What wouldn't you admit out loud ?

[2ndNatureTime]

Im sure they'll be lots of judgement on here as always but here we go

I really wish I hadn't married my 1st husband. He was a loser and still is.
I find 99% of kids so dull

That i am at my families beck and call and they are my life - plus part time job - I don’t have a social life really

@Ilovecheeseyah "I really cannot stand staying overnight at other people’s homes. It gives me the ick"

Same here.

I inherited my late mother’s anxious dog and I am SO resentful about the responsibility.

I hate having to plan my whole life around where dogs are and aren’t allowed to go, and I hate bringing dog poo bags everywhere, and the sheer ball ache of trying to plan a day out let alone a holiday, and the faff and expense of dogsitters, and having to get her groomed, and having to have her anal glands expressed because otherwise she scoots bum gunk everywhere, and having to wash her all the time because she rolls in goose shit, and just basically having this creature following me everywhere, just watching me with guilt-making eyes.

I do love dogs, I just always knew I didn’t want the responsibility of having one of my own to look after. And I don’t feel I can abandon an already stressed and bereaved animal. I just wish she were a cat and not so fucking needy and smelly.

I grapple with these emotions sometimes.

BUT did you actually feel free when you were? I didn’t. I was trapped in the shackle of my expectations of myself then. If you hadn’t have married or become a mother, you would still be you - the person who might have felt unfulfilled by not doing those things and always have the other question hanging over your head.

i think this is a personality thing . I struggle a lot with the “what if I’d done this differently” thing. Therapy has helped. Diarised alone time helps.

That when the shopping comes I eat a whole packet of chocolate fingers and have a tea.

That I have a favourite child.

Im a bit gutted my son is short

Ok but men who carry their belongings out in a plastic bag because they don’t own an actual bag are 100 times worse

(these exist - my DH has a friend who does this and it gives me the skin crawls)

That putting your children through a divorce, new stepfamilies or general emotional neglect (includes making them spend excessive hours in childcare) is far more harmful than screentime. Yet many parents are incredibly sanctimonious about the "dangers" of screentime whilst damaging their kids in all kinds of other ways.

That I’m proper lonely under all the charity work and all. People think I must be grateful to get home to some peace after running around after everyone else but the fact is without a life of constant service I would have nothing and no one.

That I have a well paid full time job and spend about 25% of my working week actually working.

I literally said this to my therapist today.

Another one saying id never admit to using Mumsnet.

And that I often wait up to about 4 weeks before I change bedding even though a discussion last week in work revealed most of my colleagues do too 😬 for purposes of that conversation I change them once a week religiously 😇

What about friendships? Have you made genuine ones through your volunteering etc?

I love this so much. You should absolutely say it out loud!

Mine is more mundane, I’d not say out loud that I regret taking my husband’s last name. Been married 20 years now so it’s a bit late to row back but my old name was much better.

😂😂 same sometimes, im paid for my knowledge anyway as far as im concerned 😬

That despite being happily married to a wonderful DH I sometimes (often) imagine what it would be like to be alone, with nobody else to consider, downsize the house, give loads of stuff away, and live simply… and I quite like the thought of it.

A hosepipe ban isn’t the answer. The water companies need to be fixing their leaks, and not putting the onus on the public to reduce their water usage until they’ve done that.

Flowers provide pollen for bees, who are vital to the survival of the human race.

So you should probably reconsider who the dick is here. And I’ll give you a clue, it’s not the poster to whom you were replying.

Only cloth bags or any 'bag for life'? My ex and sons refuse to take a bag for life into the shop. Son's take a backpack (still saving the planet) and ex buys a new one every time. I quite admire men who are secure enough in themselves they don't care what other people think. Although I also don't understand how it could give anyone the ick...it just looks responsible to me lol!

This is me too. Though my DH has cancer, incurable, so one day it will actually come true. People keep asking me how I am and I can tell they don't really believe me when I say I'm fine, but the truth is that part of me is happy that I'll be on my own at some point in the future. No more compromises and being responsible for helping someone else all the time.
I will if course be very upset, don't get me wrong, he is the love of my life, but it will be tempered by the joy of finally being fully in control of my own life again.

Oh come on play fair. I’m trenchant in my views about water use and not using hosepipes, but in the spirit of the thread, it’s not fair to criticise or people won’t post.

I did this this morning on a ride ! So pleased to hear it’s not just me 🤣

Me too!!