Roses are red, we like Becks Blue, Tryers to be Dryers push on through. 2019 will be our Valentine.

[Frouby]

Thread 4 for support, tips, tricks and friendship as we reduce our alcohol intake even more. For anyone who wants to reduce, stop, moderate or even just track their drinking.

Absolutely no judgement, just support. Everyone welcome.

Previous threads somewhere but am rubbish at clicky links.

Old tryers and new dryers, welcome to our thread. The one that starts in February and will see us all hit our goals as we move forwards.

im so sorry flossie this is impossibly hard. Isolated is something I relate to but not like this. My heart goes out to you and your family.

Oh my God, Flossie. I either have no words, or too many words. Who the fuck does meet the criteria??? Never mind moderation or anything - I know you have no choice but to keep on keeping on, but surely anyone with an ounce of understanding can imagine the effect this would have on you. Obviously mothers (parents) just have to, and will, do whatever it takes - but you are only human. I want to go and shake everyone until they see what it is doing to you. And even how what they regard as factual information about hospices is bound to be 'heard' by a mother as something far more and worse than that. How can they not see this??? If I feel this powerless about it, goodness only knows how you must feel. xx

NC4, that is such a sweet photo. Reminds me of when my DS was little and used to follow me round the garden. I'm glad you survived the shoot. As I said to DD yesterday, I'm glad I didn't grow up in the Selfie generation, because I can imagine that I'm really attractive, given that I never take selfies and rarely look in the mirror. If I did, I'd probably be mortified.

I love the idea of your little old pigeon-fancier too, Frouby. I bet the old chaps love him. Very sorry about your bird flu, though.

Longest: easement reform 😂 Love it.

Good luck, Leaving.

I have largely given up on ever having a Day One again. No reason at all, other than that it feels too hard. Sigh.

Little Frouby sounds like a member of my family. True story: my family tree leads directly to Coronation Street.

Same Dion. I cried in the car earlier. I haven’t cried for ages. I’m glad Frouby has reminded me my period must be due.

NC4, so that's two of us. I start every day with good intentions, too. It's not even as if I have any particular excuse ATM. FML many times over.

I don't have photos of ds on this phone in his flatcap but I do have one of dh a few years ago when I was PG who had to take over showing duties with dds pony and her. Dpony can do kids classes but enjoys a proper blast with a grown up as well so we kitted dh out and he got to have a go.

Surprisingly it wasn't as easy as he thought but he did win his classes that day.

Surprised we got his head in through the truck door to come home 😂😂😂

I just stumbled upon some wedding photos too. I don’t know what I’m more upset about. The fact my marriage didn’t work out or the fact I’ve put 3st on and chopped my gorgeous hair off.
I’m missing my husband a bit actually. I think that’s what last night was about if I’m being completely honest. I saw his mum yesterday, and had a lovely few hours with her.

I’m loving all the flat cap action on here today 😂

Oh Frouby, what a fab photo. And I have been on MN for about 17 years, and this is the first time I've seen a reference to DPony!

NC4, I am sorry. I have no regrets at all about leaving XH - but I do have endless regrets about having made a general hash of my entire life (and, therefore, my children's lives too). Hence I am on this thread...

I don’t really have regrets. I know it was for the best. I just miss the bits that weren’t awful.

NC4, it's good that you don't have any regrets. I don't regret leaving XH. However, I have endless regrets about the way in which I have done so much wrong with my life...

Yep, I can relate to that. It dawned on me earlier that my life insurance policy runs out in three years, which means if life had turned out how I'd planned, I would be mortgage free in three years.

As it is, I'm six months into a brand new 25 year mortgage, with a piddly pension pot. The men in my life done alright out of it all. Well actually, no. Not the two most important men... but they get me, so they're the real winners ;)

You're not wrong there, NC4!

Nearly a bottle down..feeing fuzzy, numb and generally pissed!!

Frouby..what a corner of a pic

NC4 - I divorced 20yrs ago..to begin with it was wierd..he felt like my right arm..every ‘first’ was odd. I had to keep reminding myself why we weren’t together anymore. I dreaded him
Moving on, but I wanted to. Felt selfish. But I think it’s normal. Anyway..every month that went by, it became easier. Deffo 2 steps forward and 1 step back tho. Then he finally met someone else and I get weirdly
Ok. It was then I realised I’d moved on. It’s shit and tough and generally crap..but it’s ok

Flossie, huge hugs to you. xxx

Ah Flossie that's exactly how it is. And it is getting easier, and I am moving on, but as you say - two steps forward, one step back. I think it's just that I'm a bit run down, teary and hormonal and I'd like someone to look after me a bit.

Glad you're feeling fuzzy and numb. I've just been to the shop and bought a bottle of red. I'm hoping given the time I won't finish it.

Shit....read my post back....I don’t sound pissed at all!!

You sound totally coherent!!!! This time last night I was singing Pulp at you all

😂

Going away for the weekend. Leave this pm. Know it’s going to be a weekend full of food and wine, and coffee and cake!! So thought I’d weigh myself now, ahead of frouby and my weigh in day Monday, and ignore the wkend!! However..after dropping dh at work in one direction, dd at school in another direction, and dogs at kennels, somewhere completely diff. Left home at 6:50am and got home at 9:45am......I stopped at McDonald’s for breakfast drive thru!!!!!!!!! I know I know...it’s not on the slimming world plan....but it soooooo is on the ‘omg I’m so hungover plan!!’ Anyway...then weighed myself..tummy full of crap..and I’ve lost 2lb since Monday!!

Well that's a win then Flossie!! Well done you.

I daren't weigh myself. I started this week really well, moderating the booze, sticking to WW, exercising, then on Wednesday it all went to pot after I saw exMIL.

I'm away this weekend too. It's a big crowd in a youth hostel job but I only know one couple who are going, so I've decided to just go for the Saturday. Honestly I can't really be bothered, but it's one of my oldest friends' 40th.

This evening I just want to go to the gym and watch crap telly booze free.

Flossie, I love a sausage and egg mcmuffin...well done on the weight loss and sorry to read about fuckwits deciding you don’t meet their criteria, what wankbastards they are

Lol at whoever got pissed on a Wednesday, easily done

Frouby, sweet pony! And ahhhh at a new baby, bet that was nice

I've been drinking every night so finished Feb on 7 days AF in the whole month which is shit. Will drink tonight, dd has loads of friends over so dh is hiding the vodka later 😂 and they will want to ignore us so we are going to order pizza and watch a film. May start trying to do AF in the week from Monday. Was awake with wine fear at 4am, not good.

Anniversary night last night, Jesus Christ did I break my AF streak feel rotten today. Happy weekend all x

Evening all

Full blown birdflu here. Nice. Alldasnot and alldasneezes and alldacoughs. Ffs.

So obviously am drinking for medicinal reasons. 2 cans of Carling down, another one just opened then going on the gin. Had a productive day workwise so celebrating. Also its friday.

Just checking in after a period of absence and a shameful amount of drinking! I haven’t had an AF night for over 2 weeks - half-term hols and my cousin and her DH visiting has meant a lot of boozing. It’s been great fun as I hadn’t seen cousin for over a year and she’s like a sister to me.

Waterandlemonjuice - I’ll be joining you on being AF in the week from Monday.