Roses are red, we like Becks Blue, Tryers to be Dryers push on through. 2019 will be our Valentine.

[Frouby]

Thread 4 for support, tips, tricks and friendship as we reduce our alcohol intake even more. For anyone who wants to reduce, stop, moderate or even just track their drinking.

Absolutely no judgement, just support. Everyone welcome.

Previous threads somewhere but am rubbish at clicky links.

Old tryers and new dryers, welcome to our thread. The one that starts in February and will see us all hit our goals as we move forwards.

Am not AF either. 2 x coors light and a gin and slim. Fuck sake.

In my defence I am working tmrw night so won't be drinking. Then Wednesday I will possibly be moderating rather than dry. Thursday I have to go to dds school 6pm til 7pm to discuss a d of e camping trip so dry then. And friday I will be moderating as have my course to do saturday and not back while late so either dry or slightly damp saturday too.

Am off to bed shortly. Am knackered.

Sending hugs Dionysa. Hope you are ok.

Dry here tonight after a wet weekend - not too OTT though and generally cutting down, for eg, instead of home measured g&t, I bought some ready mixed cans. Also had wine but feel as though I’m being a bit more mindful when I do drink.

Tomorrow night will be a challenge as DH is taking DS out and DD has a friend round for the evening so I won’t see much of her. The idea of having a very rare blissful evening to myself with just the cats and the remote for company just won’t be complete without a lovely chilled glass of wine. Sadly I’m not one of those ‘never drink on my own’ types.

Longest - how is your DD?

Well done on your AF week Purple - respect!

Waterandlemonjuice - glad you had a lovely weekend

Hi to Frouby, NC4 and everyone else

Totally
Drinking tonight. No way AF. Had the shittest 24hrs. Cried for hours and need wine above anything else!!

Oh no Flossie, sorry to hear this. Sending you a big hug.

Oh Flossie. Sending you the biggest hugs xxx

Thank you for being so kind, NC4 and Canshop. I am ok - just a shitty day, thanks to XH having been vile to DD. I had to ring him to tell him he was a twat, and he just said: "I couldn't help it - it just all spurted out of me".

I did point out that she is really just a little girl, albeit a big one who looks much older than she is, and she needs her Dad not to be a twat. This didn't go down well.

Anyway. Tomorrow is another day.

Sorry Dion and Flossie for your rubbish days. Hear to listen if you need.

Dd2 finally admitted to sore ears and is now on antibiotics. High hopes that they will work their magic quickly. She was really very poorly this evening but Dr gave me an appointment within the half hour and she already seemed better by the time she went to sleep.

Dd1's assembly tomorrow. She has rejected the pjs but finally settled on a cape she's happy with, phew!

Aw Dion and Flossie
Sorry you’re having such difficult days.
I’ve made it through day 1. This actually feels like an achievement.
Tomorrow could be difficult. For starters, DS2 is at the dentist first thing which is hard because 1) he really struggles with treatment and 2) he struggles to go into school at a different time.
I’m working late too, and at some point I need to see my bro for his birthday.
Maybe I just won’t have time to drink!

Dion and Flossie sorry you had tough days.

Canshop thanks! I am sadly proud of myself for managing a week (8 days now!).

Longest hope the assembly goes well!

Nc4 sounds a busy day, good luck with it all.

Water sounds like you had a lovely weekend that's great.

I'm bone crushingly tired as both kids up +++ last night. Trying to be glad at least that's also no hangover but soooooo bloody exhausted. Work then various clubs to get through before can get back to bed. Day 9 for me, definitely feeling the cravings of an evening lessen a bit now.

Have a good day all x

Hi everyone, have been reading but not posting.
Dion hope you are OK now, XH is an insensitive git. Frouby you moderate so well don't worry about the gin last night. Flossie hugs, hope you have stopped crying now. NC4 well done on being dry last night. Longest hope the assembly goes well and Purple Day 9 brilliant!
Last week was about 3 bottles of wine so too much again. Failed to be dry last night because I had to change a gas bottle for one of my gites and the Roumainians staying there are the moment offered me some homemade Grappa. I managed to convince them that my DP would be back soon and would drink it so I managed to get away with a beer instead. I think DP will have a headache this morning when he eventually gets up.
DD was 18 yesterday so had a party in another gite. I hope she has managed to clean up before I get back from work later.
Going to the UK at the end of the week but as I will be driving most evenings I think it will be a moderate visit. Looking forward to fish an chips!

11am: is it nearly bedtime?!!

2pm: acceptable time for an afternoon nap 👍🏼
As predicted, I had a nightmare getting DS into school this morning. He had a total meltdown and tried to run away from school. Luckily the deputy head was amazing with him and came to help me get him into school.
She took him into her office, told him he was safe, made him a brew and worked through all his worries to find solutions. I’ve never met her before but she was brilliant.
I’ve not had a running away from school incident since primary.
Poor DS was a state, but he had to go.

NC 2pm is the best time for an afternoon nap, am weljel.

flossie hugs lovely, here if you want to offload.

dion am glad dd went nc with her father a couple of years ago. He is another emotionally abusive twat.

Just sat outside the allotments after feeding the chooks. Ds is at his valantines disco. I am pretty sure I have parked my truck in a really fucking awkward spot due to a broken down car. Am hoping the car behind me has moved by the time I come out otherwise I have to do a 497 point turn. Which is quite labour intensive in a pick up truck. Fml.

Had a fantastic surprise at work today, and am somehow 1k up . Complete fluke but a very lucky one if it goes through. Went a bit shakey and everything. Love my job on days like today.

1K up, Frouby?!?!?! Bloody Hell. Well done you. I hope you are going to celebrate in style.

NC4, I'm sorry to hear about your struggles with DS. I think you deserved the nap.

Longest, I hope your DD's ear infection clears up quickly.

Purple, Day 9? I am v impressed.

Tonight will not be dry, although it should be, as I had an all-morning CAMHS appt with DD, which was hard going. But my problems aren't a patch on Flossie's. She deserves all the going.

Anglaise, well done for steering clear of the grappa. It's potent stuff...

Hi all.

Wow Frouby, that's amazing!

She's getting better now thanks for asking- am hoping to palm her off on nursery tomorrow. Assembly was ace.

Flossie, I hope you are Ok and this kgs look less awful today.

Dion, I hope the CAMHS is worth it in the end.

I will be AF today but going for drinks tomorrow. A friend wants help with something. Tbh I just want to zonk in front of the telly but she was persistent.

Slept badly after wine yesterday, not beer fear, just lots of waking up needing the loo.

Hey you lovely lot. God..seriously.../none of you have ever met me yet the love you throw my way is so treasured. Thank you all.

I’m doing ok thanks. Hanging in there. Dd’s Throat closed on me again Sunday. Scares the absolute shit out of me every single time. Had melt down afterwards but have pulled my shit together since and moved on!! Got to carry on and not wallow in it. Won’t do any of us any good. Have to stay happy for dd.
Wine again tonight!!

Omfg frouby...1k up?!!!!!! I’d be singing form the roof tops!! Go celebrate!!

Dion - I can vouch for cahms being exhausting. Hope you and dd ok.

Love to you all. Sorry for flying visit. Dinner needs dishing up....

Flossie it must be terrifying for you when that happens. The closest I can relate is when DS2 was little he used to get sudden acute asthma attacks, and would struggle for breath and panic. We had a few blue lighters. I can’t imagine it happening as often as it does for you and with such big implications re school etc.

More for Dion too. CAMHS is such hard going. Is DD ok after? DS1 was always really difficult after he went.

I’m just in from a really sad job for work. Having a glass of rose and olives from the olive bar at Booths. Very Mumsnet.

Oh and Frouby.... £1k up!!! Brilliant 🍾🥂

NC4, DD has been absolutely unspeakable since we emerged from CAMHS. And that was about 8 hours ago...

Sorry about your sad job. Booths is fab, though!

by the bucketload for Flossie. xx

Ok ok....I know I live in the depths of beyond.....but what’s Booths?!?!!!!!!! Bloody love olives..my absolute ‘go to’. Am I missing an even better assortment than Waitrose?!!!!

I think it's a Northern 'depths of beyond' thing, Flossie!! Anyway, you have Ginsters pasties. x

Yes Booths is Northern Waitrose - a holidays in the Lake District kind of shop.

Sorry about the sad job. I have spent all evening helping friend with her work. Am a bit annoyed tb absolutely h as she's making a bit of a habit of it and if I wanted to spend my evenings working I have plenty of my own to be getting on with. But she's so stressed and I am worried about her mental state. And last time I tried to draw some boundaries it went horribly wrong. Am a selfish git at heart.

Ps my local Turkish supermarket knocks Waitrose into a cocked hat. My neighbourhood may have put of control knife crime and illegal air, but in the field of olives I rule.

Longest - it doesn’t sound as if you’re selfish AT ALL! In fact it sounds as if you’re helping a friend in need.

Dion - ginsters pasties 😷. No real pasty is served in a plastic wrapper

Morning all.

That 1k might not be mine now 😤😤😤. Applied in error apparantly, twats. Going to dispute it anyway, nothing to lose by sending am arsey email up. Never mind, onwards and upwards.

Wasn't dry last night. 2 x carlings and 1 x gin and t. Am ok with that though, I moderated so all good. I can moderate all bloody week, it's just dry I struggle with. I am sort of ok with that, as long as I continue to moderate. Would prefer dry3 or 4 nights but when I only have a couple it seems like I am depriving myself for the sake of it.

Not sure if I will be dry tonight or not. Going to my mams after school so will probably need a drink after that 😁😁

Omg frouby - twats indeed!!!!!! Worth a moany email about that hey!! That’s awful!!
I also can’t go AF, just moderation. I aim for half a bottle of wine now. Don’t think that too bad. Was on a bottle a night. Altho last night I was nearer that!! Half tonight hopefully!! X