Husband is ruining our honeymoon getting drunk …

[inkyspells]

Today is our first proper day here
We are in Mexico
He doesn’t listen to Any sort of advice or seem to have any common sense.
Anyway he started drinking at 9am this morning in the drink up pool.
Whiskey /cocktails and shorts but no water or soft drinks.
He was with a couple,and let me go for lunch alone as he was drinking with them.
We had plans to watch the England match ,he didn’t even come to the room to get his England shirt -just drank with this random couple.
I went to meet him at 3pm and it’s now just after 4 and he can’t stand ,being sick ,dizzy and still won’t drink water .
I have put him into bed
In going out to the beach and grab some Food soon I think.
Im honestly so sad and feel really alone
Am I being ott or would you be sad too ?

I'd be furious if my husband was drinking with people he barely knew rather than spending time with me on a romantic holiday and we have been married 26 years!

Is he normally a drinker?

How miserable for you. How long were you together before you got married? Has he always been a prat?

That’s awful, I would also be sad. Is he always a big drinker? He doesn’t sound like a great guy.

I married one of them too, didn't last long. Dickhead.

Unacceptable. On many levels. Sorry OP.

Book a flight and go home.

Or at least book a different hotel. Enjoy the holiday without him.

Sounds grim op. I hope he stops drinking from now on.

Time to have a nice evening for yourself and forget him (for now). He won’t make any sense. Sleep it off. Address it in the morning, obviously this is completely unacceptable behaviour and he’ll need to acknowledge that and apologise.

Does he have form for this? Is he abusive when drunk? Is he used to being abroad (are you in an AI resort?) Did he get drunk at your wedding?

Asking because context is important here. Problem drinking or random letting off steam that’s gone too far?

Jesus. What an utter arse

If he isn't suitably embarrassed and ashamed tomorrow then I'd seriously be questioning why I'd married him

Annulment, you see what you future is like now

Oh dear this is shit for you. Is he normally a drinker., this isn't his first time doing this I'm sure. I'd be more than sad. I'd be angry, Id off by myself, enjoying the place.
That he chose to drink all day with strangers saysalot about how he places you on the priority list.

I have no time for drinkers or alcoholics, my exh was one. I married him knowing, and left him as he was addicted.

My advice is, don't rely on him for your fun on this trip, go out and enjoy yourself, think carefully about having children with him, ifyou suspect this is a pattern that will repeat.

Yeah it’s a all inclusive resort
it’s been so hot here today
Im trying to get him to sip on water but he won’t
What do I do ? Do I just let him sleep it off?
Yeah he’s done this before on Holiday
promised he wouldn’t do it again but here we are

Annulment

NEVER judge anyone on their words over their actions.

Is there something bigger going on that’s caused this kind of behaviour @inkyspells or is this pretty typical of him and you were just hoping it would be different because it’s your honeymoon?

Honestly, I wouldn’t be babysitting a drunk man child for the night. I’d be getting my own room, getting on with my holiday and seeing how long it takes him to see the error of his ways.

And if he doesn’t then that would be a deal breaker for me.

Put him in the recovery position and let him sleep it off.
Meanwhile, I would be looking at an annulment, seriously,

Oh dear @inkyspells.

He has shown you who he is (more than once unfortunately!) - believe him!

One of DH’s acquaintances th ee up and choked on his own vomit. His wife found the ‘life and soul of the party’ dead in the morning. It’s stupid and dangerous.
If he’s got form, I’d be regretting my life choices in your shoes.

This is absolutely rubbish OP! How dare he.

And so it begins.

He clearly has a dysfunctional relationship with alcohol. Think very carefully - his kind don't get better, they get worse. Do not bring children into this unless and until he addresses his alcohol use and has 2+ years of sobriety under his belt.

And it isn't your job to manage him. Don't start doing that, make him take responsibility. He clears up the vomit, he tidies any mess, he pays to replace anything he breaks in his drunken stupor.

What a prick, spoiling your honeymoon.

But you know he has form for this already.

Actions speak louder than words. His words are meaningless op. Get rid of him.

I'm so sorry he is ruining your honeymoon. I was married to a drinker and know how upsetting it is. Just sending a hug and hope things improve after today . X