New Year, New Start. Probably dries and lows as we Tryers to be Dryers try 2019.

[Frouby]

New thread for the New Year.

Support thread for those who want to moderate and reduce alcohol. Absolutely no judgement, just advice and support. Absolutely everyone is welcome whatever your goals or hopes for 2019.

Am no good at clicky linke but there are previous threads and we look forward to continuing to moderate and reduce in 2019.

Especially today. 14 coming for 3 courses at 3pm and I have a raging hangover to start the year. Fml.

Not fecking dry here afterall.

Dd managed to get a lift back home because another girl was being picked up by her mum, and I usually do the drop offs and pick ups as the mum works so thought she would do the honours tonight.

Half a bottle of wine, 1 bottle of bud and just having a g and t. Need it though, these fuckers are driving me mad now. Nearly 3 weeks together is 2 weeks too much.

Today I got up at 8am, tidied the kitchen again after full dinner yesterday. The pots were all done yesterday but I put all the leftovers on one tray, washed those pots, yada yada yada. Put the 427th load of washing/drying on, fed guinea pigs, let pigeon out, tidied living room, emptied pantry and blitzed it with bleach spray, evicted the 4 year old, never been used camping gear that was absolutely essential 4 years ago (dh) to the shed,folded and put away a basket of washing, hoovered through, mopped kitchen floor, picked a parcel up from post office, made dcs lunch, washed pots again, tidied up again, walked dog, did some invoices, walked dog again and generally run around like a blue arse fly.

DH has made a mess twice in the kitchen the huffed like a bitch when I asked him to clean it up, then moaned like a mofo because I have said I am just having leftovers sarnie for tea. Apparantly he is tired of leftovers and really fancied quiche, chips and garden peas for tea. Homemade quiche tho, cos its really easy to make.

I don't think 'make your own fucking quiche' was the answer he was looking for 😂😂🤣.

8 hours I spent yesterday in that bastard kitchen. 4 hours Christmas day. Making a curry on Friday so another 3 or 4 hours to make a curry for friends so he can sit and tell them how wonderful it is that 'we' can make a curry now nicer than what we have delivered. His sole contribution to 2 couples coming round will be to make surwethere is plenty to drink. Cunt.

Have ordered 2 more copies of the curry secret book though, fuckers that are coming can learn to do it themselves then invite us to theirs.

Am having a sarnie and going to bed to watch Luther. Only just started watching it so jut started series 2. Dh can fuck off.

Fuck, spelling was baaad in that post. It was rage not wine that did it .

I’m on Day 3 (didn’t drink NYE) and I’ve found eating soup for dinner helps as I don’t like the hot / cold liquid combination. And if I can get past the ‘getting in from work’ moment, then I’m fine... I want to do this to lose weight as much as anything, so the soup helps with that too.

Hope all are doing ok.

Definitely belong in this group. Christmas was a fog of wine/Prosecco/gin. Fun at the time but sleep got fucked and anxiety really bad by the 28th. One day off and then back to it for New Year .

Not doing Dry Jan again as I drank last night. Want to get back to only drinking at the weekend. Plus running and that forces me to cut down.

Love booze though!

Hi can I join too please?
Been drinking way too much for too long - am depressed and the heaviest I've ever been, so really need to kick the drinking into touch.

Day 1 here, stocked the fridge up with sparkling water & becks blue, doing ok so far but am hungover from yesterday.

Not planning on dry Jan - as others have said, I just go straight back to it as soon as Feb starts, so aiming of 5/6 nights off a week and only drinking when I have plans rather than at home.

Ah Frouby. It isn't funny, but you make it sound that way.

Can't wait for school to start again.

AF, against all the odds. Day 1.5, I suppose. Have eaten far too much to compensate, though.

Here you all are! I thought the other thread was quiet. I thought you’d all gone to the pub and not invited me.

Back to work for me. Kids need to get back into a routine. It’s a bloody shambles round here.
I may have had a small port when I was cooking tea, but I’m not counting it. As long as I have no more today, all’s good.

NC4 a small port followed by nothing else is definitely good. Love the idea of a pub trip, though.

Well, I got through it. But I can't believe I'm going to have to do it all again tomorrow night. FML.

Frouby, I can lend you some baking balls next time your DH mentions home-made quiche, if you like.

Day one, done and dusted, and wow, was it boring. I know we have to do this but January seems to be stretched out in front of me as far as my eyes can see! On the plus side, I'm actually upstairs in bed, as opposed to the settee, where I normally fall asleep at some point in the evening. Feel really restless though.

Well I managed yesterday with 0 drinks. But it's only 8am and I already feel like I need a drink today

No drinks last night-am worried about the weekend though. Guess I should take it one day at a time.

Paranoid, me too.

Think one day at a time is the only way to do it. As NewYear says, though, it's so boring.

I woke up at 3 AM (as I usually do). But on the good side, I didn't lie there for 2 hours with anxiety, beer fear, racing heart etc. In fact, I went back to sleep. So this has to be a bonus.

Dionysa yes definately one day at a time

Dionysa - glad I’m not the only one that happens to. Horrible feeling lying there at 3am with heart racing.

@dionysa is there anything you can do to fill the evenings that you couldn't do if you were drinking, so it's not such a chore? I've started picking out some films on netflix, I like films but I lose track of them if drinking so I pick more complicated things to watch and that way I feel (slightly!) less like I'm missing out.

That's good you went back to sleep Dion. I usually end up falling back just as the alarm goes off. Could definetly do with some baking beads. Could swap the tips of DS nerf bullets to baking beads instead of rubber and shoot the fuckers 😂😂😂.

Ds still not getting to sleep while Very, Very Late. I really need to sort this in the next few days. Hes getting a good 10-11 hours in, it just starts at midnight instead of 8pm. Woke him up at 9.30am again, went for a wee and he pulled quilt back over his head and said he's having another nap. Woke him up some more and we have compromised with him getting in with DH and playing on his tablet for half an hour. Then he can get up properly, get dressed and come for a walk with me and the dog.

I won't be dry tonight. Want to shampoo the carpets. Which involves actually doing something other than cook and tidy so the house will ve thrashed downstairs. So I will definetly be in need of the drink.

Am really hoping everyone cancels for Curry Night tomorrow. I really can't be arsed to start twatting around making curry, cleaning and tidying and fannyarsing around being social.

I just want to sit in my PJs and drink gin.

Well done dion!! That’s so ace!!

Also well done to everyone else who is managing dry days.

Frouby - I too want to sit in my pj’s and drink gin!!

Well I seem to be to only one here who is still drinking like it’s christmas!! Well I’ve calmed down a bit I think. I’m drinking half a bottle, not a whole bottle. It’s not too tricky as I’m feeling fairly relaxed currently. As soon as the kids go back to school next week, I know I’ll struggle. It’s the early starts, tired grumpy kids, and dd2 being more poorly when trying to handle school etc.
I’m not sure what I can do regarding alcohol. I’m thinking if I go to half a bottle instead of a whole one. Then after a while, try and reduce that further. Small steps. It took ages to get me to where I am in the amount I drink, so I’m thinking it won’t be solved overnight!!
Or is this making yet another excuse to drink....

Sitting in my PJ's drinking gin sounds lovely. My early night went pear shaped, as the bloody dog realised her usual settee buddy was missing, and proceeded to howl the house down. So ended up down there anyway, woke up feeling the same as normal, and am contemplating the domestic goddess routine I had planned with my new found energy, with as much enthusiasm as reading a phone directory. FML! one day at a time...but I don't feel like this is the day.

Two nights of sobriety- gosh! Back at work so stress is rising. Bit knackered as like all the first few nights of sleep are fitful especially when your 6 year old wakes you up in middle of night after bad dreams. But good time to get those cupboards full of stuff tidied up and start an exercise regime (on week 2 of couch to 5k).

Does anyone else feel side effects like sweating, shaking and feeling sick when they haven't had a drink? And know any tips to help with them?

Joining in

Didn't have a sober night in '18. Fucking shocking! I drink in the evenings to sleep ( atypical self medicator). It isn't working anymore, stuck in a cycle of feeling shite but whats stopping me is the withdrawals after drinking the amount I have been. I don't drink in the day so I do have a usual 20hr window of non drinking.

I have had medical detox years before but it was given as a precautionary, my specialist doctor told me most people have withdrawals when drinking 24/7 or bottles of spirits daily.

I can't moderate, quite simply proven by previous detox and now by my nightly drinking.

Had less last night to brace myself for the minor withdrawals - woke at the usual 3am with sweats and nightmares but went back off to sleep easy. No hangover today and no anxiety - thank feck!.

Hanging in there with you guys!

I struggle to sleep at night. I get really restless, then I can’t wake up in the morning. I think I might get some herbal nytol to try. It’s my underlying stress and busy mind racing.
I also need more exercise but it’s a vicious cycle cos I’m so tired.

@paranoidordoomed have you seen your GP about your drinking? If you're getting the shakes it really might not be safe to cut down on your own, you might need medication to go with, or cut down very gradually rather than cold turkey.
Sorry not trying to give you an excuse to drink but you need to be careful if you've got a physical dependency.