Would you mind if your partner left you on holiday ?

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Pretty much that
Today he has just gone around the pool talking to everyone.
I have been in the pool but then I got out to get some shade.
i have asked him to spend some time with me and he just said “you know what I’m like,I like to talk to people”
I said I know that,and you talk to people of course
Can you spend time with me too?
Fell on deaf ears
He is still in the pool talking to everyone
Would it bother you ?

Yep - I spotted that too.

It doesn't really matter if it annoys others - it upsets and annoys you.

I suppose what you do about it depends how much it annoys you. Is this just a problem on holiday, or would you like to spend more time together generally? Do you feel there is something missing in the relationship?

yeah glad to get rid of him and have some peace to read my book or have 40 winks. he can talk himself hoarse if he wants

Amazing how in the space of a minute your time alone increased by an hour!

See your post above.

This!

This is completely different though. They are doing the same thing and are in the same place, he is just ignoring her and performative attention seeking from strangers around the pool. I know exactly the type.

My daughter’s XP was like this and not just on holiday but every occasion eg weddings, in the pub etc etc - she realised she was living with an emotionally abusing narcissist. He almost broke her.
He wanted EVERYONE to like him and think he was a great guy and he sounds just like your guy.
Fortunately she finished with him and is now married to someone normal who doesn’t leave her at every opportunity and actually puts her feelings first.
Yours won’t get better - it will get worse - sorry.

If you have been together like my old man and I for over 35 years, time apart is sometimes bliss. But not on a holiday when time is already precious if you both work full-time, and if this is your first holiday together, asks a lot of questions?? As this should be your honeymoon stage.
Listen to your instincts. If it don't feel right, then that is question only you can answer.

no, not really. Presumably you have dinner every night?

How have the people around the pool responded? Surely they don’t want a random just coming up and talking to them? I wouldn’t like that on holiday…

Four hours you say? By yourself? On holiday? Sat round the pool? Absolute fucking bliss. I wouldn’t have a problem.

Four you just said 😂

YANBU
I don’t like being joined at the hip I find it extremely suffocating, but he really is taking the piss.

It’s bad manners and ignorant if nothing else.

Has he usually got form for ignoring you for hours on end?

It depends. Are you generally happy together. Is he an extrovert. Are you quiet. Perhaps you need to tell him he can chat away to people but to leave you on your own for 4 hours is thoughtless. How he behaves then is your answer.

So go and join him, instead of expecting him to come to you.

I’m in a holiday lodge as I type, it’s a quiet resort - there’s hot tubs but you have to be out by 10pm. There’s nothing here onsite, it’s designed that way for peace. Had a lovely 3 days at the weekend, then the Mon-Frid people arrived and omg. The man next to us is sooo loud and over the top. He has no concept of how bad it is.

I feel for you. I couldn’t be with someone like that. I think it stems from having a boyfriend years ago that was the life and soul, he always came back eventually but not after he’d put on a show and had people eating out of his hand. It’s embarrassing if you are not that way inclined. We split after 8 years when I realised there was more to life than being with the ‘class clown’.

You've been told over and over. Please listen.

Hi op he’s taking the piss yes fine to talk to others but not leave you alone it’s like there conversation is more important than yours. He’s disrespectful yes an hour or so but that’s ridiculous. Even if you read books you’re not likely to concentrate is it men and women? I would not bother going away with him in future.

Honestly, your posts should come with a health warning.

Engaging with this poster is a waste of time. Her new husband is a nightmare.
He was a nightmare fiancee.
Multiple threads about his awful behaviour.
In the last one OP was advised to go home because of his behaviour - this is her honeymoon. She’s now choosing to stay with this idiot.

This ⬆️ There's always that annoying weirdo who thinks he's Mr Charisma, chatting to everyone when they are just trying to mind their business and chill. I'd be embarrassed if he was mine!

I note you’re on your honeymoon in Mexico. This isn’t on, OP. I’m
so sorry you’re having a dismal time. I think you should sit him down, when he hasn’t had too much to drink, and tell him this isn’t acceptable behaviour - on a holiday, let alone a honeymoon. If this is a sign of things to come, you’re going to have to give him an ultimatum. It doesn’t augur well for your marriage.

It would bother me if I asked him to spend time with me and he ignored that. I have a very chatty, social partner and would quite happily chill and read but if I asked him to spend time with me, he absolutely would.i

I agree, he might be a bloody nuisance 😆

Wasnt he the one who got paralytic on first night of honeymoon?? Wouldnt want him anywhere near me