What wouldn't you admit out loud ?

[2ndNatureTime]

Im sure they'll be lots of judgement on here as always but here we go

I really wish I hadn't married my 1st husband. He was a loser and still is.
I find 99% of kids so dull

Well DH would need to learn to drive first. At the age of 60 I doubt that will happen.

She asks for me when she's ill because I'm female and she's feeling vulnerable. DH steps in when she gets over the top and demanding, but she won't listen to him until I stop answering my phone.

I think no one really knows how to advise the vast majority of people with mental health issues on psych meds especially SSRIs and a lot of people, especially women, have ended up with net worse outcomes because some GP believed they weren’t fattening or habit forming, which they are for many. And people who can’t lose the weight and have sexual dysfunction and may not be able to get off them may have been better off of they hadnt started

I lived in a student house at uni separate to my husband, then we were long distance, then when we moved in together he worked away a lot. We'd been together 13 years pre COVID before I realised I NEED him out of the house a few days a week!

We're relocating and he's going to have to travel for work again and I CAN'T WAIT.

I wish I didn’t get married, and I’ve done it twice.

I wish sometimes I hadn’t been so desperate to marry. He is one of the good guys ( not perfect , but not terrible ) but it seemed to be my life’s work to do what my siblings did and I can’t think why now. Maybe love is blind ! I think today’s young and particularly women are far more switched on with not marrying and that’s good.

That my neice is a judgmental, hypocritical so and so. She's part of a non mainstream religion (cult) and married to a very odd man. She reckons women who don't have children are selfish (i don't have children) and puts posts up on FB about it. She has two little ones that she absolutely couldn't have coped with without the help of her parents and her MIL cos her husband is a useless, self centred twat. She's an ardent anti vaxxer and anti establishment too, despite being happy to take advice from AI when it suits. Her oldest is a little shit and I'm convinced he's going to turn into quite a nasty man one day, I've never seen a child be quite so manipulative and nasty. I'm not the only one in my family that sees this, but i wouldn't say it all out loud to anyone

No judgement. In my line of work I often see people who are terminally ill and I have often wondered what I would do if diagnosed - wait for the end, or speed things up. A line of thought triggered again this morning reading about poor Lucy Davis.

This has been helpful to remind me I need to water the plants . No hosepipe ban here albeit ill be using a watering can.

I say most of mine out loud though , depending on the audience. I’d sterilise a lot of the population to prevent unsuitable people procreating maybe one I don’t say outside the house. But that because my criteria is quite wide!

This one always makes me feel like the worst person, I don’t like making my way into a shop and having to walk past homeless people who sit near the doorway, sometimes with a dog. It makes me feel uncomfortable as I’m going about my normal business.

Kids are like farts, you don't mind your own, but can't be arsed with other people's
😆 😜 😄

Outrageous. This is criminal 😉

I bought my 'last horse' 16 years ago... it was a mistake.
He's beautiful, but deranged and needs very specific handling.
Frankly he's barely safe but I didnt want to pass him on.
Love him... but I wish I'd bought something entirely different.
(he's an arabian... IYKYK)

Got another one - I think plenty of women want WFH to be able to get household chores and childcare done easier and I don't believe that they make the time up. Well maybe some do but I'm convinced a lot of them don't..

I am terrified that my physical condition is never going to improve. I have long covid that has left me with almost no mobility - I can walk 20m with a walker, but am in a wheelchair for any longer trips - even the supermarket. I’ve been doing physio with a LC experienced physiotherapist, and do my exercises every day, but am getting worse not better.

Added to that, I have lymphocytic colitis, which causes flare ups of appalling diarrhoea, where I almost don’t make it to the loo in time. Despite doing pelvic floor exercises daily, I am afraid that is going to get worst, and I will end up incontinent. If that happens, I don’t want to live any more.

I wasn't remotely sorry when my dad died.
He was a self centred person who didn't care about anyone else other than himself. He was obsessed with having 'enough' money and always thought that he never had enough which meant he spent more time working than with his family. Even when I was seriously ill in hospital he wouldn't come and see me (let alone ask or phone for updates on my condition) and said he had to carry on with his work.
He was a child abuse apologist & denier and knowingly let my mother abuse me horribly. He ignored my injuries because he wanted a quiet life and actually only ended his marriage to mother because she stole all his money despite having had multiple affairs. Yet, he still tried to bully me into allowing my mother access to my children. He even took them behind my back until I firmly put a stop to it but I was deemed to be very, very unreasonable and he said he would support a court application if mother made one.

I felt nothing but relief & safe when he was gone. Hilariously, his 2nd wife has also taken all his money and spent almost every penny of his estate and changed her will leaving anything left to her own children as they are apparently more deserving than we are. My sibling actually offered to buy my dad's house when she downsized but she refused out of pure spite losing 75k on the sale due to prices falling.

This probably relates to my thing I won't say out loud. The Israel/Palestine conflict is enormously complex with a huge amount of geopolitical and cultural history.
And yet, suddenly we have people who have got an incredibly narrow, one-sided and recently learned view of it, eager to put bad faith interpretations on anyone who disagrees with them. They behave as if Israel is a cartoon villain.
I've had a little personal project going recently where I fact check claims made on either side on social media.
A huge number claims are either outright false or deeply misleading. This is an information war as much as it is a physical one.
Edited to add: there are misleading claims both sides and often fuelled by bot/troll farms.
I think this is a massive problem. That I'll say out loud. I'm happy to respectfully discuss any kind of political problem. I think that's how we find peace and the way forward.
The bit I won't say out loud is that I think most of the activists shouting the loudest are bloody idiots. Most of them are pushing deeply partisan agendas and often outright conspiracy theories. I think they're deeply and emotionally entrenched in fighting and arguing.
It's divisive and harmful to both sides.

Two of my children say they won't have children themselves. I wouldn't admit it out loud but this makes me exceedingly unhappy, for them.

Out loud I say "this is your decision to make, you must do what feels best for you". And that is true.

I regret getting married because I've been in an abusive marriage for 30 years and have wanted to leave for a reeallly long time but have never been able to find a way to. Yet.
The problem with marriage is that as well as it entailing a lovely wedding day wearing a pretty dress where everyone celebrates you, it also entails entering a legal contract which nobody explains to you. What's yours is theirs etc like gambling debts and STDs from their adultery. For better or worse, possibly much worse.
When you do things that people expect you to do together, such as taking out a mahoosive joint mortgage, nobody points out that if your partner suddenly stops paying their half of the mortgage (simply because they are a selfish wanker for example) the bank will expect you to pay their half too and if you can't afford it, you could end up homeless despite having a decent job and always supporting yourself independently prior to meeting your prince. This isn't exclusive to marriage of course, it can happen to cohabiters too.
If I ever get out of this marriage, I will never marry or cohabit again. Fuck that. Enjoy your independence.

I pretend to be Mick Jagger in his prime, pouting, pointing and posturing, I am sure I look ridiculous but it lifts my spirits and amuses me.

Oh goodness I'm so sorry to hear you are struggling so much. I always notice your posts and feel I know you a bit over the years. As useless as they are, I'm sending you my very best wishes.

I've thought of another one. It really irritates me when shops ask you to buy items for them to donate to charity. I'm not at all against donating to charity, but this way they get to take a profit from the sale and then claim that they've donated it. They haven't! If shops really cared then they'd just donate the items themselves.

My mother is a good person who did her best, but she is very damaged and passed on a lot of trauma to me. She still has no comprehension of what she did to me. It has been and still is extremely difficult being her daughter and I sometimes wonder if it'll be easier when she's gone.

I also have large (and very uneven) labia, and I am also deeply insecure about it. It took me six months to pluck up the courage to go for my latest smear because I’m so self-conscious. I feel I can’t wear tight trousers because I’m sure there is a visible (and again uneven) bulge, and I’m convinced everybody will notice. I’m glad to hear I’m not alone. If it’s as commonplace as the internet promises it is, I wish more people would talk about it. (But I also understand why they don’t. 😂)

My undercarriage isn’t great either. I wish it was more comfortable too, but the menopause does a number on that as well as childbirth.

Well, the more logical point is that they use the commuting time to do those chores?

The larger point is why it's women who feel obliged to do this and not men.