Would you mind if your partner left you on holiday ?

[inkyspells]

Pretty much that
Today he has just gone around the pool talking to everyone.
I have been in the pool but then I got out to get some shade.
i have asked him to spend some time with me and he just said “you know what I’m like,I like to talk to people”
I said I know that,and you talk to people of course
Can you spend time with me too?
Fell on deaf ears
He is still in the pool talking to everyone
Would it bother you ?

"You know what I'm like"

Enjoy the rest of your married life hearing him say this as an excuse to whatever shithousery he gets up to.

It's not a holiday though, it's your honeymoon.

Can I ask how your wedding was?

Looking at your other post, OP, I really feel for you. Not the right time, but maybe when you get back take to work out what's right for you.

Drinks wise, admittedly we had a couple of times when we both had too much to drink on our honeymoon, but we were both happily together - there's a big difference doing it on your own without the other person unless you've agreed to give eachother 'me' time.

I posted only having read your posts op. Deleting mine now that I've seen what since other pps have said.

Well it would be very out of character as both dh and I on holiday are not people who seek out company!
We alternate between a trip out somewhere and a lying by the beach/pool/swimming and reading type day with a wander down the beach to a different beach bar and a new restaurant out for dinner but other than sitting at the bar pre dinner or maybe in the pool bar we don’t really talk to anyone, that includes each other most of the time 😂 Just crave peace!
Your dh sounds like he’s annoying everyone else, is this a regular thing on holiday?

You husband sounds like he's on a lads holiday.... getting wasted, chatting shit to strangers. At this point, i'd just do you own thing, don't chase him. Then when you get home, have a think about if this is the right man for you.

Oh, just seen the other thread that was linked above.
Hmm, what a shame for you. I don’t know what to suggest, your op and one response was all you added to the other thread.
I’d be exiting this arrangement as quickly as possible personally, I don’t think you’re in for a happy life with this carry on on your HONEYMOON.

So the honeymoon hasn’t got any better??

you are clearly two very different people.

I’m not entirely certain you like each other never mind love.

I wouldn't like it. He'd rather be with strangers than with you - that tells you everything. What's your life with him like when you're back home? He seems attention-seeking, really, and I wouldn't like what he becomes when he's drinking.

Oh dear.

@inkyspells any response?

So he drinks and annoys you and maybe others as is loud

The only time it bothers me is when he returns back to the sun lounger exclaiming that he has met a lovely couple in the pool and we’re all going to dinner together tonight.
He is a social butterfly I am not. Other than that I wouldn’t give a toss.

I am like your husband. I'll spend hours chatting. I love meeting people and I get my energy from being around interesting people. I also like going off for an early walk when we go abroad. DH on the other hand isn't like this and will happily lay with his book and occasional dip in the pool. We spend plenty of time together on holiday but we don't have to be attached at the hip all day.

It wouldn’t bother me that we’re doing different things - my DH likes to lie in on holiday, often until midday. I’m an early bird who’s up for 5.30am latest. So we have hours and hours apart every day, and meet up for the afternoon. Even if we’re together, for example round a pool, we’ll often spend time apart because I like to be on the move and he likes to just chill.

But if he asked me to chill with him, I absolutely would - that’s a direct request. So I get why you’re annoyed, OP.

My husband often leaves me alone for hours on a holiday. He likes to run, he likes playing phone games, I like reading. Granted we have two kids now so are generally together on holidays, AT ALL TIMES.

Im more confused and sorry for the strangers that had to deal with this rando talking to them.

A holiday alone is my fantasy at the moment 🤣 All that time to relax without anyone bothering me. But I guess if you go with a partner it's different. What is acceptable depends on your relationship really and what the usual dynamics are.

No, it would not bother me. My DH is more sociable than me. Unfortunately he joins chats with people whilst I'm sat with him, I'd love it if he took off alone to do his socialising so I could have some peace.

Exactly this. My sympathy is with the other poor buggers trying to relax on holiday and being ‘talked to’ by a random.

@inkyspells You had loads of replies on your other thread. When you start a new one you should at least tell people you posted before and it's your honeymoon.

I think you know that what he's doing isn't right or normal. When you get home, think carefully about whether you want a life with this drunk who treats you like this at the time he should be attentive and loving.

Oh I am so sorry. This is supposed to be your honeymoon.
Your husband left you on the first day to start heavy drinking in the morning. You will never be happy with this alcoholic man.
Love yourself and leave him. He’s not good enough.

Yes, I agree with this.

However, you very much do know what he's like and it's ok to not want to be with him anymore. I get that separating soon after the marriage will have people talking and you might feel embarrassed and maybe be worried about money spent on weddings or everyone's gifts or whatever. Telling family, friends, work colleagues...maybe the hassle of moving out..But that pales in comparison to being with the wrong person for years on end. It's ok to just say you made a mistake if this isn't what you want.

Why, oh why did you marry this feeble excuse for a human being - your previous posts describing his behaviour indicate that you are a masochist with a bar so subterranean that it is knocking on the door of Hell itself. For Christ's sake woman, get rid of this heap of trash as soon as possible and seek some counselling for your self destructive behaviour.

I wouldn’t bother me being by myself, it would bother me that he’s wandering around annoying people.

Why partner and not dh as now married