Roses are red, we like Becks Blue, Tryers to be Dryers push on through. 2019 will be our Valentine.

[Frouby]

Thread 4 for support, tips, tricks and friendship as we reduce our alcohol intake even more. For anyone who wants to reduce, stop, moderate or even just track their drinking.

Absolutely no judgement, just support. Everyone welcome.

Previous threads somewhere but am rubbish at clicky links.

Old tryers and new dryers, welcome to our thread. The one that starts in February and will see us all hit our goals as we move forwards.

Clippings or chippings??????

Which is it and WHAT DO YOU DO WITH THEM?

🎼Your House was very small 🎼
🎼With wood chip on the wall 🎼
🎼When I came round to call 🎼
🎼You didn’t notice me at all 🎼

You call me up in the Year 2000, NC4. 😂

I know, Flossie. This is Gin Typing. I disguised said gin in a bottle of Aldi 0% fizz. 🤣

Dionysa I only posted because I can't remember the last time I did four days. Have moved on from cheese and crackers and onto fruitcake. I feel like food and tea are an excellent booze replacement!

I wish I felt that way, Thisnamechanger. Unfortunately, I would be eating the cheese and crackers and cake, and still drinking the wine as well ATM. Not good.

Evening all.

NC4 what is the magazine feature? A feature about you do you mean? I admire your attitude towards your kids. A quiet confidence that you are doing your bit and doing it well, and it'll all turn out ok. I will try and borrow some of that with mine.

Dion, I also admire you. You have a very warm manner - you face outwards and really take on board what people say, I feel very self absorbed in comparison. Training was really good actually! I was so scared - it took me back to being a teenager, bit actually I learned quite a lot and how I need to be less apologetic about everything. Apparently I need to own the room and host people in it, or something b- take responsibility for making them feel comfortable while making it clear it's my space, or something. It made sense at the time...

Flossie, I am really sorry you are feeling so isolated. Is the hospital school something you can push for more from?

Anglaise, please don't sell yourself short. You don't deserve being messed around. If there's still too much engagement with the ex than you are comfortable with that's on DP to be more assertive, not you to be more accommodating. Thanks for asking after me. I haven't found time to go to the Dr yet but have dug out my insoles and physio exercises from when I had plantar fascitis and it's made a bit of a difference already. Not sure about running yet though.

Leaving, you make me laugh.

Frouby, how is the tiny baby?

Big wave to everyone else, old and new.

Your name was Deborah
It never suited ya

NC wood chippings are just chomped up trees, in tonights case, conifers. They look a bit like the bark chippings they use on parks and in borders and stuff. We use them on the allotment on top of membrane pathways between raised beds to help suppress weeds.

Ds was really cute with his little wheelbarrow trudging up and down with a barrowload at a time. Dd would have whinged and bitched but he got stuck right in.

Am winning tonight. Had 2 lagers and 1 gin which is moderating considering how thirsty I was. And dh has fallen asleep on the sofa. Obviously I tried really really hard to wake him up to come to bed. Definitely didn't tiptoe out like a ninja .

Ninja, Frouby. Hahahahaha. Love it. And the idea of DS and his little wheelbarrow. I want my DS to be that age again. Instead, I had a FaceTime grumble from mine.

Now wondering which Pulp lyric deserves an outing. One of my all-time favourites is "I went with her cos she looks like you". How about that for a male excuse? 🤣

Longest, I was v interested to read about your training. It all sounds a bit scary, but I'm sure you can own the room with the best of them. And what you said to me was so lovely. Thank you.

I do fear the rate at which cake and cheese is dissapearing is somewhat unsustainable, however!

Dion Pmsl. That’s totally a male excuse 🤣

Frouby..currently dh is snoring on sofa and I wanna sneak to bed without him waking. Am currently negotiating with the sofa not to creak as I stand up and ‘ninja out’ 🤣🤣

Ps. One gin and one wine down. Not bad hey considering life is bollocks currently!!

Little Frouby and his little wheelbarrow has melted my heart. I stumbled on this pic tonight. DS1.

Longest that is such a lovely thing to say. It’s because I accidentally raised an awesome human being. I messed up a lot and still do, but we muddle through.

Oops, just realised I didn’t post the pic in my gin haze. Tomorrow I will definitely be better. Look at him, with his little watering can 😍

NC thats adorable 😍😍😍. Ds is a bit older now at 5, so not quite as cute but he's definitely a grafter. He is very physical, always climbing, running, building stuff. He must have done 50 barrow loads last night bless him. He loves the allotment and is very excited about starting growing again.

The old boys on the allotment love him. He walks round our plot with them telling them what everything is. 'These are runner beans, there coming on aren't they. These are my lettuce, am pleased with these. That's my main crop potato bed, need to earth them up'. Then goes on their plots and identifies all there veg too, even if they aren't fruiting yet. He's as sharp as they come.

New tiny baby is adorable. He's so squishy and cute. I can't imagine mine being that small now. Ds was the same size but dd was tiny at 5lb 12oz.

Bit worried about my brother tho. He's always been a stresshead and panics but sil says he's hyper anxious at the moment. Have told her to send him to the docs, he's really struggling and then making sil anxious.

Feel rough this morning. Think am coming down with something. Hope I didn't have it yesterday cuddling new baby 😕. Got a sore throat and a snotty nose ffs.

Oh I want an allotment and a cute child to talk about beans with old gents! I did enquire once when this whim first struck me and they said they closed the waiting list when it reached 15 years or something.
Dsis has one though so we visit there, take photos of my dc with watering cans to stick in the nursery scrapbook and leave dsis and BIL to do all the hard graft of actually digging and stuff.

Right, is Brexit off now then? Would quite like to know if I can stop faffing around with fish and get back to the important things in life like esoteric easement reform. Also would quite like to book a few days off over Easter but am currently down to be on some godawful night rota.

I had some wine last night but was definitely moderate. I am not sure how much it actually was as wine need DH kept taking my glass off me saying it was off and switching it with a different one. Will be AF tonight. Tomorrow I have drinks with an old friend which I should be looking forward to but it's the friend who always taps me up for work help and the past several nights out we have had she has turned into a drafting workshop against my will. Then we have a night at the seaside for dh's birthday.

I totally lost control last night. Blow out. Why? Why do I do it? Aaaaarggghhh.

Right. Today’s a new day. I can do this. I just need to get through today and I can have tomorrow free for myself in theory. I need it.

Will be back later once I’ve pulled my head out of my arse.

Well, the photoshoot was ok really. A bit cringey, but the photographer was lovely. I'm not a natural model though and I'm dreading seeing the pictures. I know I look like a potato, but I mostly avoid mirrors.

Frouby Little Froubs sounds ace. He sounds like a 60-year-old man in a five year old's body. I can picture him in a little flat cap and wellies.

I'm writing about gin this afternoon. There's a theme emerging.....

Loving the allotment babe frouby, by 5 year old was his 'book character day' fake World Book Week thingy. Surrounded by superheros and Frozen princesses he was the boy from There's a Wocket in my Pocket which involved messy hair, a red top and a few adapted soft toys one may have had purple pompoms as nipples
Welcome thisname 'bout this red v white with pizza NC I thought that white wine was simply a precursor to red wine?

Speaking of which I’m not putting any white in the fridge. It’s a cunning plan as a very dangerous situation is developing . The end of 5 consecutive AF days (first time in over a year), husband arrives back in a couple of hours in time for dinner after being away for a week. Not getting totally hammered would almost be more of an achievement than the 5. The White Wine Warm Up is part of my downfall. There will be no ‘innocent’ white wine drinking while cooking tonight. The plan is far from a foolproof way of not getting drunk but something.

Ahahaha.... very cunning indeed Aqaba.

I still have no idea why I took it upon myself to get shitfaced on a Wednesday. Clearly three days of serious moderating deserved an unholy blow out. 🤦‍♀️

NC that kind of thing happens to me all the time.

He actually has a flatcap NC. And we have a whippet and live oooop north. And a pet pigeon.

Ds is basically baby Jack Duckworth and Arther Fowlers love child 😂😂😂.

Not dry tonight. Have felt off and cross and narky all week. I know why now. Not only has AF (the bleeding to death kind, not the dry kind) shown up I also have a severe case of bird flu. My nose is streaming, I keep sneezing and my throat is sore.

So obviously medicating with lager shortly upgrading to a large fucking gin. Fml.

Ahhh leaving, bet you can’t wait for dh to come home. I’d be having white followed by red too!!

NC4 - writing about gin would indeed lead to gin in my world too!!

Frouby - self medicating seems the only way.. hope you get better soon

I had to stop myself having gin at 5pm. Had a 3 hour meeting about dd this pm. We’d applied for respite. I love her with all my heart, but I also need to get out for a walk every now and then ffs. Anyway..after 3 hours was told don’t meet criteria!! Ffs. But then told to look round the local children’s hospice. Was told it wasn’t just for palliative care, but also for care of children with life threatening and life limiting conditions. Just feel such a head fuck!! Tired and emotional and fed up of asking for help and no one listening. It’s fucking hard!! I know it’s worth it and she’s gorgeous but god is it isolating!! I really need to get shit faced then hide in a room and have a bloody good cry!! But I can’t do either tonight as got to drive at 7am tomorrow. That would mean I can’t get shit faced....and I’d i start to cry, I won’t stop!! Fml over and fucking over

Oh Flossie that would break me as well. They probably mean well but ffs, the last thing you want to have mentioned in the same breath is a hospice and your child whatever the circumstances.

Oh Flossie, I just want to give you a cuddle, and as much gin as you want, and a massive box of tissues. That is a truly shit day.