New Year, New Start. Probably dries and lows as we Tryers to be Dryers try 2019.

[Frouby]

New thread for the New Year.

Support thread for those who want to moderate and reduce alcohol. Absolutely no judgement, just advice and support. Absolutely everyone is welcome whatever your goals or hopes for 2019.

Am no good at clicky linke but there are previous threads and we look forward to continuing to moderate and reduce in 2019.

Especially today. 14 coming for 3 courses at 3pm and I have a raging hangover to start the year. Fml.

Flossie, oh dear. I had wondered whether you would be affected by the snow when I heard about your neck of the woods on the news this morning. I hope your DH managed to get home safely.

Cotton, DD's radiator now works, as does one downstairs . I think I will have to dig up a plumber.

Water, it will be interesting to see how you get on after such a long break. Have you missed it?

We live in an old house and have replaced all radiators, the boiler, Windows and carpets since we moved in to avoid freezing. Done slowly over 10 years and I hadn't added up cost in my head. Kitchen still arctic, so have a blow heater in there.

I need to get out to shop to find wine later

Morning all

Dion our last house was 130 years old with an ancient heating system, it was always breaking down. I didn't realise how ineffective it was until we moved. If you can afford to get it deslushed I would it will probably save you money long term. And shove some cardboard wrapped in tinfoil behind the rads, it's surprising the difference it makes.

Hope your dh is ok Flossie. Mine can get stuck in the snow, useless fucker tramped through house in work boots again this morning. Twat.

Just had a brief flurry of snow here, but it's easing off now. Having a coffee to warm up after feeding and watering the chooks and little animals. Then need to motivate myself to do some work.

I’ve got a half shift booked in working from home this afternoon. I could put the morning to all sorts of productive use.
I’m sitting in bed, drinking tea.

I could put the morning to all sorts of productive use. I’m sitting in bed, drinking tea

I love this @NC4Now

Frouby, foil-wrapped cardboard is the way to go. I might wrap DD in foil as well, if she complains again about the cold.

Dh and I are still feeling rubbish after going out last night. I drank less than a bottle of wine BUT about 4 cocktails (we had 2 cocktails then dinner in between then 2 more cocktails, urgh)

I may even not drink tonight, we will see. I have had a Coke, a bacon sandwich and a sleep and just about feel human.

Spa day was good! Was more Turkish baths really - swimming and steam rooms mainly. Was good though and I had a massive burger after! Woods looked good in the snow at drop off, though it's pretty pathetic here really. Am going to attempt the park run again tomorrow if it's not icy.

Longest, spa day sounds wonderful. I would kill for a spa day. Or in fact any day at all that doesn't involve a stream of horrendous problems to solve. Had to have a conversation with someone earlier (to do with the DC and safeguarding), which meant I had to re-live my marriage AGAIN. I might have cried during this conversation. Came home to find an immense bill which I can't pay. DP is also being a shit (I have done various things for him in order to make his life easier today, the result being that he is now able to go out with friends this evening and has not invited me). Gin is absolutely not the answer, but it is the only thing that will numb the awfulness of today. I will deal with the consequences tomorrow.

I did once do a Turkish Baths thing, and it was absolutely brilliant. Even the very cold pool was fantastic, once I took the plunge (literally). And I hate swimming and am rubbish at it.

Water, you may feel rubbish, but that sounds like an excellent evening.

Frouby, I am definitely going to do the matched betting thing. I have made my mind up (even if I'm completely disorganised, and crap at Maths).

You don't need to be good at maths dion just understand the principles of the calculations. Once you have placed your first bet pm me and I will talk you through it.

Very not dry here. Dh been stomping around since 1pm as we were due a first payment from a new company and he always stresses. Money in bank now so he a happy camper again. Dd stomping around because she wanted airfryer wedges for tea instead of Taco Bell and I refuse to cook, or supervise cooking on a Friday because its a fend for yourself kinda night.

So I had 2 beers and sent dh to the shop for wine.

Thank you, Frouby. I will PM you when I do it (will be very, very sober at the time, for fear of making a mistake).

My DD has a friend here for a sleepover. Friend won't eat anything other than chips and white bread. So it's chip butties for dinner.

longest I want to be in that spa right now! So jealous!

I’m feeling incredibly grumpy. Gave myself a stern talking to about ‘whether it would be okay to drink x or y’ and decided I should be doing what any sane sensible person would do (despite the lack of instruction for such by GP) and continue to eat healthy/low fat and not drink. Then I veer to acceptability of the odd glass (literally odd, not daily or multiples of). I decide that anyone else who is thinking normally would just say ‘ahh, I’ll just not bother for a bit’ it’s fucking annoying that I can’t ‘not bother. So I’ve had one 200ml glass and now I’m on elderflower. And I will stick to that, but I will be a miserable bitch in the meantime.

I appreciate this stuff about being more present for your kids, sober, but 3 glasses in Mummy would be playing on the wii or laughing at ‘trolls’. Instead I’m in the kitchen trying to distract myself with candy crush and gritting my teeth. So that works, not.

And DH is home, and he’s 3 glasses of Rioja in. And all furry and soft round the edges and now blathering in about some dull work contract that he thinks is of great interest to me but is actually boring me shitless. And he’s fun Dad. He’s offered to play minions monopoly. And I’m a miserable grumpy old almost sober cow. And I bet he finishes the bottle which may not be a bad thing, because it’s better that I hit him over the head with it empty as that Rioja would stain the carpet terribly.

In fact I’d go so far as to say that my musings about 200ml wine were right. It’s actually not worth it and I may as well not have bothered.

Why can I only see the negatives? Someone shake me!!!!

Ahhhh albasterI feel your pain. I console myself with the fact that ds at 5 loves pissed mummy and daddy. Dd at 14 is outraged and disgusted.

So its swings and roundabouts.

Yep, mine used to love me after 3 glasses of wine. Now they are mortified.
My gym has a spa. It’s lovely. I’d like to go in the morning but I need to wait in for my new coat. My mum took pity on my shit run of luck and treated me. I haven’t had a proper grown up coat for ages, and I’m off out tomorrow. I shall look chic and stylish!

DS1 has two friends here for a sleepover. There’s drum and bass blasting from the attic and lots of ‘banter’. Pizzas on the way. DS2 has gone to his dad’s.

I think I’ll have some wine and read a book.

Agh we suddenly realised we were supposed to be at a gig tonight! Was my birthday present months ago. Expensive but superstar babysitter booked and we are in our way!

There’s drum and bass blasting Hmm, @NC4Now. I think you might be living in my house.

Frouby, I am not sure my DC love any version of me ATM.

Hope you have a lovely evening, Longest!

It’s my own fault Dion. I played him Roni Size Representz in the womb, and reintroduced him aged 14.

I fucking hate drum n bass

I am also slightly pissed, we had KFC and watched Independence Day, DH has now gone to bed knackered which is annoying as I fancied a shag but there you go, can’t have everything

Alabaster, I SO get what you’re saying. I am the same.

My dd is similarly sanctimonious about my drinking, I’ve been at pains to keep showing her my dry January app with all the tea cups and NO WINE AT ALL

But I’m sure it will all be forgotten now fucking teenagers

Enjoy your coat NC4!

Sorry you have had such an awful day Dion, it sounds horrendous and you're totally due a better patch of luck. I hope things start looking up for you.

Alabaster I totally empathise with the grumpiness from dry January. If it's any consolation your tolerance levels will drop soon and you'll feel more of the effects.

Gig was brilliant. I love live music and this was one of my favourite bands in one of my favourite venues. Bumped into dd1's teacher though - Rock n roll.

Oh Longest, who did you see (if it isn’t outing)?
I’ve recently realise I love live music and I love going to the pub, but mixing the two doesn’t work for me. I go to the pub to chat, or a bigger venue to get lost in the music.
All these years and it’s just twigged!

This was Low at the Barbican. Which is a bit of a highbrow place, but the sound I'd amazing and it's comfy- you really can get lost in the music. We necked a bottle of wine between us before we got there!

Bloody sleepovers. I second your 'fucking teenagers' comment, water.

Moving on... I'm glad you had a good time, Longest. The idea of you bumping into one of DD1's teachers made me laugh, though.

I will probably be in bed at 5PM after a very disturbed night, so this might help me to get through Day One. It's Saturday and there hasn't been a single Day One this week. FML.

Mine have been brilliant. They all just hunkered down and went to sleep at midnight and have only just got up.

They are such nice boys! Came in, took their shoes off ‘Hi Mrs S, thanks for having us’.

They are lads he met on NCS over summer and they all shared a flat in the local uni halls, so I guess they rub along a little differently to your average 17 year olds. I like it, anyway :)

@NC4Now They sound fab!!

Afternoon all

NC what lovely lads, they sound fab. Am dreading boy sleepovers. Dd is that age when I can chuck £20 at her and tell them to feed themselves and be quiet and I piss off for an early night and leave them to it. Ds at 5 has all the up all night messing about to come.

Just had a lovely nan nap, DH gone out for a few beers thank fuck so the house is lovely and peaceful. Ds watching youtube videos and dd in her room probably doing the same. Will not win any parenting awards today but I have horrendous period pains and am beyond caring.

Had 3/4 of a bottle of wine and a couple of beers last night, felt pissed as a fart. Will probably finish the wine and a couple of beers later if I fancy it.

Dominoes pizza for tea, need the cheesy carbs to dull the period from hell. 3 days late, had pmt for a week and am now bleeding to death slowly I reckon. If this is the perimen it can fuck right off. Third month in a row its not been on time, 2 lates and an early. And all have been grim.

Am putting my pjs on in a minute, I seriously have no fucks to give.