New Year, New Start. Probably dries and lows as we Tryers to be Dryers try 2019.

[Frouby]

New thread for the New Year.

Support thread for those who want to moderate and reduce alcohol. Absolutely no judgement, just advice and support. Absolutely everyone is welcome whatever your goals or hopes for 2019.

Am no good at clicky linke but there are previous threads and we look forward to continuing to moderate and reduce in 2019.

Especially today. 14 coming for 3 courses at 3pm and I have a raging hangover to start the year. Fml.

Zoflora, that's very tough. I'm really sorry .

Water, 12 days... Just ... wow....

NC4, how are you coping this evening?

Flossie, hoping so much for good news for you and your DD2. xx

Have almost got through yet another Day One. Had a hideous night. When I was asleep, which wasn't for long, I had awful dreams about drunkenness.

And Frouby, I'm aiming for three days, too. FML.

Doing ok this evening thanks Dion. Watching films with DS1 and we ordered nachos in. Loads of brews drunk, so I probably won’t sleep but I need to remember that I’m happy and content without booze, just hanging out with my lad.

Love toflossie

Flying visit.

Got home late last night. Due to dd being mega complex and her medical team being 6hrs away..our local team never know what to do and can’t actually make medical decisions. Anyway we went into hosp. She was scarily poorly. They couldn’t help her. No medication would make her better. Blood tests ok thankfully. So we got home
Late last night. I downed a bottle of Pinot and went to bed.
This morn dd looked horrific again. Thinking of admitting her again and she seemed to turn a corner. Thank god!!!!!!!! She’s brighter this eve and now talking ok.
She’s basically got suck a horrific headache that she couldn’t speak, see, sit or stand !! Was terrifying !!

So obviously I’ve had another bottle tonight. Fml

This week is gonna be shit!! 6hr train trip to her specialist for shockingly shit tests to be done. I just can’t think about being dry right now!!

So sorry to hear of everyone's troubles and heartache 😢 I am on day 3, not wanting to drink, taking that as a good sign. The other night scared the crap out of me, I never want to be that sick again and the likelihood is my dose of lithium will be put up so if I was to drink again I could be even worse or even die 🙄 been filling in Catherine Grays journal and reading the naked mind- trying to treat sobriety like a job, and as I'm ill and home in bed most of the day that's not too difficult. Hoping it stays as easy to stay sober ❤️

@Flossie44 - it sounds very stressful for you and your DD. If the vino helps at the moment then just do it, you’ve got enough on your plate. I hope the tests go ok this week and you get good results.

Ladies, sending hugs. Sorry so many of you are having it so tough.

Flossie, I hope your little one keeps improving. So stressful. to you

Recoveryishard- good to hear you’re doing ok. 3 days is great going! Stay strong 💪🏻

Just checking in before bed to see if any news from Flossie. What a situation. I think moderating/AF is the last thing you should be worrying about at the moment. It seems impossible that modern medicine can't just wave a magic wand and make everything okay. I wish it could.

NC4, that is great. As is three days, Recovery.
I really don't know why I drink. Had a very nice evening clearing out cupboards etc (long overdue). Then a nice bath. AF Prosecco type stuff (Aldi). I feel tired but clear headed. Why can't I hold on to this thought when I reach for the gin?

Thanks lovelies.

Dion. The modern medicine thing is my issue. Dd looked horrific. But because she’s got such a shocking immune system and goes into anaphylaxis at the drop of a hat..she can’t have any medication apart from calpol!! Hence no help can be given 😫
Doesn’t help my liver. Ffs. Feel so bad for drinking so much. But just can’t see a way round it!!
Well done for those that moderate and are af. You’re fucking awesome!!

Flossie, I wouldn’t be dry either 💐💐💐💐💐 and 🍸🍸🍸🍸🍸🍸

Day 6 at midnight. Only problem is I have put on half stone in 5 days due to amount of ice cream consumed water retention and constipation. Won't need so much ice cream next week and I suppose other problems will sort themselves out. Im so overweight at the moment I can't reach to put socks on. I have been telling myself it's because I have short arms. Don't really want to replace one addiction with another one. Hopefully should lose a bit through lack of empty calories.

I’m hopping between addictions froglet.
Quit fags, drink too much. Quit booze, eat too much.
I need to become an exercise addict, but sadly it hasn’t happened yet.

Also waiting to become an excercise addict like our lovely Anglaise. How are you lovely btw? What's happening with FM and his neurotic manipulative ex? for you.

Flossie poor you and poor dd, I hope the tests help. One of my fb friends has horrific allergies, not as scary as your dd but her skin basically reacts to a million things, it started a few years ago and it's really hard for her and she's an adult so god knows how your poor dd copes.

Lots and lots and lots to do today after I spent yesterday doing sweet fuck all. Fml.

Made it to day 6. Drinking lots of herbal tea. MH not great. But I have been relying far too much on a couple of beers to calm me down/help me sleep.

Frouby thanks for asking...everything is fine, DP finished with his ex properly, I think that at last the penny has dropped, in any case she has already started seeing other men. She is very beautiful and charming despite being completely batshit (love that word Dion) crazy, and won't have any problem finding someone, but he needs to be someone very rich to keep her in the style she is accustomed to.
She had previously seen a medium who told her that she and DP were made for each other and would be together for ever...I think the medium needs to find another job.
I hope you are OK for your 3 days AF this week, I managed that last week and in total probably got through 3 bottles of wine, more than I used to do when single and twice as much as the recommended limit of 14 units, but I don't feel too bad about it and Friday we had friends for dinner so it was normal to drink a little more.
Flossie I hope that the horrible tests result in something this time for your poor DD. It must be awful for you seeing her suffer like this. Don't beat yourself up about other stuff at the moment.
Dion cleaning cupboards is always a good way to keep occupied and avoid drinking!
NC4 I'm an exercise addict, was before moderating and it is even worse now. I'm 53 and can't go a day without running and or either cycling or swimming. I lost 6kgs when I started moderating, and got back to under 9 stone which is best for my running. My chocolate intake increased but I stopped eating cheese when I stopped the red wine and that helped too.
I can't remember who mentioned the Catherine Gray book, but I really enjoyed that one, it was a good read and she really had problems.
William Porter's Alcohol Explained is rather less of a good read but lots of science and very motivation to cut back.

Lol at the medium needs to find another job anglaise

froglet well done on day 6

Ikwym re overeating, I’m bloated and unfit and look like shit.

But I’m not drinking. Day 12 here.

I REALLY WANT A DRINK but I’m not going to have one. Am very bored now and really want a lovely dinner out with dh starting with cocktails and ending with pudding wine with a bottle of cold Chablis in between.

That’s my plan for Feb 1st...

You are all bloody amazing!! All these AF posts!! I’m still drinking. Feel shit, tearful, anxious, pissed off, sour, and basically crap!!
Just need to get through this awful week and hope to start fresh after wards.

water apparently the ex GF phoned the medium to complain that he was wrong 😂 😂 his reputation is in tatters amongst the bourgeoisie of Rennes now

Flossie, it’s no wonder you feel so sad and anxious. You’ve got enough on your plate without worrying about the wine. Be kind to yourself and leave the giving up / cutting down for another time.

Ah flossie gentle hugs love, theres nothing I can say to make it easier about your DD. But I can tell you to be kind to yourself. Hopefully if they are still doing tests it's not a case of nothing to be done, more a case of we aren't sure, but we are still trying.

I feel slightly sick. Just polished off the last of the Christmas cake watching Call the Midwives, and now watching Vera.

I would love a nice gin to sup while I am watching. Sigh.

Anglaise if the medium was any good he wouldn't have answered the phone cos he would have known what it was about 😂😂😂

Well I’ve had a damp weekend. I drank on Friday and today but I didn’t throw it down quite so quickly, made sure I ate and didn’t get drunk.
Thing is I didn’t really enjoy it, it hasn’t magically solved any problems, I’ve felt tired and groggy.
So it’s back to dry tomorrow, I just need a different way to blow off steam.

Hugs Flossie. My wish for 2019 is that they find some way of helping your DD.

Day 8 AF. Even went to a meeting in a pub and didn't touch the wine everyone was drinking. Don't feel particularly pleased though. More confused and a bit bored. I think maybe I want to have more AF days in my life but not always. I guess that's what I wanted all along. Is just harder sometimes to moderate.

Very quickly as DD in a strop... Fail here. She and I were invited to NDN's this eve (last minute). DD and her DD are friends. On the good side, I didn't carry on when I got home half an hour ago.

his reputation is in tatters amongst the bourgeoisie of Rennes now Anglaise, I love this. It is one of the best sentences I've ever read on MN! Plus I did laugh at Frouby's comment about him answering the phone.

More to the point, though, and hugs for you and your DD2, Flossie. It can't be easy for DD1, either. xxx

Longest, Day 8? Water, Day 12? That is seriously impressive.

Zoflora, agreed.

Thank you all for your lovely words. Means so so much.

I promise I’ll be back with you all properly really soon

I've got through the weekend! That's me 7 days AF I can't quite believe it. Today was hard. Could've murdered a wine in the afternoon whilst I was chilling and then more with dinner. Everyone seems to really be trying their best here. We can do this!