Roses are red, we like Becks Blue, Tryers to be Dryers push on through. 2019 will be our Valentine.

[Frouby]

Thread 4 for support, tips, tricks and friendship as we reduce our alcohol intake even more. For anyone who wants to reduce, stop, moderate or even just track their drinking.

Absolutely no judgement, just support. Everyone welcome.

Previous threads somewhere but am rubbish at clicky links.

Old tryers and new dryers, welcome to our thread. The one that starts in February and will see us all hit our goals as we move forwards.

leaving am glad twatting quiche is spreading the love. We are having pizza, I would like to say its wholesome and homemade with wholemeal flour and cheese made from unicorn milk but it's tescos finest because I quite honestly couldn't be fucked.

Not dry but moderating well. 1 can of lager, 1 g and t but done now.

Off to see my new baby nephew in the morning, he was born friday and is my brothers baby. Got to pick my mam up first and then protect sil from mum and mum from sil. Fuck sake. My mam is a twat about breastfeeding and always say 'just ff, never did mine any harm'. Sil is fiery and arsey in equal measures. They clash. Sigh.

Then I want to get home to do some work. But my mam is a fucker for 'can we just nip to B and M, Wilkos, Tescos, Adli' and then spending 3 hours picking stuff up, saying 'oh thats a bargain'then putting it down. As though she has all the time in the world. Fml.

My mum was like that when my youngest had a bite-boob-phase “well you need to pack that up then”.

Why do they do it? My mam constantly told me I should ff. Chucked ds at her one day when he was about 3 months old with a bottle of formula and told her to crack on. He was furious 😂😂. She said it was mh fault for ruining him with boob.

Just phoned her to say I will be there about 9.45 as I need to call at retail park to pick something up for him, she wants to come too if it's not too much trouble. Just wants to nip in wilko. She wont be long.

She will. The twat .

See my mum was all of favour of breastfeeding, having fed me till I was one. She just thought I should be topping them up with baby rice from six weeks old.

Exciting to have a new baby in the family though. I’m broody for a puppy. I keep looking.

I made it to the gym tonight, and enjoyed it too. That’s two consecutive nights I’ve done A Healthy Thing after work.

And a G&T instead of wine. I’m #winningatlife this week

Sorry, will come back and reply proper but my immediate thought was shit world book Day is not tomorrow is it??

Oh. I’m such a good mum I didn’t notice DS2 has fallen asleep on the sofa watching Netflix.

Google says 7 march, phew. Am trying to steer dd1 towards the wimpy kid as just requires black and white clothes plus mask. She is considering it. Dd2 can take her pick between singing mermaid and some kind of pirate.

Congratulations Frouby! My dsis is early days pregnant. Am already excited and hoping all goes well.

AF today I think though really fancy wine. Is sodding RADA training tomorrow so may need it more then. Thursday I am hoping DH will go to quiz so I can begin with bath and crap telly.

Didn’t mean to give you a fright longest my little kid’s school tends towards weird approximations of stuff like this. I pay it no mind as they get on my tits enough as it is.

Leaving and frouby - you’ve both made me Pmsl about twatting quiche!! . I’ve laughed out loud!! Thank god for you lot

I’ve had two gins and a large wine. Feel quite pissed. Pissed off with myself. Have moderated so well the last few days. But tonight just felt I needed it. Sometimes it hits me more about dd being home and how poorly she is etc. Meetings all week about why she can’t attend school etc. Kind of smacks me in the face a bit. Fml. Half term seemed normal!! Both daughters home so kind and normal. Now it’s not normal again....not to have a 10yr old at home. Plus all the emails from professionals stating how serious things are. Fml and pass me the gin!!
On a plus note...frouby...I’ve only eaten SW stuff today. Banana for breakfast. Salad and couscous for lunch. Pasta and home made sauce for dinner.

Well I’ve had one of those everyone wants a piece of me days. Went to get a 10pm gin and some fucker’s drunk my tonic 😫
Gin and sparkling rhubarb water was alright, but not what I’d been looking forward to.

Oh Flossie, did we cross post or was I just self absorbed? Are they any closer to getting DD back to school? Must be so hard for you.
I’m struggling with DS2 at the moment but it’s not a fraction of what you have to cope with.
It’s no wonder we’re all here really, is it?

NC4. - no closer in getting her to school. In fact school have gone mysteriously quiet on the whole subject. Not heard anything from them in 3 weeks!! I know it’s down to health to get her back to school, but be nice if school kept in touch with her at least. It’s incredibly isolating for her and I. We don’t see anyone really. Dd1 goes to secondary school so I just shove her out the car door and drive away. I miss the morning flurry as I walk through primary gates. In fact I miss everything about dd2 being at school.
She’s off to hospital school for an hour today so I may get time for a coffee alone. Then she’s got a hospital app. That’s our life currently. It’s pretty sad for her. She’s such a social little girl, being stripped of that right now!! The system is crap!!

It must be so tough flossie, of course for your daughter primarily but I think the impact on the whole family and particularly the mother is grossly underestimated in circumstances of individual struggles. For you

Hi everyone
Longest I'm so glad we don't have twatting World Book Day here in France. It's hard enough keeping up with the hours of homework everyday that my kids get - and the school day hours are much longer than in the UK so there isn't much spare time in the week to think up ideas for costumes and other non academic school stuff.
Frouby I think Pizzas are more slimming than Quiche although I much prefer the latter. My 2 hens are laying overtime at the moment so I'm making a lot of twatting quiches and cakes.
Longest have you managed to see a doctor or physio about your leg problems? I guess that running isn't possible at the moment.
Flossie It must be so hard for DD not seeing her friends and for you being at home all the time. I hope you get a result soon, it isn't fair on either of you.
NC4 well done on the gym
No idea who is AF this week, I'm not, but not going over 2 glasses a night. I'm still able to run albeit slowly, I think it will take at least a month for the thyroid drugs to kick in and get my body back to normal.
DP's ex has been in touch again with both of us. He has finally been honest with her and told her he can't live with her and can't live without me so I think now everything is clear. Until the next time.
In an ideal world he would like to keep seeing both of us but needless to say neither she or I are in favour of this. A 'ménage à trois' is something my mother has put up with for many years but I couldn't do it!

Anglais..stick to your guns lovely. Men seem to want their cake and eat it!!

Hello Triers,

I see this thread all the time but I'm too embarrassed to post normally as I'm too embarrassed about how weak willed and useless I am. Just wanted to share this is my fourth day in a row with no wine. Ultimately trying to get it down to weekends only but that's a way off. I've also been to yoga twice and the gym, and going to yoga now. I feel AMAZING actually. My mood and sleep are so much better. Must stay strong tonight; 8pm when I start to cook seems to be the time wine cravings kick in!!

thisnamechanger don't be embarrassed to post on here, we have all been where you are and regularly fall off our trying wagon. I have fallen off tonight.

Got a call from our woodchip man, hes a local tree surgeon who drops us a few loads a year to do our paths at the allotment, did we want some tonight? Saod yes as we needed some. He turned up with a fuckton of woodchip, me and dh were moving it (dh is a grafter and can go like the clappers) for an hour and a half and ran out of light in the end and there is still about a ton left for me to shift in the morning.

Walked in, opened a can. Not even bothered.

Hi frouby thanks for the welcome, well done on shifting all your chip

I'm embarrassed but I've realised talking about it is the first step to action! It's that fear of failure thing I think.

I'm getting better at tying sober days together but my God I cannot do it when we go out 😭 And me and DP go out to eat a lot. He wanted to go out for Tapas yesterday but tapas with no beer just seems wrong! Ditto pizza without red.

Also I love the expression "go like the clappers"

Welcome thisname. You’re in good company, but.... pizza with red? White, surely?

Frouby what do you do with woodchip? I only know it in a wallpaper context.

Anglaise sorry about your DP woes. Is it a French thing, the 2 women malarkey? Sounds hard work anyway.

Flossie just more for you. How’s today been?

Me, I’ve cracked open the rose. DS1 had a brilliant parents evening at college. I’m mega, mega proud of him. Bloody love that kid. DS2 is struggling and needs loves but that’s ok.

Embarrassingly, I’ve got a photographer coming to take my pics tomorrow for a magazine feature. It’s not my usual thing at all but I’m skint and taking anything going at the moment 😂

I'm too embarrassed about how weak willed and useless I am. Just wanted to share this is my fourth day in a row with no wine

@Thisnamechanger If you are embarrassed when you've managed four days in a row, Heaven help me. I haven't managed Day One for goodness knows how long, and haven't done four days since 2016.

In fact, my complete uselessness compared to everyone else is the reason I am currently reading and not posting. I feel like the worst failure ever.

NC4, good luck with that one. Needs must...

Frouby, just think of all the weight you will use by shifting wood clippings

Flossie, I am so sorry about the situation with your DD. I sympathise, too, with how much you are missing being part of the primary school drop-off etc. I used to love it, and secondary school is absolutely not the same (I wouldn't know my DD's friends' parents if I fell over them). So tough for your DD, too, to be deprived of all the social contact of school, when she's someone who otherwise enjoys it.

Anglaise, I'm so sorry about the thyroid problem. Not to mention the ex GF. Your DP is obviously a million times better off with you than with her - but it still isn't easy, given that she is evidently not going to go quietly.

Leaving, my period is still making its mind up.

Hello NC

Is it white with pizza?? I have no idea - I just love it with anything tomatoy!

Dry night hear but have eaten equivalent calories in cheese and crackers.

Oh FML. Wood clippings, not clippings!!

CHIPPINGS!!!!! 😂

Dion 😂