Things you never wanted that other people struggle to understand

[Notallwantit]

Hi all thought id start a thread on this to see if therer is others out there.
I read on MN about driving, buying homes marraige ect, and we get posters that have a rant at the next about why you dont want theses things.

So what things did you not want or have that outsiders just dont understand.
For me its the following.
I never wanted to own a home, drive a car or even learn to drive, also never wanted to get married either.
And never wanted children.
I have no interest in any of it, however some cant get there heads around it.

Oh and designer stuff. What's that all about? £1000 or more on a handbag? Ridiculous dresses and uncomfortable shoes by Sawyoucoming and Ripoff?
Nah!!!

An other one for me is botox and fillers, ive seen them with it and it ages them faster than life its self.
Any face creams that swears it can turn back time never seen the point in it.

I started a similar thread yesterday but worded the aibu so poorly 😄😄

Mine is a house, but more specifically a garden

Films

Films, far too boring and long.
I haven't been on holiday for many years and don't want to.
No to jewellery, nails and expensive hair cuts.
Not interested in fashion and dress to please myself.

I never wanted a wedding. I am married but we didn’t have a big do and I never wanted one.

This.
Really don’t get dogs and cats.
I am a teacher but not at all ‘left wing’ as appears to be compulsory on MN
I like my family but don’t get all the obligations re Xmas etc
My front door is often actually open so no issue with people arriving unannounced

Handbags. I missed the start of the handbag era and just don’t get it.

i was only able to leave my first husband when I fully accepted that he didn’t want children and never would. It was completely alien to me that anyone could genuinely feel like that. I developed to the point of really understanding and respecting it. But loving children isn’t a pyramid scheme or weird in any way.

I've never wanted to drive. I have no interest in flash cars
I don't like alcohol

A career. I wanted a job to earn enough money to live a cracking life with my husband and son, not worry about money too much and have great experiences and I don’t care what that job is and I don’t wish to ‘progress’ and I’m sure as shit not going to give my job a second thought as soon as I have left for the day. Luckily I’m able to do that.

I cannot stand playing cards or doing puzzles or crosswords

going to pubs and listening to the drivel some people speak

eating meat - cannot stand the taste

Me too. I sometimes have a holiday because I think it does me good to be somewhere different and do different things, and I do enjoy some of it. But after the first couple of days I long to be at home and feel relieved when it is over. My friends who spend much of their budget and leave on going away can't understand it at all.

Oh, beauty treatments. No thanks.

Hosting or going to parties - I hate them! Are you having a party for your upcoming big birthday Ginloving? No. I can’t think of anything worse!

Have a car. I can drive, which is useful, and I've owned two cars as I inherited them and drove them for a while. But they were such a faff to maintain - I'm glad I don't have have one anymore. DH has one which I use. I don't miss being a two car household and am glad to be uunburdened of the tax, petrol, insurance, mot, cleaning etc.

I totally understand this. I'm the same.

Going out for dinner or fancy food in
general. Same with sitting down the pub. It’s just boring. Give me a takeaway and a good film any day. Actually socialising in general I find boring, unless it’s with people whose company I really, really love. Much prefer to be doing an activity

Also, having sex with men!

This is total bollocks. I love my closet friends, they’re like family. I genuinely care about them and their wellbeing. I’ve never been jealous of them, no matter how successful they are, because I recognise that everyone is different and I rarely compare myself to other people. I also have a deep appreciation for the ones who’ve been there for me during tough times and would do anything for them

Super fancy restaurants, tasting menus.
Designer bags and clothes.
Floral tributes and fancy grave visits.

Being famous - hate attention
Driving - I just can't imagine doing it never mind enjoying it! People are like - but how do you get places?! 😂
A big wedding - it's just one day!
Same for baby showers and hen dos - too much fuss and don't see the point in them.

I never wanted a man to look after me. A man would be nice, yes, but not as a main wage earner or protector. I'm perfectly capable of doing that myself.

and I've never wanted a new house or botox. Really not my thing.

Eating meat on the bone. I just find it grim, same with seafood especially if it’s a whole fish or prawns on your plate. Also - eating meat by tearing it with your hands. Just caveman stuff.

Make-up etc. Just can’t be bothered. Workmates have had all sorts done that seem just a waste of time/money. Eyelash tints? Brow wax? Most of the time it’s unnoticeable!

Babies. Meh. Pregnancy also horrifies me.

Hot countries. I love different cultures but I shade hop, burn easy, consider suncream a necessary evil…I find heat stressful.

Black and grey cars, and when people say colour doesn’t matter as long as it goes. It does! I just don’t understand why you would choose a dull colour. It could be the best car, amazing features and cost a fortune but if it’s black or grey it doesn’t interest me at all.

New stuff. Clothes, houses, cars, tech. It freaks me out with how spoilable it looks. The only exceptions are food and underwear, and even food is better when it is a bit wonky.

I really don't like how much effort new stuff takes to keep it looking ok. I feel like it is subtly out to get me, and that I'm in a fight I can't win.

I wouldn't mind being married but I never wanted a wedding. It seems like such a lot of stress, I don't get how any of it is fun.