How can I deal with my adult daughter refusing to wear a seatbelt?

[IdaSpare]

Please help, I'm at the end of my tether, my 21 year old daughter who will not wear a seatbelt either driving or as a passenger. She was always brought up to wear it and everyone else in the family always wears one. I think it's a sensory thing as she has always been very difficult about changing clothes or dealing with zips and labels etc but if she is going to drive a car, she has to wear it. It's quite unusual for me to be in a car with her anymore but every time recently I have been, I've had to tell her to put it on. I know she goes straight back to not wearing one when I'm not there. I've resorted to threatening to call the police on her myself but short of taking her keys off her I don't know what to do. I'm hoping I can show her this and she can realise how reckless and stupid she's being. Please, if any of you have any pearls of wisdom to share about dealing with a stubborn, know it all daughter, I'd be so grateful.

I lived in NZ when this advert was on.

Also fed up of hearing about 'sensory issues' or PDA or any other condition excusing people's criminal and/or anti social behaviour.

I have frequently been in cars without a seatbelt. In lots of countries the seatbelts are often not functioning. They didn't have them in the back when I was a child.

She is being a total idiot but she'll probably live to grow out of it.

Report her to the police. You can do it online.

It might seem harsh but if she’s ever in an accident and dies due to not wearing one, you’ll wish you had reported her.

I'm surprised she hasn't been pulled by the Police already, unless she's only recently started driving. I've known a few people who've been done for no seatbelt, it seems to be something Police patrols clock almost automatically. It's just a matter of time before she's caught, lets hope it's before she has an accident.

Mine makes a really high beeping noise until all seatbelts are on. I challenge anyone to put up with that for a whole journey.

So, it’s her choice. Very little you can do, really.

So don’t ger in her car and hope she grows up. In several senses.

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=epTdI-9V6Jk&pp=ygUxbm9ydGhlcm4gaXJlbGFuZCByb2FkIHNhZmV0eSBhZCAyMDAwIGJvZHkgdG8gYm9keQ%3D%3D

Not really sure how to help, but does her car not go off its dinger? (Safety aside (which I know is the only real issue)) I can’t imagine anything more annoying than listening to my car and seeing the dash light up like a Christmas tree the full way.

Not wearing a seat belt isn’t anti social behaviour. As a driver it’s her own look out and as a passenger, anyone has the ability to refuse to move the car if it isn’t on. As for “criminal” it is a motoring offence, not armed robbery.

Ok ... so don't buckle your child in next time....

Hard core I know, but I would have to call the police if I knew she was out driving like this. You could be saving many lives

Report her to the police. Call every time she leaves the house.

You honestly think the police are going to come out to find this driver to do that?

Do you know how overstretched they are?

@IdaSpare As others have said, find videos where people have become very disfigured or disabled. They hit young people harder than ones where people die. Dying they can't at all imagine, so it's just not real
(or it's a painless 'nothing') but being disfigured/disabled scares them.

The PPs daughter is an adult, she drives, she makes her own decisions, she’s not five years old!

What’s the relevance of not putting the belt on a child?

If you pay anything towards the car, take the keys away. Dont drive unless its on. Other than that, there is nothing else you can do I think.

I regularly drive a car which doesn’t even have seatbelts but not wearing one when it’s available is just idiotic. I also see cars quite often which either have the belt plugged in permanently or one of the little adapters to shut the warnings up.

Same, the noise would drive me bonkers if it went on for more than the 2s I ever didn't have the belt on for. If her car doesn't have this, is there a way of retrofitting?

@IdaSpare - "... I think it's a sensory thing as she has always been very difficult about changing clothes or dealing with zips and labels etc..."

Rather than speculating about why she doesn't do it, have you actually asked her why?

I wouldn't ask her to put her seat belt on. I'd allow her a moment to do it and then ask her to get out of the car and drive off. If it's your car, take her off the insurance and tell her she's not driving it any more. If it's her car, I'd leave her to it but I wouldn't be her passenger.

The new cameras being installed are able to capture whether the occupants are wearing seatbelts. She will be caught sooner or later.

It’s very easily bypassed.

The voice of reason!

All this “call the police” everytime she doesn’t wear a belt, how about the police use their time dealing with actual crimes, not belligerent drivers who want to risk their own lives by not wearing a safety aid.

I’d not be happy if my mugging was not attended because the police were rushing to OPs house to find her daughter somewhere driving around without a seat belt on, because she chose not to put it on.

I’m not sure the potential fine, unless she calls “sensory issues” and gets away with it, is a cost effective choice of time spent!