounds tough. You are nearly through it now though.

Longest - hope you enjoyed your kebab.

Flossie and Rosie - how did you do last night?

I was AF last night as planned, but I wasn't feeling great. I had a shower and went to bed at 8.15 lol. Tonight will be the test though as I'm in a habit of having on a Thurs as no work tomorrow.

Well having read the whole of the last thread and still find myself reading I'm here to say hi. I have found so many points of connection with this group beyond the drink that brought me here. I present a Fuck It switch to you to rival the best of them. Here I am peri-men forty-something mother of two primary school boys, one of which is a Massive Worry learning-wise. Like you Roise this is my last day of work of the week. I'm at my desk counting down to going home to open wine roast a chicken for dinner.
You have already helped me, a tribe that gets it.

Hi leavingaqaba and welcome. My fuck it button has been well and truly pressed this week! Must try harder ...

Welcome to our little tribe leaving, glad you decided to post. It's a friendly little group.

Rosiewoo nothing wrong with an early night.

My fuckit button well and truely just been pressed by flouncy dd. We were supposed to be at a D of E meeting at her school tonight 6pm til 7pm. She said this morning she didn't want to go, it wasn't important that she attends and I could go alone. I said if I am going then she has to come with me. She refused so I said if we didn't desperately need to go, just tell school dh is working late and no babysitter for ds.

Just picked her up from her volunteering and she has announced she is going to go after all. And I need to drop her off and pick her up. Said no way, am not a bloody taxi service, and she should have stuck to the original plan of both of us going. And now I have a chinese to order, ds not has his tea yet and it's mine and dhs first valantines as husband and wife.

So lots of hair tossing, passive aggressive not slamming of doors and flouncing. Sigh.

Added to that dh came home from work early and annoyed me as he interrupted my work by trying to get jiggy. Fucker. As if I want groping instead of making money.

And I couldn't find a top to wear for my course in Saturday. So am going tomorrow instead and dh is off so the twat will stand looking bemused in H and M and topshop and New Look, then get huffy when I end up in Asda living cos I am too old and too fat for Top Shop et al. Fml.

Hey welcome leaving. Yup you’ve found some like minded souls here. We all feel the pull to alcohol, and all for different reasons. But our goal between us is to support each other move closer to where we want to be x

I'm writing this week off as a disorganised and undisciplined shambles I think. The boys just suggested as it's V Day I have the night off and get a takeaway (smoothly done) so I might have wine with it.

I hit the wall at work this afternoon. Couldn't think anymore. Two more shifts till I'm done for the week.

Thanks for the welcome, truly.
Top Shop frouby I’m skinny and 5 years older than you. Only 30% of 17 year olds can get away with most Top Shop IMO

My 5 year old now “mummmy I think you are wrong, god is real - he is a guy in a fancy suit going to an important meeting. True he may not have legs. The legs thing is because of the cloud he is in”

frouby I got sidetracked. My point is most of the shit on the high street we shouldn’t bother our skinny/fat/old/young arses to buy. IMO.

What a lot to catch up on.

I wasn't on here last night as I was feeling like a sorry saddo failure, having not managed a single dry night since last Friday. It wasn't too catastrophic, but was still completely unnecessary. Not least as my DC have declared a truce (which will last about 2 minutes), so I should have been feeling relatively buoyant. I should also be feeling quite chirpy today (and, in fact, am) because DP made an effort for V day and we spent some of it in bed . However, we also had wine as part of the shagathon, which is fatal - so I am not dry now. FML. Either I feel sorry for myself (and need a drink) or feel cheerful (and celebrate with a drink).

Anyway. Welcome, fellow 40something peri menopausal Leaving. I'm not sure whether to be glad my DC are at the upper end of secondary school, or to wish they were back in primary. Flossie puts it very well about this thread! I have definitely found like-minded souls here (and a lot of laughs as well as hand-holding). As for Only 30% of 17 year olds can get away with most Top Shop IMO - I'd second that.

NC4, the shifts sound very hard. Single parenting is not a bundle of fun, either.

Frouby, neither are 14 yo DDs. Mine was unspeakable the other night. It was largely about a chicken curry. WE HAVE HAD STUPID CHICKEN CURRY EVERY SINGLE NIGHT FOR TWO WEEKS, apparently. I could have sworn it was just once. But what do I know? I just do all the cooking.

Dion I love you. Indeed I had kids late so I just have more shit to come. They are cuter (is that a word? ) at primary. My older one (9) is The Worry and already gives me the stink eye like teen.

Btw of course you only cook chicken curry, it’s only you that doesn’t realise. Kids are —fuckers— correct.

Also, welcome Leaving. We are a merry little band. We all have our issues, and our foibles. I’ll regret saying this but my DCs are alright at the mo.
They do eye roll at me though: “IT’S NOT THE 90s AND YOU’RE NOT 25!!”

... wait, what?!!

I’m so freaking skint at the momen. I do have savings but I’m trying not to touch them.

So of course, on child maintenance day I treated us all to a takeaway. FML.

What? How did that happen? We are not 25?

No, we just still behave like we are!