anyone adopted 3 siblings

[Mule22]

Hi
We are nearly ready to start stage 2 and we are wanting to adopt 3 this is somthing I have thought long and hard about and know I manage as i have a wonderful support network .......... But every time I say to someone 3 ! They always say why 3 ! Really why 3 though 2 2 is much better
One of my reasons is that many sibling groups are spilt so as they can be adopted more easily we have the financial stability room in our home and definitely a lot of love to offer
Just wondered if anyone could comment on there experience of 3 or more
Thankyou X

Well done and congratulations. We have adopted 8 (all singley ? spelling) but my cousin has adopted 2 groups of 4 siblings and are all fantastic but I am in total awe of her!
So good luck.

Congratulations, we got approved late 2016 for up to 3 children so are waiting to see what the future will now bring. Good luck to you!

We adopted a sibling group of 3 boys aged 5, 6 & 7. They are now 16, 17 & 18. Absolute delight! Settled from day 1. They had an excellent SW and FCs which made all the difference. Life has certainly been busy and noisy over the last 10 years. But we wouldn't have it any other way.

We both realise how very lucky we have been with our children so I don't really have any constructive advice for you. (I don't usually post about adoption because I always feel such a fraud)

Just wanted to wish you luck with your new family (however many it might be!)

at suggestion that someone who has raised a sibling group of three is a fraud!

Please hang around and talk to us, mumto3HE

Thankyou can't wait for this next step on the journey 💕 xx

Congratulations and please do keep us posted on your journey.

Hi all
We have been given a child's permanence report and have just met our social worker to tell her we would like to proceed with This match 😊 as the title says 3 siblings I thought I would update that. We are looking at 1 child age 4 and it's seems really well matched just hoping his social worker will feel the same 💕

Oh that's very exciting, please keep us posted .

As you know I had serious reservations about your plan for three at once, so I will keep my finger crossed that this works out for you .

Thankyou yes I know you did
This little reads such a great match i didn't think it was real I thought she was just gauging our reaction to the possibility of one but just trying to keep myself grounded until the the other side decides it is too x

fingers crossed for you Mule. i think you just never know till you find the right one or ones...
(I wanted specific gender and ended up with the opposite!)

I haven't adopted but I came across this post in active threads and wanted to say how wonderful people who have adopted are. I have three bc but two have autism (the youngest very severely). But congratulations OP and good luck.

Hi guys I'm having a wobble I am terrible at waiting infact I'm like a child a day seems like a week ! The little boys social worker was sent out par on Monday and our social worker said she would send me a date to meet asap I'm now thinking a week to read it and no email to say she wants to meet us yet have we fallen at the first step 🙁 she did say the family finder for him had read our par and was very positive and they both have had discussions with his social work and that will hold weight with her decision thinking I just need to chill she will very busy I guess and he won't be her only child in care to find a family for 😬 x

Dont panic. They are notoriously bad at moving at anything other than a snails pace!
If they werent interested they wouldve let your sw know. No news is good news with sws imo x

Thanks flapjack I hope so x

Got everything crossed for you

My friend says sw exist in a different time dimension to the rest of us!
A week to us is like a day to them!
It is horrid when you are hanging on waiting for a phone call and nothing happens! And then horror of horrors you have to survive a weekend with no hope of any communication at all.
I remember it so well. Give it a few more days and then chase it up though no doubt like me you want to appear keen but not too desperate in case that puts them off as well.
I dont think many sw get how hard the waiting is but it will all be worth it when you find the right one.
Enjoy your weekend Mule x

Yep spot on I've had to stop my fingers typing or dialling this week I would of phoned for an update everyday ! But yes don't want to seem desperate so I haven't and then yes the whole weekend !!! To get through going to pull my dado off on the hopefully soon to be child's room so I can do a mural wall once we know what they like that should pass my time 😊 x

Agree as always with flapjackfairy I remember ringing SW for the most pathetic reasons just to remind her we were still around!
Good luck xx

Thankyou 2old2beamum if this does happen for us I know we will be one of the lucky ones as we only got approved in late January x

Ok sooooo his social worker wants to meet us on Tuesday afternoon 😱 need some good questions that aren't already answered in the CPR oh and a landscape gardener to complete work before Tuesday and a deep clean of my home ! 😱 super nervous!

Wow fantastic news. Hope it all goes well.

Don't worry about the deep clean unless you house is normally very dirty.

Don't worry about the garden either, they don't care unless it's a Health and safety issue. I'm sure it will be done by the time he moves in.

You don't need any very clever questions, she's basically interviewing you. Just ask if there's any update since the CPR was completed.

If she knows LO well she will be keen to talk about him. Just let her.

Thanks kr1stina
No it's not normally very dirty but very dusty as we have just had the spare room (hopefully not for long) plastered so I need to do my spring clean a little early that's all, it will keep my mind busy over the weekend. we have a pond so need to be making that safe and secure or assuring her that it will be done
And gates need putting on the garden too
I think I'm just overthinking everything
Yes she knows the child very well she didn't pass it over as she should have she wanted to see him through to placement which I think is lovely 😊 x

The most useful thing to you is that she knows him very well, that's great. If she can tell you all about him and his needs, you can work out if you feel able to meet these needs. Listen really hard to what she is saying about him and try to read between the lines IYSWIM.

Remember that if she didn't think that you were a good match for him on paper, she wouldn't be coming to see you.

If you are all happy after the meeting , ask if you can meet his foster carer asap. They can give the best indication of what it's actually like to live with him.

Please let us know how Tuesdays meeting goes. Fingers crossed for you.

Sorry, only just come back to this thread. Had an awful month with DH and DS1 in A&E via ambulances within 5 mins of each other, completely separately accidents, both now OK, well DS1 is fine, DH not so good but will be eventually...

Great news for you OP. The waiting seems glacial I know, but it happens eventually.

And @Kr1stina thank you for the comment. It means a lot. I think we've done a good job but there is never anyone around to tell you so. We were signed off from both sets of SW really quickly (3 weeks for the boy's, 6 weeks for ours) and haven't seen or heard from anyone since!