To feel like my dating life is over now my hinge account has been banned

[Hakuba]

I got a message from hinge saying my account has been permanently banned for bullying and harassment but I know for a fact I haven’t done any of that. I have had the account for 3 years and never had a report. Now they have decided to permanently ban me with no chance of getting the account back. This has been really depressing for me because it was the way I used to get dates and meet people. What am I supposed to do now?

So buy a cheap iPhone 8 for £50 or an Android and get a sim deal for £2 per month.

Do you mean to be as frustrating as you are being? You’re 28, just go and deal with it and appeal.

Now you are just being silly.

Why won't you appeal?

You’re joking now right?

just put the appeal in rather than messing about putting on here about it. If it is rejected then come back and ask for recommendations on alternatives if it doesn’t then you’re fine.

I feel like you need to use more critical thinking skills on this one. Plus please try to remember that you don’t NEED a man, if you go around feeling like you need one you could end up with a bad one or low self esteem because of not finding one. If you love you, someone else will too, so focus on yourself and not manufacturing a relationship.

What is better about Hinge?

The dating apps are dying. Bumble laid off a third of its workforce. Annual usage drops by double figures each year.

Times have changed unfortunately.

The “disco” and drinking/going out scene is completely different to what it was back in your day.

I've been with mine 15 years who I met on Tinder. The one before him 12 years, can't remember which site but I've never been on Hinge

Silly comment.
When the internet didn't exist of course people met in real life. Now that online dating is the norm it's MUCH less common for people to ask each other out in real life.

" If you love you, someone else will too"

Oh dear.

They're all at music concerts! I was the only female in the nearest 40-50 people at a midweek concert recently and it’s not the first time I’ve noticed it. I mean smaller gigs, not Oasis size - although lots of men there too.

All the pubs are shutting down. It’s not the 80’s anymore.

I think it was a valid response to OP's doom and gloom posts.

It's like saying 'don't worry you've been banned from sending emails because you can still post a letter'. Life has changed.

There are still some pubs, but people don't approach each other.

All the apps are dying, it's not the 2010's anymore.

I think all the upset over being banned from Hinge, means that OP was never interested in a relationship, just a series of first dates, and probably a free dinner.

I met my partner in the gym (he's an instructor) and I know a lot of people who've met in the gym or through shared sports interests.

But I sympathise, I would have hated to have been banned from Hinge as I used it a long time and had a lot of genuinely good dates from it. My brother and cousin and many friends met their spouses on dating apps.

I don’t understand why you’re being so passive about this. You truly believe that you’ll never get another date (which is utterly ridiculous, by the way) but you aren’t willing to do the one thing that could have this whole situation sorted in minutes. Submit the sodding appeal. At least there’s a chance they’ll tell you what you did wrong. And then, if that doesn’t work, either buy a cheap sim or join a different site, or get yourself out into the world.

The studies all seem US based, but the majority of people still meet in real life, especially Gen Z, so all this nonsense about dating like that not existing anymore is just ridiculous.

@Hakuba I met the love of my life walking my dog in 2020. There’s loads of ways to meet people!! You meet them in exactly the same ways as people have done for many years…in your life!

The only nasty, nasty, ex I have is one I met through trying dating apps, I would never do them again. Building naturally is a lovely way. Pubs are an easy place, and it is not obligatory to drink! My lovely son goes to the pub all the time to play pool and enjoy a bit of craic, and he rarely drinks. There’s lots of other opportunities too.

Have you not noticed that the world has changed a bit over the past couple of decades??

I'm truly not trying to be horrible, but OP's posts indicate that she (I assume, maybe it's a man) isn't great at following conversations; you say "just appeal, if it's rejected you're no worse off" and she replies, "but hinge was an easy way to get dates. Now that cant happen", which doesn't make any sense in context.

It suggests to me that she could possibly have made comments to people that landed differently to how she intended them. Should still try an appeal, though.

That was a myth when I was dating back in the 2010s but it wasn't true then and I suspect isn't true now. Men use ALL the dating sites to trawl for hook ups if that's what they are looking for.

I remember my friend in the late 2000s signing up to guardian soulmates because she thought it would weed out the fuck boys - guess what, it did not!

Try another dating site - using hinge to get a relationship clearly hasn't worked so far

Well, it was the Guardian.