Why do so many women in the UK, work full-time and also do the cooking cleaning and mental load at home..?

[GreenCandies]

Why ?

Why put up with it ?

I think this is very relevant. A person doing manual labour needs physical rest. It can be compensated in other ways. For example the person resting physically can do the life admin stuff, which there seems to be a lot of these days. People have to work to their strengths and interests too.

I'm on my feet all day at work and commute - I still do the food shop and cook cook dinner. Cooking dinner isn't tiring! I'm also fully peopled out at my very human focused work and appreciate half an hour to myself cooking as long as I'm left alone- very much don't appreciate being watched cooking dinner though!

Husband does all the laundry because he does he does home office and can put laundry in and hang it up between meetings// calls/ in his lunch break. I wouldn't even have time to drive home in my lunch break, let alone there and back.

Of course the party at fault is the man.
It is not victim-blaming, however, to ask why a woman would accept to do the majority of the household chores.
Even when I was early 20s, if a boyfriend had asked me what was for dinner I would have answered that they could take care of it as I did it the day before. Or that I would do it while he does the laundry.
I agree that everything kids related is defaulted to the mum - partly due to the long mat leaves and also because many mums (including me) don’t trust that the dad would do things correctly. It is however absolutely fair to tell the dad that x, y, z are now 100% his responsability. For ex: sports club and kit (organising, paying, buying and washing kit, getting bag ready), cutting nails (noticing when needed and doing it), dentist app, all school correspondance…

If you are dishing out the jobs like that then you're still the manager, aren't you?

That's the part I'd like rid of...

I would LOVE to have a wife.