Would you mind if your partner left you on holiday ?

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Pretty much that
Today he has just gone around the pool talking to everyone.
I have been in the pool but then I got out to get some shade.
i have asked him to spend some time with me and he just said “you know what I’m like,I like to talk to people”
I said I know that,and you talk to people of course
Can you spend time with me too?
Fell on deaf ears
He is still in the pool talking to everyone
Would it bother you ?

The OP has started several threads about him. He drinks and gambles and is a waste of space.

God knows why she married him.

Did he....ever come back...?

For hours every day? Yes, that would bother me.

On one day of the whole holiday? Or most days, once a day for one hour? No, neither of those would bother me.

We’re not glued together at the hip. We have separate things each of us enjoys, as well as interests in common. I see this as no different to dh going off to a waterpark one day, while I chill by the hotel pool with my book and my needlework.

You and so many who have replied wouldn't bother me, obviously haven't read 'the Mexican honey moon thread' and his general twat behaviour before they married.
He gambles, drinks too much, stolen from OP and more. She's obviously not happy but married him anyway.
This thread isn't just about being left alone beside a pool on her honeymoon.
Those who still wouldn't be bothered must have a low level of understanding, because OP is NOT talking about a normal, loving relationship to start with. A glass of wine and a fucking kindle isn't going to prevent this slow motion crash of a so called marriage.

Sounds like you have a 'normal' marriage. OP doesn't, on honeymoon and loads of problems with her twat husband.

This is a classic example of where ppl really need to RTFT before airily replying that they would be fine with it....

Going around and talking to everyone won't necessarily make him Mr Popular. People want to chill out, swim and read on holiday. He sounds like a dick.

Just not getting it are you? If it was only him talking to other people OP might not be posting but there is so much more if you read the OP's honeymoon thread for the jest of background.

I so agree

It’s strange that this had been downgraded to holiday, last week it was honeymoon?

People don’t normally AS before answering threads. OP needs to link or explain fully the issues for relevant answers.

To be fair, OP didn't link to other threads and this post was, at least in the original post, asking the question that so many of us answered. If her circumstances are that awful, then she has my true sympathies.

TBH some people just don’t like sitting by the pool. Could you go and chat to people/walk around together? I’m wondering if he’s just merrily enjoying his holiday and feels like you’re expecting him to do the holiday your way. He might want you to do stuff with him. Have a chat and make some compromises so you can both spend time together.

Hopefully he will be downgraded to an ex husband soon.

I dont think it would bother me too much. Mine often goes off to the gym or for a walk or coffee and I'm quite happy staying by the pool. I think 4 hours is a bit much though but if he gets bored sunbathing then maybe I wouldn't see it as an issue. As long as we have our time in the evening at dinner and having a drink together then I would be fine.

If my partner was doing that, i would be worried he had a brain tumor that altered his personality.

No but seriously, depends. If he was doing that while I was reading my book by the pool, fine. If he was doing that when we are having dinner or doing it instead of coming to see sights or even there talking to everyone except me, then I would be upset.

If we had no children I’d be happy just to sit and read/chill out alone. I’d also be equally happy to go sightseeing alone if he didn’t want to.

I thought I recognised the username. She started a thread a while ago about her partner refusing to give her a lift when the pavements were icy, but being happy to drive miles out of his way to drop off a colleague. Her partner sounded awful then too.

There was an older thread started by a different username about it being icy and IIRC desperately needing to go to town to return some boots but her partner refusing a lift which was so similar I thought it might be her.

Possibly she is one of those posters with an abusive partner that they have no intention of leaving and have got into the habit of starting serial threads about.

Obviously you both have very different expectations of a vacation. May I ask if you spend lots of time together when you're nót on vacation? During regular day-to-day life? A person who loves to socialise but can't during working hours and spends all of his/her down time at home or at least with the same person might feel travel &vacation is the perfect time to see and talk to new people 🤷🏼‍♀️

This poster has started multiple threads about her husband who is a complete waste of space. Goodness knows why she married him.

No need to AS, just read the replies. The fact she was leaving out key information was flagged reasonably early on IIRC.

He will continue to do your head in and make you feel shit until you leave him. There's the answer to this, all previous and any subsequent posts.

surprised at some people’s replies. There’s doing a few things like going for a fun by yourself and then there’s being on hour own for 4-5 hours. I feel you OP I think that’s excessive!

Yes, me too

Not having read the honeymoon thread, that had all passed me by. Anyway, not commenting on her relationship, just this particular situation.