Things you never wanted that other people struggle to understand

[Notallwantit]

Hi all thought id start a thread on this to see if therer is others out there.
I read on MN about driving, buying homes marraige ect, and we get posters that have a rant at the next about why you dont want theses things.

So what things did you not want or have that outsiders just dont understand.
For me its the following.
I never wanted to own a home, drive a car or even learn to drive, also never wanted to get married either.
And never wanted children.
I have no interest in any of it, however some cant get there heads around it.

Holidays, a career, children, another relationship, purchasing stuff I don’t need just to keep up with others or to make themselves feel better about buying stuff, washing my windows - I don’t look out of them.
My current list which I accept may well change.

Having a pet.
Going out regularly with friends
Wearing makeup
Beach holidays in hot locations
Takeaway food

Agree with fame and massive houses- they're just not for me.

I also have no wish for alcohol or anything with it in, which usually raises a few eyebrows.

I also never feel the need to have tickets to anywhere - gigs, sporting events etc. I don't understand how people can be so desperate as to wait for hours ready to ckick a button when sales to open. There's no celebrity and no event I'd find to be particulalry unmissable.

A job - I work for myself and wouldn’t have it any other way. I never wanted to work for anyone else

A fancy car - don’t care about them

Alcohol - hate it

Also, a hot tub. Horrible.

Never wanted a pet. Which leads to various comments about how I don’t like dogs, cats etc.

i just don’t want one. It’s not that I don’t like animals, I just don’t feel the need to have one in my home, have the expense of vet bills/food or the faff of having them looked after or fed if I am away.

To eat meat or dairy, I’ve been a life long vegetarian, I only ate dairy as a very small baby. I just don’t see the appeal or need.

Possibly not totally in line with some of the responses. I don’t want a driveway and people don’t understand it. I use the car a couple of times a week as I prefer to walk everywhere. Car is normally just down the road. Sometimes I lose it. It’s fine!

I don’t want any of my life on social media. I don’t want brightly coloured, fake nails or to wear make up any more (30 years of wearing it every day for work was more than enough). I don’t want to be fancied by anyone. I don’t want as many friends as I have acquired (but how do I cut them off without being a bit6h?) I dont want to feel bad for “having nice things” (thanks, twisted 1970s upbringing)
I just want to read, garden, cook & be kind where I can.

I don't really like holidays, especially UK holidays, where it's usually cold and grey and I just want to go home. I can tolerate a beach holiday somewhere hot, but I don't want to do more than use the pool, lie on a sunbed reading and eat from the All inclusive.

I don't like eating out. It's usually not as good as homemade and there's all that faff waiting around for service, the bill etc. - hence my liking for an all inclusive buffet, which I know Mumsnet thinks is terribly common.

I never want a dog, they are smelly and needy.

I don't like drinking alcohol.

However, unlike a lot of previous replies, I do like a nice car, the tackier the better. I don't buy brand new, but I do like something fast or showy.

To go on holiday. Cba with any of it.

A smart speaker Alexa type thing. I don't get the point. I can connect my phone to the dab radio if I want to listen to music. I can't see how connecting everything in my home is going to make life easier!

To be fair, it is quite hard to understand why somebody wouldnt want a secure home, a lasting relationship, children, independence and holidays.
Most people enjoy those things.

Are there any things that you like and enjoy that others don't?

I don't think you've had very good friends in your life. I don't recognise your version of what friendships are like.

I never wanted children, knew I didn't even from quite a young age. I have an incredibly "transmittable" and debilitating phobia with accompanying mental health issues, and had no intention of passing it on, the way it was passed on to me.

And I also hate going on holiday. See above mainly - it ruins my peace of mind for lots of things - but it's the idea of enforced "fun" doing stuff I'm not that interested in. I'm a home body at heart - a little break away is great, but 2-3 nights is plenty and I long for my own bed and bathroom.

Furniture/ home decor, I mean obviously I have Furniture i dont sit on the floor but its always been very functional to me and we still have a dining table from a moving out sale we bought for £50 15 years ago. I have no interest in buying these things beyond meeting basic needs.

Also plants, don't see the point of them.

I'm just not materialistic in the sense that I'm happy to drive an old, beat up car, have no interest in expensive designer clothes etc. My parents were the same and raised me to just not care about those kind of things and see them as superficial. On Mumsnet, though, if you don't like range rovers you must be jealous!

Have you read any of the replies? There are plenty of explanations there.

You have a depressingly grim view of people and friendship. I’m sorry that this is your experience, but I think this is to do with the people you have had the misfortune of meeting, rather than being the norm. No wonder you have no desire to have friends if this is your experience.

My friends and I love and support each other, sometimes through very difficult times. We celebrate each others’ achievements and our kids’. I have never felt a moment of frustration at any of them having good fortune, only joy at their happiness. And we spend a good deal of time just enjoying ourselves. Have you never been out with people and just laughed together until you cried? Experienced that thing where you are bouncing off one another and it works because you are all in synch and it gets funnier and funnier?

As for doing things only to be able to talk about it, that is all also a pretty miserable view. I’m sure there are people who are like that given the rise of social media etc, but millions of people don’t use social media and just travel, or do things, and have experiences as part of life and having fun.

I very much have always wanted children and love being a Mum! I dunno I was just born that way.

I have no interest in fancy cars or designer stuff. I probably have sufficient money to buy them but cannot see the point. Plenty of better things to spend money on!

Children.
A new car/a fancy car.
To go running.
Days out for the sake of days out.
Road trips.

I do like my big house which is way bigger than necessary for two people but I'm not interested in stuff for the house. Don't care about fashionable decor, ornaments, having things that match, colour schemes, new kitchens. You get the gist.
I like my house clean and completely clutter free. I like empty surfaces except for plants. I've thrown away 1000s of books and much prefer the space.

I’ve never wanted to go to or attend
Parties
pubs
clubs
hen weekends
works get togethers
festivals of any kind
xmas markets.
bbq’s
alcohol

I’ve had to do all of them in the past because of family and friends but I dread them they are so draining and such a faff.

but also I’ve never been interested in
fancy cars
matching furniture and decor
expensive jewellery
holidays where all you do is sit in the sun drinking.
branded products

I don’t feel so bad about myself now!