Would you mind if your partner left you on holiday ?

[inkyspells]

Pretty much that
Today he has just gone around the pool talking to everyone.
I have been in the pool but then I got out to get some shade.
i have asked him to spend some time with me and he just said “you know what I’m like,I like to talk to people”
I said I know that,and you talk to people of course
Can you spend time with me too?
Fell on deaf ears
He is still in the pool talking to everyone
Would it bother you ?

Because he’s an arsehole. OP if your honeymoon is this bad, your married life is going to be terrible. Are you sure you really want to remain married to him.

To all the PPs saying they wouldn’t mind this: OP IS ON HER HONEYMOON.

Neither of us could sit by or be in a public pool for 5 hours, it would drive us both nuts.

however if I wanted to go for a walk and DH didn’t, I would go. Even grab my wallet and shopping bag if the walk takes me in the direction of shops..

meet up again later. Maybe another dip to cool off.

as a suggestion, if your partner is quite social why not invite another couple to join you at dinner or lunch ? Our friends are currently on a boat and do this, the boat matches them with other people of similar age/location.

@inkyspellsyou made a post last week about being on honeymoon and your husband was off boozing all day. Now you are away with a partner who is randomly leaving you by the pool.

you are disingenuous or a troll. Which is it?

Or is she ?
Two weeks ago he was still a partner and we must have missed the drama of the wedding, if there was one.

This is one of those posts that I recognise the back story probably tells more than the example you've given.

It's annoyed you and that's understandable if he's essentially treating your feelings as irrelevant. You're on holiday together and that's what you expected, to be together. You're obviously not someone who enjoys meeting random people on holiday.

It could just be that you're badly suited. Or it could be that this reflects an underlying dynamic. Only you can tell us.

Ok, so now having RTFT, he's an alcoholic, and what you're noticing is that nothing comes between him and a drink, and the long absences and people round the pool are just the setting for the drinking.

It's nice he's friendly. But presumably he's been like this before? So if you dind't like it, you should really have told him. If it's new, ask him why.

Why dont you talk to people and be sociable?Join him.

I'd mind more if I was relaxing by the pool and some random man came to make conversation tbh.

In your shows, I'd have enjoyed a peaceful hour or so, and then got up and carried on with my day. I'm not wasting precious holiday time waiting for someone!

If he wants to act like he's travelling solo then I suggest you do the same. Pretend he isn't there and enjoy some time to yourself on your own schedule, doing what you want, when you want. Take yourself out for a meal etc. Fuck him.

Yes it would bother me. Im surprised at all the answers saying it wouldnt. Whats the point of going on holiday with him if he leaves you alone for hours? You may as well go on holiday by yourself if that's what its like.

Anyway it doesn't matter what bothers the people on here, it matters what bothers you. Hes not a compatible holiday buddy for you. And hed probably be just as bad in other contexts. Dumping you at a weddings etc to chat with others, and leaving you feeling like you came to the event alone. So if you stick with him be prepared for plenty of this.

That takes the piss. It's all very well having a little bit of time to do whatever you want, but leaving you for that amount of time if you had nothing to do is just ridiculous.

He just sounds like a very sociable guy . I woulnt be bothered .

I would be very annoyed, and hurt. He basically values the company of random strangers over yours.

Just read this comment. I suspect anon666 is onto something here.

Was your previous thread about him getting rat arsed on your honeymoon and spending the whole day with just another couple?

Sounds like he's just a drunk who sees himself as the life and soul of the party, and won't change.

I knew a couple who were like this, they were both drunkards who were very garrulous and outgoing so for the most part it worked. Quite pleasant company from time to time, if you were in the party mood, but definitely not for the non drinkers or people who prefer to sit and read a book.

As you're basically a tea totaller who wants to go for quiet walks on the beach your relationship is not going to work out, sorry.

Do you have mobility issues? I don't understand why you can't walk to him and start a conversation? Or did he walk away from you mid-conversation?

Why not go and join him instead of being a mardy ar*e and sulking by yourself?

My first husband disappeared for 2 days on our honeymoon. I was adopted by a lovely group of people and was quite sad when he came back. Sign of things to come

Grief no! My late husband always said "I do her head in if I was with her for hours on end" and "I would be telling him to do one"

I know men used to say to my husband "how do you get away with it? My wife won't let me do that"

If he kept buggering off then yes as he is supposed to be on holiday with me to spend with me or what was the bloody point. Time to have a word!

None of this is ok. Two threads aren’t going to give you the answer ‘yes this is ok’. - you either leave him or try to change him. Good luck with the latter!

Oh dear! I suspect so..

Annulment indeed! 😬😬

This.

@inkyspells Sorry, OP

I'm the. Chatty one , my husband just had his nose in a book. It's fine as long as you do spend some time together later