Things you never wanted that other people struggle to understand

[Notallwantit]

Hi all thought id start a thread on this to see if therer is others out there.
I read on MN about driving, buying homes marraige ect, and we get posters that have a rant at the next about why you dont want theses things.

So what things did you not want or have that outsiders just dont understand.
For me its the following.
I never wanted to own a home, drive a car or even learn to drive, also never wanted to get married either.
And never wanted children.
I have no interest in any of it, however some cant get there heads around it.

Anything to do with expensive clothes, shoes, bags, makeup, nails etc... I just don't get it at all.. to the point I get enraged with the Style and Beauty topic as I just see people spending SO MUCH MONEY on random bags and shoes and beauty treatments which seems like such a waste.

Fully appreciate it's my issue and no doubt I spend money on things that other people would be horrified by! (Although perhaps not, I am notoriously tight).

So many…
jewellery
perfume (it all smells like cat piss on me)
designer clothes or fast fashion
staying put - I have perennially itchy feet, and get quite bored with people saying ‘you’re moving again?’ incredulously
fancy car
parties
alcohol
watching television every day (or even every week)

My 5 year old doesn’t give a shit about choosing a toy if we take him to a toy shop. Just not interested.

A massive suv

Beauty treatments and creams. I just use moisturiser.
Getting married again - I’m divorced and most people assume I’ll want to get married again and have more kids! No thanks.
Travel, again people are incredulous that we have holidays in this country. Someone on here felt so sad for my kids as they haven’t been abroad yet.

Buying a house. I am very lucky though as I have a HA house with a lifetime tenancy (and I wish that anyone who wanted could have social housing too). But the stress I see people going through over finding a house, putting in offers, chains collapsing, getting gazumped...then having to pay a mortgage and deal with maintenance...then trying to sell the damn thing if you want to move....hell no, I'm glad I never have to go through that!

Paying into a pension. I'm extremely good at being poor, and I think I'll do fine on the state pension. (Even if it goes down, it's currently still more than the maximum I could get now on UC for me and 2 DC to live on- before deductions. I don't think a lot of people realise that!)

I suppose, to add to my previous post, this is part of the problem on MN. People seem to spaff colossal amounts of money on stuff like this- hundreds for a handbag, thousands for a holiday. Which is absolutely fine, if that's what they want to do.

Where it stops being fine is when they start telling everyone you need so much money to live on, or for a "comfortable" retirement. Thanks, but I'm sure I'll be just fine taking the bus with my charity shop bag!

Paying into a pension. I'm extremely good at being poor, and I think I'll do fine on the state pension.

Hmm. I'm not so sure about that one.

The full state pension is currently £12,547.60 a year, assuming you have paid at least 35 years worth of National Insurance contributions. If you haven't, your pension will be less than that.

I am about to retire, and I am glad that I also have my company pension as well as the state pension. We don't lead an extravagant lifestyle at all and own our home outright, so no rent or mortgage to pay either.

Yep. £238 a week. That's pension credits I believe, I think the statutory state pension is a few pounds a week more (you get pension credits whether you've paid NI or not).

The basic amount that I, a 10 year old and a 16 year old are entitled to to live on per week? Also £238. That's before the benefit cap, or- as I'm self employed, the minimum income floor, which brings it down to about £170 if I don't earn enough any given month.

Some people have no fucking idea.