What age did you get engaged, married and have kids?

[Benny91]

As I feel life is too short and I’m just throwing my life away. Me and my girlfriend are 33 and have just bought a house and are yet to get engaged, married and have kids. But because the cost of everything else we’ve just saved up for a house and have thought about the said stuff to a later time. But as said we both feel it’s a ticking time bomb to have marriage and kids, because for a woman after 35 it’s gets harder to have children. We’ve been together since 26, but all of this cost of living has made our lives a bit further behind than we’d like to be.

Anyone else in a similar situation?

I got engaged at 23, married at 24, first child at 25 (nearly 26), second child at 29 and final child at 32.

Engaged 29, married 29 (why hang around - we had a small wedding, paid for it ourselves), DC1 at 31, DC2 at 33. We’re 39 now so 10 year anniversary later this year.

If you want kids I wouldn’t waste time on an expensive/fancy wedding. Just get it done. You’ve done well to get a house which is the hardest bit! DH and I have had no family help either but kids were really important to me and I did have a few mcs at 30 due to a treatable condition, so I’m glad I worked that out quickly and while I was young and still had the luxury of time.

Engaged 34, married 35, dd1 36, dd2 40

Engaged at 28, married at 29, first DC at 31.

I agree with @VarioPerfect - don't spend lots of money on a big wedding if it means you would need to delay TTC.

Had kids at 26 and 29, bought house at 26, engaged at 30, married at 36, moved house to (hopefully) forever family home at 36. 40 now and have been together since we were 23

I was 27 when I got married and 32 when I had my dd. Didn't buy a house until I was 35 though, so you've chosen to do things in a different order.

You don't need lots of money to get married in any case.

Engaged 30, married 31, kids 33 and 37.

There is no ticking time bomb to get married, and if it’s essential to you before kids then don’t waste money on it, just get it done. If kids are essential don’t delay it too long, fertility starts slowly declining before 35 and there’s no guarantees at any age.

Met aged 33, engaged and married aged 34, babies aged 36,37 and 39.

Engaged at 19, married at 20, first child at 24 and second at 37. Husband is 10 years older than me

I was engaged at 25 and married at 26. I had hoped to have first DC by 30 but we had unforeseen fertility problems so DC arrived when I was 35 and 37.

Engaged 23, Married 23, dc1, 2 and 3 at 27, 29 and 34. Been married 24 yrs now.

Missed the house bit, first home at 23 but before the financial crash when they just threw money at you for sport.

Engaged - 21
House - 22
Married - 23
DD - 27

Engaged at 23, married at 25, kids at 32 and 36 (by choice - no fertility struggles or anything).

26, 27 and 40.
I definitely recommend ttc MUCH earlier than I did if you know you want to have children - leaving it late can work, but the chances of fertility problems is much, much higher and not worth the risk if you can start sooner

Engaged at 30, married at 31, divorced at 33, bought my own property at 34, engaged again at 37, married again at 38, son was born at 40, bought larger property at 42.

Engaged at 34, married at 35, first child 36.

It is male sperm that suffers DNA fragmentation after 35.

We met when I was 27 (but literally turning 28 in a few weeks), engaged and married at 30, first child at 32. We didn’t buy a house til I was 40 though.

Met just turned 25, engaged just turned 30, married at 30 (almost 31). House at 31, DC at 32 (pregnant at 31). DH is 3.5 years older than me.

We chose where to live based on proximity to (DH's) family and affordability. I'm from London but don't live there anymore as we wanted to raise DC in a house with a garden and wouldn't have been able to afford the space we wanted.

First home 25
Engaged 27
DC1 35
DC2 37
Married 40

I'm not one for tradition

Kids at 29 and 33. Engaged and married at 36. Met dh at 25. I bought a house at 27, (on my own). Bought house with my now dh when I was 31 and he was 34
We live in London, but it was the 90s...

House and engaged at 32 (we had both owned before but not together), kids (twins) at 33. Should have been getting married at 34 but COVID scuppered it, and we ended up getting married when I was 37.

Met at 16 Engaged at 17, Married at 19, no kids still together

Met at 18 (he was 36 🫣) kids at 20, 22, 26 married at 22, first house at 30, divorced at 38!

First home 40
First/only DC 41
Married 50