Roses are red, we like Becks Blue, Tryers to be Dryers push on through. 2019 will be our Valentine.

[Frouby]

Thread 4 for support, tips, tricks and friendship as we reduce our alcohol intake even more. For anyone who wants to reduce, stop, moderate or even just track their drinking.

Absolutely no judgement, just support. Everyone welcome.

Previous threads somewhere but am rubbish at clicky links.

Old tryers and new dryers, welcome to our thread. The one that starts in February and will see us all hit our goals as we move forwards.

So much for Day Two. FML.

Dion just make sure you have done the skybet offer in the next week or so, its an easy one too, bet 10 get 30 I think? Then you will be eligible for all the Cheltenham offers.

Just got home, had 1 can, 3 halves and 2 g and ts so not horrendous. Tummy still feels a bit tender but not as bad. Had a nice night, but never feel 100% comfortable at mates house, they had it all extended and plush carpets and furniture a couple of years ago and they still a bit twitchy about it, so never feel I can fully relax. Especially when I have ds with me, who doesn't understand properly. But it was nice to see them, I just far prefer entertaining at mine when I know it doesn't matter if a drink gets split or the kids run upstairs with shoes on and turn a toy box out.

Just having a coffee and going to bed, hopefully sleep better tonight.

Thanks, Froudy. Not doing anything tonight, as I am not sober enough!

I, too, would be twitchy in a house where nobody can spill anything. I think someone could commit a burglary in mine, and nobody would notice.

If people spill anything downstairs in mine its all hard floors so I just wipe it up with kitchen towel and if upstairs I just mop up with a towel and make a not to clean it with carpet cleaner at a later date. They're lovely don't get me wrong but they don't have a smelly dog like us, and there kids are a bit older so know not to take drinks upstairs etc, whereas ds is only 5 so used to our rules which are different.

It was nice tho, just need to summon energy up to go to bed!

I remember when I was a kid and they’d say on the news “it looks like they left in a rush.” That’s my house, most days.
Not today, mind. Downstairs is looking pretty snazzy. I hands and knees cleaned all the wooden floors, cleaned the windows, and generally tidied. It’s lush. Till I go upstairs. 🤦‍♀️
Frouby I like a general air of casual too. I’m having cider tonight.

Ha, cross post Frouby. We have matching floors.
I am a bit precious about my stair carpet but only because it’s new and gorgeous, and only people who have enough gumption to take their shoes off go up there.
I went apeshit at the Dunelm delivery men who treaded mud up the stairs. Well, not at them, obviously. I’m far too polite. Just to anyone else who would listen.

To be fair to both of my kids, they automatically take shoes off at home or in other peoples houses. But they said as they walked in "oh leave shoes on in here it's fine, it's just living room and upstairs we dont go up in shoes". Which is too complicated for ds . He's a simple little soul. And I don't mind water or light coloured drinks like apple juice or orange cordial upstairs but not blackcurrent or coke but we don't tend to have those in anyway, but they let any drinks up "as long as you are careful" but I just tell ds no drinks as it's easier.

My house generally looks tidyish, but in need of a good fettle 😂. It's relatively clean atm though due to a mega blitz on Tuesday as long as you dont open any cupboard doors 😂😂😂. And a combination of hard floors and throws is good for low maintenance.

There house is lovely though I must admit. When I am a grown up I want to live in a house like that. Dh has tv envy now, thats where my Cheltenham profits will end up I bet. Sigh. Ours is 10 years old though and could do with updating.

Omg I need to fess up!! I am that friend!! 🤣🤣 totally ocd about workmen coming in with shoes on!! If they take them off, they get a cuppa!! If they leave them on, they get nothing!! 🤣🤣

Gah my house is always a shit tip but I somehow don't manage the relaxed and welcoming host vibe either - I don't mind mess but I ate food being scattered everywhere, especially upstairs, as we have had issues with pests, and i have serious sensory overload issues when there are lots of kids shouting. I ended up having to leave the room when it was just my two getting overexcited today. I have started to wonder if that's entirely NT....

Oh god, I couldn’t cope with complicated rules. Until this house (bearing in mind my boys were 16 and 12 when we moved here) we had: shoes off in the house, food/crafts at the table, no food upstairs, only milk or water in bed.

Of course, now we’re here we’ve got a new set of rules, but it’s about looking after the place you live in and keeping it nice.

I absolutely love my house. It really gets me down when it’s messy.

Longest I get the kids shouting thing. I think it’s general stress. My next door neighbours let their kids shout and I find myself thinking ‘just take them to the park, for god’s sake!!!’
Then I feel mean.

Sigh. My DC know, and have done since they were small, that there is to be no food or drink away from the kitchen. Somewhere during the teenage years, this knowledge went missing.

I do advise visitors to keep their shoes on ATM because they run the risk of treading on something painful otherwise, as the house is a building site.

I don’t think those kind of rules are sustainable once they become teenagers Dion.
These days I just nag them to bring their pots and laundry down from time to time, and do their bit on the cleaning.
Have you got a lot of work to do to the house?

Hey all how is everyone doing ? I'm so hungover today !! Xx

Dion - I have a rule, no food away from the kitchen. But as ds morphed into a teen, it all went wrong!! I was in his pit one day, trying to get day light in there....went to make the bed and shut the wardrobe door...and noticed half a cheesecake on a plate in his wardrobe!!!!! Wtaf!! That was sadly the start of it!! Something happens to them when they become a teen...

This

Flossie cheesecake in the wardrobe . I used to leave things to grow green fur in my bedroom when I was a teen. My mum's favorite line was "penicillin has already been invented you know". My food and drink rule is only water out of the kitchen but that's morphed with the kind assistance of other adults. Evening milk and cookies (dad), random shit everywhere (after school "nanny" - term used loosely). My insomniac husband is also a late night snacker. I found 2 almonds in the bed when I was making it the other day .
My kids grew up in the no-shoes-inside global epicenter (south-east Asia). They were even barefoot in the classrooms. Their shoes come straight off, first thing in the door. Still manage to make a bloody mess everywhere though.

NC love it

NC4- bloody true!!

Leaving - I hate wearing shoes. I live near the beach and just love feeling my feet free. Hate winter time re footwear..summer flip flops are the way to go!! And if I can get away with no shoes..even better!! My children are the same. Shoes off at every opportunity!! My parents keep their shoes on all day long, inside too. I’d feel so claustrophobic!!

My feet kind of itch if my shoes are on in a home. A few months back I went to someones home that I didn't know (some work contact kind of thing) in the afternoon. I kicked my shoes off at the door. Turned out to be a posh standing up in the living room drinks thing. I had to creep back a rescue my shoes after standing in my socks like a twat for 20 minutes.

Dh sits in the house in shoes and it gives me an amazing sort of rage. I want to stab him between the toes it annoys me that much 😁😁😁. I am a slipper or socks wearer in the house, soon as I walk in I take shoes off. I can't get comfortable in the house in shoes, it's like your shoes sit there are judgemental waiting to go out.

Had a busy morning so far. Been to the allotment, cleaned the chickens out, planted some blackberries, moved a bit more of the strawberry bed into planters off the ground and generally pottered around. Then nipped ds back to the nature reserve as he wanted to show it dh, then came home, cleaned the guinea pigs out and pottered around a bit. Just the dog to walk now and then having a bath, getting comfy clothes in and chilling for an hour. Having toad in the hole for tea so that's easy enough.

Day 1 today, looking forward to getting a bit healthier. I think my stomach pains were caused by not eating properly because it's half term, too much beer and not enough veg.

DD and friend have managed to walk muddy footprints up every single one of my eleventy million stairs. It was to tell me dd2 had fallen off the swing. K had to consult DH to ask whether I should be annoyed.

Am at free play thingy at Kings cross, like outdoor softplay. Is still like summer. Lovely, but slightly unnerving at the same time.

Is a caffeine rather than alcohol day though I feel

God I want wine!!!!!!!!

Had a v v small g&t, followed by half a glass of wine yest. The day before I had one large wine, the day before was AF. I think that’s serious moderation!! However today I feel the utter need to get shit faced!!

I hear you flossie I was AF last night, with a massive hangover I admit. My week starts Thursday and by half way through Friday night I was already over that insane 14 unit "limit". My other half is away until Thursday so 4 more nights. I have told myself that I won't drink at all while he is away 'cause I can't be trusted to drink sensibly. Five nights in a row though? Seems like a tall order. The kids were having some stupid tablet-related disagreement this morning which was already giving me the rage.

I had cider last night. Quite enjoyed it, but of course overdid it. No hangover, just feel fat.

My mum is giving me the rage today. She thinks she can speak to people how she wants. I told DS it was fine to politely walk away if she is being rude and rants. So now we’re on tears. Yes, she’s allowed to be annoyed, but I really CBA with drama. But she’s more annoyed that I’m not engaging in it.
Obviously I’ve walked away too, but I feel all stressed.

I only get a couple of hours free in the week.