Roses are red, we like Becks Blue, Tryers to be Dryers push on through. 2019 will be our Valentine.

[Frouby]

Thread 4 for support, tips, tricks and friendship as we reduce our alcohol intake even more. For anyone who wants to reduce, stop, moderate or even just track their drinking.

Absolutely no judgement, just support. Everyone welcome.

Previous threads somewhere but am rubbish at clicky links.

Old tryers and new dryers, welcome to our thread. The one that starts in February and will see us all hit our goals as we move forwards.

Really sorry about your mum, NC4. Not how you need to spend your few free hours...

Flossie, I am in awe of your moderation. I have lost track this week. All DP related (as is this evening's misery).

Leaving, 5 days would be absolutely amazing. I hope you manage it.

Longest I would not be pleased about the stairs either.

Frouby, sounds like a good day all round!

Can I ask how much everyone drinks on a weekly basis ? I defo drink more than I should and I self medicate I suppose cz of anxiety etc but it's make it worse as it's a depressant.
X plus it made me fat

Nikita like Dion, I’ve lost track this week. I’m definitely self medicating stress.

Obviously I am now nearly down a bottle of wine after the mum stuff. I need to do fake tan tonight. Hope I’m not too squiffy.

I feel a bit of a lost cause. I am not really moderating much at the moment. My head’s gone.

Nikita, the shameful answer is that I have no idea. "Too much" would probably cover it. And given that I spent a lot of time being anxious and miserable, a depressant is the last thing I need.

NC4, I would be, too. In fact, I am after DP being an arse for the past 4 days. I would not like to be doing fake tan now.

^spend

I have been tracking my units since mid January. On a good, moderating week with a dry night of 2 chucked in I have about 25 units. Thats about 70% of the time. I go over to about 35 units if we have something on or I don't have the dry nights.

That's quite a lot of units. And scarily if I had been tracking for the last few years I reckon I was regularly doing 50+ units a week.

But I am dry tonight, yay me. Have new batteries lined up for my scales for tomorrows weigh in which I will PM to Flossie and probably cry a bit too and in a months time we will both have smashed 1/2 stone and send each other stickers for our imaginary fatclubbooks and imaginary certificates to put on our fridges and we can be slimmer of the week every week and every month and every year .

This is an example of the stickers 🍏🍊🍋.

And this is a certifcate 📜.

And we have progress charts too 📉📊📋.

And little fatclub books 📒.

We're gonna be dry and skinny and have glowy skin and everything Flossie. Everything I tell ya. Its a bloody good job have eaten that left over pecan plait thing and have that mint aero tonight isn't it eh? 🙈

See my fatness isn’t diminishing, so I’m just gonna fake the glow

Hello everyone, I've been rather absent lately, the good weather has meant lots of work in the garden when not working. Embarrassed to say I haven't had any AF nights for about 2 weeks although some nights no more than a glass of wine due to driving when out. But still way way over 10 units a week which I stuck to for so long.
Frouby Flossie good luck with your weight loss. I'm sure that drinking less will help. You can give me some of your spare kgs because the treatment I'm having for my thyroid hasn't kicked in at all yet and I'm still losing weight despite eating and drinking rather too much. I still can't do sports properly either which is the worst thing at the moment especially with all the good weather.
DP has been behaving himself, the Ex hasn't been in contact with either him or me, so hopefully she has got the message and is really an true Ex now.
And DC are back at school after 2 weeks holiday, at last, although that means back to 6am starts as I'm the school bus.
Good luck to everyone on Day 1!

Hi everybody
Can I join in . ..?
Looking to stop the wine for a month
Really interested to read everybody’s. Stories on here... going to do just that this evening instead of drinking wine

Here goes frouby! Altho I must say I don’t hold
Much hope for myself!! I am going away for a very fat weekend this weekend. There is no doubt in my mind I will be smashed and then recovering using food!!

I will try this week tho. Sent frouby my weight. Fml. Bigger than I’ve ever ever been. Put it down to being home with dd (10) as she’s still off school. Be 5 weeks now!! She can’t do much in the way of walking etc so I’m sedentary. Exercise keeps my weight stable!! And on top of that I’m eating everything in sight.
It’s my birthday in two weeks and I’ve asked for a treadmill. Least I can move inside then!! Ffs!!
I’m not sure I can go af this week..but I will continue to moderate .....

Personally I don't find the white lie that big a deal at all but I still fail to find it funny or sweet. I think it's the neediness. The wanting to impress the husband by pretending to be something other than you are. It snacks of very low self esteem and 1950s values of what a woman should be. I like it better from the angle that she just wanted her DH to feel loved and appreciated but those weren't the OP's words, she wanted the gushing text about how great she was and how hard she worked. Each to their own but I don't like it. I also don't like the automatic insulting of everyone who fails to find something "hilarious". It's something men do to women a lot.

Agh totally wrong thread!

Hi everyone. lololol at NC4 saying "it looks like they left in a rush" - dh says it's like aliens have been in our house and beamed everyone out as there are usually lights on, tellies blaring etc.

pmsl Aqaba at having to go back for your shoes, ha ha ha

I don't care if people have their shoes on in the house, not at all but quite a few people seem to automatically take them off at my front door. Our carpets are mostly fucked anyway and as for stopping people eating elsewhere in the house, I lost that battle long, long ago.

Nikita, I can easily drink a bottle of wine a night, sometimes two if it's a long night. I did dry Jan then drank early in Feb and promptly threw up so my tolerance has gone down. But I have only had 6 dry days in Feb so far, which is shit.

Frouby, impressed at the certificates and everything!

Anglaise, you are still an inspiration, 10 units a week is awesome and even if you're over it now I bet it's still a lot less than a lot of us. Glad dp is behaving himself.

I had a perfect, perfect Sunday yesterday: morning in bed with dh (lush), cooked a fab roast, sat in the sun and chatted with dd, who seems really happy atm (fingers crossed it stays that way), then watched a film in the afternoon. And had a lie in this morning and it's a beautiful day here. So I may do AF tonight, there is no reason to drink at all. Other than it's Monday. And I have cold wine in the fridge. And I don't have to get up for work atm... I am out with friends tomorrow though so an AF night tonight is a good idea. We'll see.

Evening all.

Dry here so far. Day 2 for me. Yay me.

Dieting is shit though. Haven't had chance to go shopping so no diet food in yet. Had to have a shitty ham sandwhich for lunch, was starving. And then I had some of ds left over tuna and pasta. Fuck sake.

Never mind, at least I am dry. I do about 3000 calories a week on beer so if I don't drink I would lose about a 1lb a week. Which I would be happy with but I like drink better than size 12.

Flossie we can do this. We will be thin and glowy by next month I reckon. 6 weeks at the most.

Just tried to do an Ocado shop, am an aldi girl normally but am mega busy so thought I might try and save myself a bit of time but it was taking longer to find everything than what it would to go to aldi. So aldi after school tomorrow it is.

I am dry and will not drink as I have already taken to my bed with a stack of books and magazines. So this is day 1 but will be the 7th day in Feb AF.

Oh frouby. Snap!! In fact I need to fess up..I’d forgotten we were doing this til you posted this morning
So bit shit on the food thing!! Shop tomorrow and will be on form!! I’ll send you all a pic to show what weight loss can achieve. God I would like a SW consultant

Walked in about ten mins ago..with shoes on (shock horror) and walked straight to gin cupboard and poured a large one!! Fuck it!! This week is a toughie with meetings all week about dd. Gin is better than wine for our diet so lesser of two evils!!

Flossie I have just had chicken curry and rice and a wodge of aero mint chocolate 😆😆😆📈

I loved having a PT. I never got fully to my goal but I would give anything to get back to where I was. Well, not stuck in a toxic marriage, and I have to credit him with helping me find a way out of that, but the weight/fitness aspect.

I just can’t afford it these days 😫

I have really been hankering after the gym though. I miss it, I just never seem to get chance. It’s always right down the list.
I’ve just packed my gym bag and left it by the front door so I can go on my way home from work tomorrow.
Sorry kids, tea will have to wait an hour.

Funny you say that about gin Flossie. I just picked up a bottle on my way home from WW for that very reason 😂

I admire you both Flossie and Frouby. I daren't even weigh myself, but quite fancy one of your certificates.

Have been out with DH and old friend. Shared a bottle, plus have had two halves. Could be worse.

My bastarding legs don't work though. Genuinely not sure what to do about this now. Period is over but my ankles keep giving way and I have fallen down twice, plus my knee hurts to as a random bonus. May have to consult Dr and try and get referred for physio

Shit, Longest - is this just since you started running? Probably worth a trip to the docs or a physio.

I have Ehlers Danlos (hypermobility) and have to keep my muscles extra strong because my joints are too wobbly. I’ve not been too good at it lately though.

I tend to skip the doctor and book in with my physio. I have to pay but they see me within 24 hours and don’t make me feel like a time waster.

Crikey longest..I’d deffo go get seen lovely. Falling down sounds painful. And scary. You poor thing. Let us know what they say

Thanks both. In retrospect I have always had dodgy things with my feet/ankles - plantar fascitis, tendonitis, bursitis. I think they're all connected. Fallen arches may be involved. I had physio and arch supports but I tend to do the exercises till it's not hurting any more but obviously I must still have underlying weakness. Doc or physio it is. I guess losing weight wouldn't hurt either.

longest definitely get checked out lovely, and see a physio. You don't want to be falling over and hurting yourself seriously.

Would like to say I had a lovely nice AF sleep last night but I had the shittest sleep I have had in weeks. Kept waking up for a wee then couldn't get back to sleep cos snorey mcsnoreyfucker DH grunting at the side of me. Twat. I might have poked him unnecessarily hard at 3am. Then fair bit his head off this morning when he woke me up scratching and fidgeting.

Its a gorgeous day here, am sulking because I really want to play ponies and allotmenting but have too much work to do. Fuck sake.

I don't think I will be dry tonight, reckin dh will pour gin down my neck just to stop me snarling at him 😆, think I have pmt.

Longest, that sounds awful. My sympathies. Let us know how you get on.

Wine for lunch with a friend. FML.

DD miserable because a friend has let her down, and everyone else is on holiday (lack of holidays is another way in which I have failed her).

Sorry about your bad night, Frouby. I think I did have PMT as I now have a period. This means it's time for the guessing game of 'what kind of perimenopausal period is this one going to be?'

‘What kind of period’ yep can relate to that. Mine are ridiculous. This time last year during a million day period I decided I had cancer. Dr was like ‘mmm no love just old’.

Just put the kids to bed on day four of five day fun filled AF. Close shave tonight. Maths with 9 year old who is SEN, currently with label MLD, which appears to be code for pretty shit at everything. Maths in particular is total hell for both him and me. AND finding solution for book character outfit for the intense 5 year old for tomorrow. FML. At one point when he complained about ‘the red things’ (tomatoes) in his dinner I felt myself glare at him with the face of my bad tempered dad. Weird, I could tell I was doing this very specific face.
The only highlight was thanks to frouby as I just about smiled through my gritted teeth while making a twatting quiche