@dizzydizzydizzy
physiological differences?
I had a complex childhood. Childhood emotional neglect. Abandonment. I was also bright, an air head and achieved zero GCSEs due to my lack of concentration.
The reality is, I had barriers to learning due to my environment and ACEs. If a neuroscientist scanned my brain OF COURSE there would be physiological differences. Your brain is literally shaped by the way you live your life. There are differences in depressed brains, it doesn’t mean the depression “came first”. Depression is often a result of life circumstances.
The life circumstances came first. Brain differences come second. There’s also neuro plasticity - you don’t need to accept a diagnosis. Your brain can change again.
I chose to do the hard work. I healed emotionally. I worked on my distress tolerance. I engaged in mindfulness and yoga to increase my tolerance for sitting still. I had therapy. I exercised daily to discharge energy. I could give you SO many examples of how I healed my “ADHD”. Relying on stimulants wasn’t an option for me.
I would never tick those diagnostic boxes now but I most certainly would have done in my childhood/adolescence and early adulthood. So I stand by all of my original comments. They are not offensive. Some of us just see the label for what it is, particularly if we have lived experience.
Plenty of young people have disturbed attachment systems even if they had “good parenting” and come from affluent homes etc. Take postnatal depression for example. It often hinders a mothers ability to attach properly to her baby. There’s no blame here, it just is what it is. People never want to truly look within, or at their upbringing etc. It’s easier to dismiss and label it purely as a “physiological, neurodevelopmental difference”.