Gutted - can’t take job offer for my absolute dream job 😞

[TheDrswife]

Anyone else had to swallow a very bitter pill? I’m a copywriter and I’ve been offered a full time hybrid role for my favourite ever brand that I buy a lot of.

The problem is that I also have a three year old in term time nursery only (no scope for more days). I doubt I could find another suitable setting so quickly and tbh I don’t want to - she’s my priority and I don’t want to just shove her in some random childcare that she doesn’t know.

So I get that it’s my fault for being so inflexible but I just don’t see a way I can accept this job 😞

Can you get a P/T nanny for the in-office days?
It seems a shame not to take the job, especially - as others are saying AI is dominating copywriting these days, so to find a company you admire who is keeping the human component is gold dust. Your child will settle.

Honestly, I’d throw all the money you can at the situation and look into child minders or part time nanny’s (maybe a uni student?). It’ll be so worth it in the long run if you can make it work.

Well……I did it! Accepted the job.
Basically going to look at maximising her time in nursery and hiring a part time Nanny to handle the rest. I’ll be paid enough to cover it and we’ve also cancelled a planned holiday to help finance it that way too. So I’ll hit the ground running then see where the land lies in terms of flexibility later down the line.

Thanks for all the messages! I don’t think I’d have done it without MN making me really think about it.

Hurray! Huge congrats! 🥳

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Congrats!

Yay, I’m so happy for you! It’ll be great for your daughter to see you doing something you love, too. Even if it doesn’t work out to be the dream you hoped (I’m sure it will), at least you won’t have regret and resentment because you’ll know you gave it a go.

Great update. Well done @TheDrswife.

Congratulations! I had a similar problem 30 years ago when my daughter was three. The plan had been for me to go to full time when she started school, but I would have been a fool to turn down the (full time) job when it was offered. I got a nanny and mudded through. My son was two years older, so in school, and the nanny took and collected him, took daughter to nursery on the two days she was used to, then to pre-reception when it started the term before school. She also did things like washing their clothes and running a hoover round. I pretty much worked for nothing the first year, and was frazzled, but it was worth it later on.

I'm sure you'll find the same. Your daughter will benefit from having her mum happy and in a full-time job that (presumably) pays well, particularly when there's no need to pay for so much childcare.

Great news, OP! Congrats!

Great. Congratulations!

Well done! You won’t regret it! My SIL although her job is hard, wouldn’t be without it and loves it, despite childcare issues (which aren’t any really).

Posted before full reading. Well done in the new job!

Thanks everyone. It feels such a relief to have made the decision and from the interviews it seems that the team is really nice 🤞🤞

When is your start date?

How much is your GP husband on? You needed to cancel a holiday in order to afford your return to work childcare?

So pleased you decided to go for your dream job and make it work. I think the first year will involve a lot of planning but will be much easier when she starts reception. Best of luck

Not necessarily, it just seemed a prudent move.
About £12,000/month pre tax/NI/pension/ etc.

Thank you!

September 3rd

Enjoy your new job.

That’s brilliant, OP! Well done on figuring it all out.

Great news! I'm so happy that you've managed to make it work!

My sister is a GP and single mum. She managed just fine

I have been thinking about you! I’m so happy you have made it work for you. Brilliant outcome.