What age did you get engaged, married and have kids?

[Benny91]

As I feel life is too short and I’m just throwing my life away. Me and my girlfriend are 33 and have just bought a house and are yet to get engaged, married and have kids. But because the cost of everything else we’ve just saved up for a house and have thought about the said stuff to a later time. But as said we both feel it’s a ticking time bomb to have marriage and kids, because for a woman after 35 it’s gets harder to have children. We’ve been together since 26, but all of this cost of living has made our lives a bit further behind than we’d like to be.

Anyone else in a similar situation?

Engaged at 37, married at 37. I had my first child at 38, second child at 40. I was buying my council flat.

Before meeting and marrying my husband I was in a relationship with someone else for nearly 17 years, who didn't want marriage or children. Looking back, although I loved him, living together would have never worked out.

Engaged 19, Married 27, First child 33 second child 36.

We are about to celebrate 30 years together and 20 years married.

Engaged nearly 29, married nearly 30, DC1 nearly 32, DC2 nearly 36.

Got together 20. Bought our home at 23. Engaged 25. First baby 26. Second baby 28. Married 29.
36 now.

Engaged 22, married 23, first child 23
purchased first house 34

Met 23
Engaged 26
Married 27
First flat 30
First baby 33
Second flat 33
Second baby 36
First house 43
Still married 50

We got engaged at 21
(Spent lots if our 20's partying)

Bought a house at 31
Had DC1 at 32
Married at 33
Had DC2 at 33

Engaged at 20, married 6 months later, first child at 27 and second at 36.

Bought a flat at 24
Got engaged at 33
Got unengaged at 34
Had ds at 45

Sometimes life doesn't go to plan. Stop worrying and remember to enjoy yourself.

because for a woman after 35 it’s gets harder to have children
And men, your sperm quality and conception rate will start decline from age 35 also.

I think we’re pretty average - met my husband at university aged 24, got engaged at 27, married at 28, lived abroad for a few years and came home to the uk aged 30 to buy a house, and had our eldest when we were 32, and youngest when we were 34. We’re pretty standard amongst our friends, now mid-forties with a tween and a teen.

We would never have got on the housing ladder when we did without huge financial help from my very wealthy family. I’m always open about that as we were able to buy a cottage and do a total renovation on it to make a whole load more
money, which we then put into the house we own now, which is a ~£1 million farmhouse with land. Although we worked very hard on the cottage, we only had that opportunity because of the help we were given.

Met my husband at 22 , got engaged at 30 got married at 35 had DD1 at 37 DD2 at 41 . I hate to rush anything !! If DH hadn’t booked avd arranged the wedding we still wouldn’t be married ! All I had do do was buy a dress it was bliss !

Engaged 28, married 29, first child coming any time now at 33

Engaged at 21
married at 24
first child at 26
last child at 31

Engaged 24
Married 26
Kids 30 and 35

Met at 17 DD 23 DS 28 also engaged then DS at 32 and still not married 🤣

Engaged at 20
First home bought at 20
First child at 21
Married 27
Second child 28
Divorced 35
Third child 38
Fourth child 39
After paying a mortgage for 15 years I am now a social housing tenant about to move home still within social housing.
Take life as it comes.

Engaged at 19, married 21, bought house 22, first child 25 and second 27. Still married after more than 50 years.

I should add that houses were a lot cheaper in those days. We started work on £3kpa between us and our newish 3 bed ex-council house was £5k.

Met 14
engaged 16
married 19
First child 21
2nd 26
3rd 33
50th anniversary last year

Met at 28, married at 30, DD at 34. We both owned small flats - I'd saved a third of my income since starting work, so we had equity behind us. DH was well able to afford his flat, but there was a market crash the week after purchase and he ended up in 10% negative equity.

We bought a house we knew we could afford if we had a child, ie two bed, so could have had DD earlier, but chose to wait until then.

Engaged 31
House 31
Married 31
DC1 32
DC2 35

Engaged at 23
Married at 26
First child at 29
second child at 30
Third child at 34
Divorced at 47
Engaged to dh at 50
Married at 51.
Been with dh 10 years.

Got engaged to fiancé met at uni when I was mid twenties. Was jilted.

Met up with DH a few weeks later, I'd known him slightly through a group of friends. He was working abroad and we had a long distance correspondence romance. Married late 20s.

One DC after long journey to parenthood 16 years after we got married.

Engaged 26, married 27, babies at 28, 30, 32 and 36. I’m happy but wish we’d had dc slightly later. I would love to renovate a house as a couple and go on some more holidays pre dc.

I think engaged at 15 and married at 17 were the daft bits.