anyone adopted 3 siblings

[Mule22]

Hi
We are nearly ready to start stage 2 and we are wanting to adopt 3 this is somthing I have thought long and hard about and know I manage as i have a wonderful support network .......... But every time I say to someone 3 ! They always say why 3 ! Really why 3 though 2 2 is much better
One of my reasons is that many sibling groups are spilt so as they can be adopted more easily we have the financial stability room in our home and definitely a lot of love to offer
Just wondered if anyone could comment on there experience of 3 or more
Thankyou X

Oh I'm so happy for you all

I've just read this thread from start to finish and just just want to say huge congratulations to you Mule.

Ahhhhhhh that is fantastic. So pleased for you all. And so happy that out of sadness and loss a beautiful new family was made today.

Wishing you happy intro days and as easy a transition as possible.

Thankyou 💕

Just wanted to add to the congratulations! I'm a newbie to all this so it's lovely to hear good news from people further down the line! Xx

Thankyou x

We are in the process of adopting 2 little boys who moved in with us a few months back. Originally, they were presented to us as a sibling group of 3 - even though we had specifically stated that we wanted 2. However, having seen the profile we were so nearly swayed. We felt so bad for them and wanted desperately to give all 3 a home. In the end, common sense prevailed in our case - we couldn't really afford it, our house wasn't really big enough etc..... Months later, our SW came back, saying would we take the 2 youngest as their sister was now being adopted by her FC (they were fostered separately). We were over the moon as it was not our decision to separate them, plus we knew that we could keep in regular contact with their big sister. We had our first meeting with her a few days ago and it was wonderful. It's all worked out for the best in the end, as just having 2 is very, very hard work.
Good luck with whatever you decide. I truly, truly wish you well.

Mule congratulations. I am so happy for you.

I know your opening post said looking at three children, and now you are adopting one, at one time we thought of adopting a girl from China, and adopted a boy England! It's an amazing journey. XXXX

We adopted twin and were offered a 3rd new born within 4 months of placement. I originally wanted 3 but our Social Worker said it would be too much to start with (and she was 100% right).
The twins are 2 of 7 siblings (that we know of) and have been with us nearly 8 years. They also should have been separated from each other as their relationship is one of competitiveness, anger, fighting for attention, needing 1 on 1 time constantly - even being in the same room there is tension all the time and need supervising constantly.
My husband and I have been to hell and back quite a few times, mainly with 1 of them (turned out he has ADHD & autism + attachment difficulties). The highs and lows I expect will continue for some time to come (school suspensions, police intervention at aged 9 due to violence against another child, excluded from parties and play days for years - just to name a few).
We are on an even plateau at the moment but I am waiting for it to free fall again (the ok bits only last a few months then it starts again in a worse level than previously).
I love both of them and they are my world but I honestly believed before they arrived I could handle anything as I am a very strong personality and have been through a lot myself (& always smiling and being positive) but these 2 pushed my well beyond my capabilities (& more).
Hope this is of some use in your decision but please think carefully with a clear mind and not just your heart, some kids are definitely better off apart and giving up your way of life (because that is what you do when you take on any child, even birth children). Taking on a sibling group is by far the hardest, upsetting and demoralising (at times) thing I can honestly say I have been through, but I love them both

Thanks Italian !
Watching the links you posted for me early on was fab
LO officially moves in tomorrow!

THANKYOU everyone one we have adopted one and the minute and will look at the situation at a later date before we decide to adopt again

Still wanting a large family but LO is definitely right for us so if it didn't happen for whatever reason am amazingly fine about it because LO is now my everything

How exciting Mule! I hope you have the most amazing first day as a family of 3 x

Roll on tomorrow. Enjoy it all.

I still remember our first breakfast in our home with little one!

We had toast and cut it into shapes with cookie cutters, and had little pots of jam, butter and honey.

Hope all goes well.

Oh, yes, 'Love is not enough'. Very good, very moving. vimeo.com/album/2529993

Almost a year ago!!

"LO is now my everything"

Oh boy I seem to have dust in my eye

Wishing you a wonderful first day at home together.

Am going to finish if this thread from me at least to say our journey has been tiring but amazing our LO has been here for 16days and although a long way to go he is very bit worth the heartache that went before his arrival and I can't wait for the rest to come
Many people said wouldn't I miss having a baby and told me it would be hard to bind with a 5 year old I'm one of the lucky ones my love and bond was within a few days
Am going to enjoy the rest of the ride no matter where we end up xx

@Mule22 your closing post is so lovely.

Enjoy the wonderful times ahead xx