Lighthearted one for you - I’ve offended someone with my dinner for this evening

[Helpmyarse]

A fellow school mum popped in to drop some things off for me to take up to the school (I volunteer Thursday afternoon).

While she was here, I got tonight’s dinner out of the oven. I always make something in a tray on Thursdays as it’s a busy day for everyone (me, dh, ds 23, dd 13 and dd 6). It’s a cluster fuck of afterschool clubs, dh working from the office, ds on a late shift. So it just makes sense to have something in a tray that everyone can help themselves to and eat at different times; it’s only me and the 6 year old here at our usual dinner time on a Thursday.

Today I made sausage and bean pie. Sausages cut up, mixed with beans, cheesy mash on top. Easier than sausage, mash and beans kept separately IMO, when people are grabbing dinner.

Lazy bitch, aren’t I? Stay at home mum as well, I should be standing in the kitchen whipping up a three course meal whenever anyone wants to eat.

Anyway, I got it out the oven and you should have seen her face. Appalled that I would feed my family cut up beans and sausages and that were weren’t all going to sit around the table to a freshly prepared meal (we would all have to wait until about 9pm on a Thursday to eat together at the table, sod that).

She would never feed her family this meal. I did ask, would she feed them sausage and mash. Yes, she said. So I asked what the difference was. “This isn’t fresh! You don’t work, you could have made it this evening.” okay, crazy lady.

Anyway, lighthearted as she’s a silly cow, but here’s a photo of the offending dinner that horrified her.

Imagine commenting on someone’s dinner prep 🤣 what a sad life.

Looks delicious to me! My mum used to make cheese pie literally mashed potatoes with all the cheese then grilled and serve it with beans. We loved it and my kids and their friends ask for it!

This is why I don't invite people to my house. People are so fucking rude!

Edit: her, not you obviously!

Honestly this is my nightmare tea (my grandma used to make it and I would force it in my mouth through the tears trickling down my cheeks) but she can fuck off! Is she a SAHM?

You have found something a)everyone will eat b)is fairly nutritious c) works with people around at different times. Well done frankly.

I'll have to confiscate that dish to make sure it meets my extremely high standards. Then I think the rest of the family will have to taste it to see if they agree with me.
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Are you saying that this visitor just stood in your kitchen delivering a harangue on your cooking? Or that you think you saw an expression of distaste cross her face when you took your dish out of the oven, and imagined the rest?

My guess is she is not a SAHM. Her rude comment sounds like it’s come from a place of jealously!

Yes but she’s a super SAHM who works like a slave in the house. It’s like her whole life and I get it, some people get a lot of fulfilment from doing absolutely everything for their families.

She’s previously made comments when I’ve spoken about dh also doing housework, or I’ve mentioned that he does a lot of the cooking (he loves to cook).

There’s a reason I no longer volunteer at the school the same afternoon as she does.

No, it went like I said in my OP. She looked horrified, (first at the fact I was cooking dinner at 9:45 am), then asked what it was and the rest is in the OP.

Our 13 year olds were in the same class dor
years. She’s like this.

My DS would be horrified about the melted cheese.

I think the whole thing sounds tasty and practical.

It’s just cowboy pie..?

www.bbcgoodfood.com/recipes/cowboy-pie

Did you not just tell to learn some manners or fuck off? That's certainly what I'd have done if someone was standing over me in my own home critiquing a meal I'd made that was none of their business.

It sounds like a very sensible solution for feeding everyone on a busy evening.
She is very rude - and bonkers!

This has made my day. Looks great and I'm still impressed that you did it this morning (as a pose to me who is going to get those super cheap pizzas and give them those tonight, perhaps with some carrot sticks as the healthy side.)
Who has the energy to judge other peoples choices? It might not be what you would do but who cares?
We have a lot of super yummy mummy middle class types round here. I love listening to the chat.

Why would she look appalled when it came out of the oven? She’d only have been able to see the mash on top. Could’ve been a shepherds pie

I’ve known her since the 13 year old was in reception.

I just smile and say, oh dear, quite a lot. It’s not worth getting worked up over - it just gave me a chuckle this morning.

You’ve just solved my Thursday night feeding the family problems!

The follow up was about how I am a SAHM so should have made it this evening (no time to stand around peeling potatoes then).

She didn’t like me getting dinner out the oven in the morning. Judged away immediately.

Some people are far too up themselves.

Even at that time in the morning, I would have wanted to tuck in then and there.

Honestly, something in a tray or a slow cooker that everyone can just put on a plate and heat in the microwave. So much less hassle!

😩😩😩 some people eh, I think youve got the right idea

I hate the idea of a sausage and bean pie, but dont judge you for doing it - i make dinner before pick up as dd is hungry after school and its more likely to get eaten 😩

Yanbu! Xx

See, I would do Pizza. But everyone eats at a different time on a Thursday and something in a tray is so much easier. They can all just put some on a plate and reheat it, job done.

To be honest I would feel slightly nauseous seeing that but thats a me problem so I wouldn't judge

My only problem with this is how do you not sneak some for lunch, if dinner is potentially ready to eat by 10am. Or do you test it for the family? 😂 Looks delicious!

I would expect that attitude from someone born in the 50s but you say she is a fellow school mum so she can't be that old.

It's unbelievable that someone can be so judgemental over someones home cooked meal when they are visiting their home.

I may have had a sneaky bowl of cheesy mash with loads of salt and pepper 😆