Would you mind if your partner left you on holiday ?

[inkyspells]

Pretty much that
Today he has just gone around the pool talking to everyone.
I have been in the pool but then I got out to get some shade.
i have asked him to spend some time with me and he just said “you know what I’m like,I like to talk to people”
I said I know that,and you talk to people of course
Can you spend time with me too?
Fell on deaf ears
He is still in the pool talking to everyone
Would it bother you ?

An ex did this to me one holiday, I had my two then youngish kids with me and I was pregnant, he liked a drink and then would be more invested in socialising with strangers than us and I paid!!! He was very soon an ex, I think it's very disrespectful. Holiday alone in future.

To be honest depends , spending some time with you should include doing something not just being the same place as you so what are you 2 like when together? Do you chat a lot ? Or did you just want him by your side ?

You were writing the other day how you were on your honeymoon and the first day he was drunk and being an arsehole 'but that's nothing new'. You painted him as a complete twat before you married.
You had so much advice on that thread even to the point of being advised to get another hotel room or fly home. Some were even saying don't sleep with him and get the marriage annuled when you get home.
Yet, you are STILL with him in Mexico and in effect moaning about his twat behaviour.
Have to ask ourselves why?

Sorry, but having seen you're the Mexican honeymoon poster... what are you still doing with this twat and worrying about him? Have you no self esteem?

I don't know why you keep trying to justify it to yourself but... He isn't going to change, love. Not ever. It's early days for the marriage still. Please, for the love of god, instead of complaining on here over and over about the same stuff, cut your losses and get rid. I'd be grateful for the time spent away from him, tbh. He doesn't care about you. He will keep on doing it. You can't "make him" be different. The only thing you can do to save your sanity is change your behaviour, see him as the utter loser he is (he is) end the marriage, and leave him to it without a backwards glance

She isn't happy with him. She's posted on other threads about his spending their honeymoon off his face on drink.

While I wouldn't mind at all being left bc I don't want to be joined at the hip with a partner,their whole relationship seems toxic, tbh.

Is he narcistic ?

I used to have a friend who was extremely narcistic,. He would go round and talk to people to tell them how clever and wonderful he was.
His opening line " do you know who I am ?

You're absolutely in the right to feel the way you do. Yeah fine we all chat with randomers on holiday. But at the end of the day, it's about you two. If he wants to chat shit to strangers all day then tell him to piss off on his own for a long weekend.

It depends if he makes you feel loved, cherished and important to
him most of the time.
If you feel a bit side lined and taken for granted then this would hurt. There’s more to this.

@inkyspells are you actually OK? Starting multiple threads about your awful boyfriend (now husband) and never taking any advice on board or responding to posters and then just popping up with a new thread is very odd behaviour. And it's wearing.

He doesn't care about you, he wouldn't even give you a lift in the ice for a few minutes and helped out his friend.

He stole from you.

He's a gambling addict.

He's an alcoholic.

He's spent your honeymoon blind drunk a lot of the time.

At some point you're going to have to put up and shut up if you continue to actively choose him. Sorry to be so harsh but plenty of posters on your numerous other threads have spent time giving you good advice that you totally ignore. It gets wearing.

It wouldn’t bother me at all!

Yeah me too

That would not bother me one bit.

I think it kinda depends on how long you’ve been together. I’ve been with my partner 10 years so I’d love the alone time tbh! When he got back he might have some stories for me! However if I asked my partner to spend time with me or go for a walk and he ignored me I’d be pretty mad

No, I’m not clingy and would be thrilled if my DP took himself off to socialise with others.

Is he 21?

It wouldn’t bother me as I take my kindle and ignore him anyway, what I would be thinking after 4 hours is who the hell is giving him the time to chat!

you sound quite needy

I would mind. Very much.

Happy to do separate things, but also enjoy spending time together.

Oh no....he's that guy at the pool....
😥

He's on holiday, he wants to chat and you just want to sit by the pool. I'm like your DH, find it boring just laid down, need to get up and interact with people, have some fun. He's there, he comes back, maybe join him and have a few holiday chats as well?

That would have been good to know. Think I’m out now🤷‍♀️

OP, why are they still your partner?

I'd love to be left on my own for a few hours, but I'd think he was very odd to go around annoying people - if that's his general personality (constant chatting, introducing himself to strangers etc), then I wouldn't be able to live with him.

OP is long gone

No, it wouldn't bother me. My DP and I are both suitably antisocial with strangers, so we tend to keep to ourselves, but our daughter is the world's friendliest kid and so when she is chatting with other kids invariably we end up making small talk with their parents and on the odd occasion DP has hit it off with someone, I am delighted to leave them to it and excuse myself back to my little Hermit Corner 😄